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If the new year brought you a new big step in your relationship, congratulations! We’re so happy to have you! As you jump into the world of wedding planning, know that it’s totally normal and very much ok to be feeling a little … overwhelmed about where to start, to say the least.

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If your head is feeling like a giant cloud full of tulle and fondant at the moment, take a deep breath, smile and remind yourself that this is going to be great. Then, take a look at our suggestions to get you on the right track to a sane, prioritized planning process.

Focus on the big picture.

Take some time to think about what your wedding *feels* like. Is it a big, backyard bash with all of your favorite people? Maybe an intimate cocktail party with your closest family a friends? Make sure to have open conversations with your partner about this so you can suss out any areas you’ll potentially need to compromise. Thinking about the overall size of your wedding helps with other big decisions like the venue and budget.

Identify YOUR priorities and where you’re willing to splurge.

Maybe you know exactly what you want to wear or have long dreamed of a specific venue. It could be that you really want to hire that band you saw together on a special date. If there are big ticket items that you know you’ll regret not having as a part of your day, pick them out, write them down and look into what it will cost, then start building your budget around that. It may mean spending less on other areas, but making room for the things you both want is worth it!

Check out venues and build from there.

Even if you don’t feel like the venue is the most important choice you’ll make, it’s still a good place to start. Reserving a venue secures your date and having a date allows you to book all of the other vendors you want. Venues are also likely to have rules that could end up being a deciding factor on other vendors or elements you want to include. Things like sparklers, including pets in your ceremony and pretty much anything that includes an open flame may be a no-go. It’s up to you whether the location is worth sacrificing something you wanted to have in your wedding.

Don’t put too much stock in checklists.

Timelines and checklists can be great at keeping you organized and helping you plan how to space out big purchases, but they’re not the end-all-be-all of wedding planning. If you’re the type of person who starts the day by making a to-do list, by all means, find one that fits you! Just don’t brand yourself a failure if your stationery isn’t chosen six months out. If you feel confident about a purchase at a time a great deal comes up, think of it as meant to be, regardless of whether or not a checklist tells you it’s “time.”

Above all, trust yourself and your partner because this is going to be a fun ride! Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice and find your favorite ways to share your love story.

Are you having a hard time figuring out the next step to take in your wedding planning? Let us know what has you stumped in the comments below!

  • 1/19

    #GownHunter Wanted

    It’s wedding planning season, and the team at The Broke-Ass Bride has been inundated with Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! requests, and we need a fashion-savvy contributor with an eye for detail and spend-thriftiness to help divvy out the broke-ass friendly versions of fabulous designer gowns.

    Does that sound like something you’d be super good at doing? Awesome! Here are the things we need from you, intrepid #GownHunter:

    – Be willing to commit to posting 2x a month. This is every other week, darling, and the deadline is real.

    – Know how to string a few words together

    – Be super stoked about helping brides find a good broke-ass friendly dress of their dreams, and a general love of weddings

    – Understand that we’re a baby biz, and for right now we can only compensate in high-fives, possible freebies, discounts and the potential for moving into a paid position, as well as stellar recommendations and a chance to enhance your writing/blogging skillz

    Sound like something you’d dig? Here’s how to apply:

    Put together a Pinterest board of Hayley Paige’s “Mona” lookalikes with a top budget of $800. Include 10-15 gowns. Email info@brokeassbride.com with an introduction, short writing sample and a link to your Pinterest board. Subject: #CAIGOI

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  • 1/17

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    Ladies, let’s talk accessories and all those little glitters that add to your look. If you are a tomboy like me, you may be completely out of your league when it comes to this. I know I felt like I was. I think the thing I had the absolute hardest time finding was shoes and a veil. When you’re in the bridal shop trying on a…

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    1/16

    Real Bride Ciji's Wedding Website

    My fiancé and I are social and at times private people. We enjoy both quiet and unpublicized time with loved ones as well as social media engagement and interactions. It's a healthy balance. With that being said, our wedding website needed to reflect both sides. We desired to create an informative and functional wedding website to share our love story with visitors and inform our…

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    1/13

    Tulum Ruins Coastline

    I don’t know about y’all, but I’m NOT a fan of the cold weather. Like, at all. Give me all the 70-degree temperatures and sunny days — AKA: margarita weather. That’s why, after Thanksgiving, my galpals and partner decided to escape the cold Texas rain and head to warmer weather. Destination: Tulum. You guys, BEST IDEA EVER. While our friends and family were teeth-chattering through…

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  • 1/12

    Fig Dress from BHLDN

    Today's CAI/GOI request is for a fun and casual dress from BHLDN. Reader Kate commented on this post with: "Y'all are incredible. So glad to have stumbled on these posts--have loved looking at some of the Etsy sellers you've mentioned! After a painful divorce a few years ago, I'm blessed to be a second-time-around bride, looking for something a tad more casual than the frothy…

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    1/10

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    I mentioned a while ago that we planned to use fake flowers when it came time for bouquets, bouts, corsages and decor. So that's what we did. Other than my bouquet, every other piece of flowery goodness was made with artificial flowers, and we were insanely happy with how they all turned out. We had two separate seating areas since dinner was outdoors, and dancing…

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    1/9

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    As I mentioned in my first post, I've planned to make my own wedding cake. I realize this is not an easy undertaking, and have been warned by multiple friends that this could add additional stress to my wedding day. DIYing is awesome, but making a cake is something you have to do basically the day before and can end in multiple disasters. However, I…

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  • 1/3

    View More: http://raynawooden.pass.us/cijiandtravis

    I am from Texas. Travis is from Michigan. We have different backgrounds and our own way of doing things. A year ago, we traveled to different cities to celebrate the Holidays independently of each other and it was on Christmas morning, 2015 that we decided that we would not spend another Christmas away from each other. Home is where the heart is. Photo Credit:  Rayna…

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