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I was hoping to post this week about our Save the Dates (they are turning out really cute, btw). Instead, I’m heavily preoccupied with a life curveball that was thrown our way at probably the most inopportune time. Dear BABs, I apologize in advance for the vagueness of this post, but there is a level of privacy I’d like to maintain.

Life isn’t perfect, and neither is marriage. It’s easy to get engaged when you haven’t been through any legitimate struggles together; when you don’t know how the other person steps up to the plate … or not. It’s easy to say that you’ll be there for someone when life gets rough when you haven’t really experienced any rough times with each other. In case you’re wondering, an occasional fight about who gets the remote or why someone forgot to pick up milk does not qualify as a bump in the road.

This past week has been a struggle for us, emotionally, and we’re foreseeing at least a few more weeks, if not months, of this additional stress. Timing is obviously not perfect given the various levels of stress that naturally surround wedding planning. In honesty, it has sucked a bit of joy out of DIY-ing our Save the Dates, or chatting with our florist.

While I want nothing more than for life to return to its structured, comfortable routine, I’m also finding and odd comfort in the strength we’re finding in one another. I believe we hit bottom at the end of last week, both of us trying to deal with these new circumstances in our own ways. We are starting this week with newfound confidence and strength, inspired by the other.

I hate to say that hard times make you stronger, and I certainly don’t want to wax poetic about some amazing light at the end of this seemingly long tunnel. I’m a realist. It will most likely push the both of us to our emotional limits, complete with more tears and more raw emotions. I’m not expecting anything less than that. I believe in being prepared for the worst case scenario, because it can only go up from there.

I do know that every once in a while I think about our upcoming wedding, by which time this will most likely be behind us, and the idea of “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health” will have already been a reality. A reality that we’ve conquered and escaped for the better.

Have you had a real dose of reality hit during your planning? How have you managed to get through to the other side?

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    Here’s a big HELLO to all my ladies out there bride’n on a budget! I will start this off by saying that I am super stoked to be here sharing my journey down the aisle with y’all! My name is Heather, and I am a lady who knows how to pinch a penny when it comes to weddings! I have always kind of been obsessed with the whole wedding process. Mostly because when my friends and family were all getting married before me, I saw the prices and was like, “Let’s find a way to save some cash!” So, I have helped them plan events with guest totals ranging from from 50 to 250 over the course of the years. I then was paid to coordinate a few weddings. I also became very involved in the industry photographing weddings after the photographer from my first wedding hired me, and then a few years later I went out on my own shooting weddings. (That’s right, this is literally not my first rodeo, I was married before). That whole first marriage didn’t work out, but I learned some great lessons along the way about both relationships and weddings.

    Flashing forward to the now, and the wonderful reason that I am here introducing myself to y’all. I found my unicorn! He is an absolutely amazing man. The one person out there who gets me. The man that I look at and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he loves me. I know that he appreciates the path I walked down to find him because without my past, he knows that I would not be who I am, and I am who he loves. He accepts me for all my good points and all of my many flaws as well. He believes in me and he reminds me to believe in myself. There is so much love between us, and when he nervously asked me to be his wife on Christmas Eve, I was absolutely honored to be able to say “Yes!!!”

    Real Bride Heather: ring shot

    Okay, okay, I will stop being all mushy now! Let’s get down to some wedding deets! We decided that we will be doing this thang in May of 2017. I would marry him yesterday … but in order to budget, and hopefully pay cash for everything, we decided to push our wedding out a little bit to give us plenty of time to make it work. We toyed with the idea of eloping or a destination wedding — there are some great deals to be had on cruises and destinations because I have researched them in our decision making process. Turns out, it is very important to include as many people who want to be there as possible, so the best way for us to do that is to have it locally in Georgia. It will still be pretty small, but it will be what we can afford and will include as many people as we possibly can. It will be a wonderful day filled with commitment and love. It will be the day that a new chapter begins for each of us, and I am so excited to share the process with you all!

    Real Bride Heather: US

    You can expect to see me do a little DIY (quite possibly a lot of it), find some snazzy ways to save some cash, and to look at things a little differently because that is just who I am! If my calculations are correct, you will see us throw a badass bash on a broke ass budget! I will navigate this crazy wedding experience with you, and I hope that you join me for the ride!

    Welcome to the team, Heather!

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    Faceted Wooden Ring Box by Woodstorming

    Faceted Wooden Ring Box, $90+ by Etsy seller Woodstorming Hello BABs! Today's Broke-Ass Advice post is geared toward our BABs-to-be, and maybe some BA-Grooms-to-be, too! If you've been struck by Cupid's pointy little arrow and you're itching to get your proposal on and start forever right now, I've got some suggestions for you that I hope will reduce the stress and fear of the whole…

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    Allure 2851

    Happy Thursday, y'all! I am super excited for today's CAI/GOI post because it features one of my favorite dress styles. Reader Marie commented on this previous post with: "I tried on a dress that was very similar to this one from Allure Bridals, and fell in love this weekend! I'm hoping to find something that's well under 1000, could you help? I'm in love with…

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    Photo by Shaina Sheaff

    Photo: Shaina Sheaff Photography Hindsight’s 20/20, right? Oh, it’s great to look back with all of your knowledge accumulated through experience, but when you’re in the thick of things, it can be hard to see the forest for the trees. This truism applies to planning a wedding about as nearly as anything I’ve ever experienced. You get inundated with advice: some well-meaning, some completely self-serving,…

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    matt402

    Now that the wedding is over, the holidays have passed us and Matt and I have enjoyed our honeymoon (we just got back from Disney!), my eyes are turning toward some of the leftover wedding things we have and I’m starting to wonder what I should do with them. There are some items I’m definitely just going to sell. Others I’d like to hold on to…

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    Fifth Heaven Silver Dollar Ring

    Ring available from Etsy seller FifthHeaven I can't believe January of 2016 is over! It seems like this year is flying by, and that means my wedding is fast approaching and planning activities are really starting to take off. I'm now in a super busy planning stage where vendor emails and contracts and payments are flying fast and furious. With that, comes the reality: All…

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    Sloth Love Dress by OhMeOhMyClothing

    Valentine's Day is right around the corner, and spring is about to be sprung which means it's the time of year when love, really, is all around (oops, sorry ... got stuck in a "Love Actually" moment there). The romance holiday itself as well as upcoming warmer weather means an abundance of date nights are afoot -- and what better excuse is there to upgrade…

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    Real Wedding- Penelope & Mikiya's Charmingly Creative Campground Commitment

    Credit: Emily Takes Photos Alright grooms, I'm gonna give you a quick and dirty lesson about your shirting. Don't worry — it's not gonna be that brutal. However, before we get into styling, it's important to note a few key things when the shopping for the right shirt, especially when it comes to a wedding. And while it may seem that shirts can run on the…

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