8/27

First and foremost, let me emphasize that I am not one of those traditional people who believe a wedding must have a theme. I know, me, untraditional? Shocking. Therefore, Daniel and I did not approach our wedding planning with the goal of creating a theme. Instead, we chose items based on our likes and dislikes, and a wedding theme naturally emerged as our planning progressed. I want to share the questions we asked ourselves with you, not only so you can understand how our “theme” evolved, but so you can use it when shaping your own wedding theme or simply sorting out the finer details.

Invitation

This is our invitation, which features our first wedding “must,” the color red. Picture taken by our friend, Teresa.
  1. What is a must?

Think about the one style/theme detail that is non-negotiable and begin there. When it came to “choosing” a color for our wedding, it was a no-brainer. I adore the color red. As in – It. Is. My. Spirit. Color. I love red so much that I will be wearing a red wedding dress. It only made sense that red become the main color of our wedding. When Daniel began the search for our wedding invitations, he searched for ones with red accents and found the gem above from Wedding Paper Divas. It gave us our secondary and tertiary colors, black and white, which we also happen to love. Easy and natural.

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These are two of our “vintage-y” centerpieces. Each table will have a different centerpiece that can be used as a lantern for our outdoor reception.
  1. What is your style?

I don’t mean your wedding style. Think about the two of you as a couple and your material belongings. Are your wardrobes full of chic dresses and sharp suits? Is your house decorated in ultra-modern stainless steel fixtures and geometric patterns? Do you love muscle cars and collect rock memorabilia? Whatever your style is in your life – let your wedding reflect that. Don’t worry about what is trendy; worry about what is you as a couple. For me and Daniel, our style is vintage with a modern twist, which is reflected in almost every detail of our wedding, simply because we let our natural style lead our choices.

Book Mark Favor

This is the sample book mark favor from FaithfulCrafter on Etsy. Ours will have a custom reading from our wedding ceremony.
  1. What are your passions?

Think about hobbies, passions and places you two share. Figure out a way to work these into your wedding aesthetics. Daniel and I both love reading and academia, so without our even noticing it, books began creeping in as a theme. First, Daniel suggested doing a reading from Homer’s The Odyssey in homage to the “long-distance” side of our relationship. Second, we bought bookmark wedding favors (with red accents and a vintage flair, of course). Then, I decided to have bouquets made from book pages (luckily, my bridesmaids are all writers and bookworms, too!). Now, I’m running with the theme and even trying to work vintage books into the centerpieces. Books reflect our passions, emphasize black and white as part of the color scheme and just plain make us excited to decorate. What’s better than that?!

Book Page Bouquet These are the sample book page bouquets from PumpkinsandButtercups on Etsy. My bridesmaids and I are having each bouquet custom made out of our favorite novel!
  1. Most importantly, what do you want?

When it’s all said and done, you don’t need a theme or special colors or even decorations if you don’t want them. Sit down with your partner and brainstorm your dream wedding. Then, figure out how you make it happen within your budget and your personal style. I can tell you from experience: once you open yourselves up to happiness, it will find you!

In the end, I guess you could say that my and Daniel’s wedding theme is “literary vintage” with a color scheme of “red, black and white.” But, really, we don’t need those labels. It’s just us.

What about you, BABs? How did you determine your “theme”? 

Kate
  • 8/26

    You might know — or maybz you don’t — that The Broke-Ass Bride is a national partner of Brides Against Breast Cancer. Because we love the boobies, we love a good cause and their Nationwide Tour of Gowns is a great source for BABs to support a good cause and find their coveted wedding frock for a great price.

    And this past weekend, the Nationwide Tour of Gowns set up shop in Fort Worth, Texas. So, with Funkytown only being a hop-skip-and-a-jump away (er, 45-ish minute drive thanks to my lovely friend Liz), I figured it would be a good time for me to go check it out live and in person, and holler at some of y’all by helping with any questions you may have and offering up a signed copy of “The Broke-Ass Bride’s Wedding Guide” as a raffle prize.

    BAB's Christen sets up shop at Brides Against Breast Cancer's Fort Worth event

    I got this ModCloth dress for the conference I spoke at in NYC a couple of weeks ago, but it’s pretty much my favorite right now … y’all, it has pockets. And it fits like a glove, even on my 5’2″ frame.

    The Fort Worth event, held at the Worthington Renaissance (OMG, guys. It’s so pretty. And they have salt scrubs in the bathroom) was a two-day event, with Friday being a VIP deal (pricier tickets but with food, booze, bigger prizes and you get the first pick of the gowns) and Saturday playing host to the regular shebang.

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    The food was good, the bubbles and cake were ridiculously good. I don’t normally dig fruit-flavored grub, but that champagne-and-strawberry cake on the right was so delightful.

    A number of brides were able to find their dresses on the first night, and the very first gal who did find her dress was gifted a bottle of bubbly by the hotel, had a mini-makeover by the gals at Mary Kay and of course was fawned all over by everyone. Which, natch, when she came by the BAB table, I had to get a pic, too.

    Bride with dress picked at BABC's Fort Worth stop

    She has a face. I promise. But for privacy sake, I blurred it out.

    Over the weekend, the Fort Worth show sold 27 dresses, which is pretty decent! I snuck into the dress showroom at one point to have a look around and see what kind of gorgeous goods were being offered up (there was a gorgeous one-shoulder Grecian-style Nicole Miller that was marked for around $730 — and retailed over $2,000). It’s a little chaotic, because brides are vying to get to the dresses before one-another, but BABC volunteers maintain a decent modicum of order.

    The Dress room at BABC Fort Worth

     

    The quality of this photo sucks. I apologize. But look at the gowns!

    And gals don’t just come for the dresses — there was a DJ, who is available for weddings, set up (with a disco ball!) to hold a dance-off and keep the energy high the whole weekend. The aforementioned ladies from Mary Kay were on hand for makeup tips and tricks and a host of local vendors were set up to offer up their services and provide giveaways. I, personally, talked to probably around 200 brides the whole weekend (theres a girl who is planning a wedding in the DFW area for around $5000 and I made her PROMISE she’d email me all the goods when it’s over).

    Proceeds of the dress purchases and tickets for entry go toward support and education services for those who have been impacted by cancer.

    If you’re still gown shopping, the BABC’s Nationwide Tour of Gowns is a great source for finding that gorgeous dress for a BAB-friendly price, and if you’ve already gotten married, please consider donating your gown (or time!) to this awesome cause — and give the boobies some extra support!

     

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  • 8/26

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    Let’s talk about booze. Because over here in the continuously tipsy British Isles, weddings and booze go together like birds of an inebriated feather. Weddings are often judged on just how much free-flowing alcohol there was, and whether anyone got so drunk as to not be able to remember the …

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    8/25

    The Bouqs -- Flowers Grown on the Side of a Volcano

    Yeah, you read that right. From the side of a freaking volcano. And you don’t have to spend a million bucks for it to be an actual thing in your life.




    Relatively new flower company based out of California, The Bouqs, makes it happen. Grown either on an eco-friendly …

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    8/25

    Because kidney stone humor is necessary, just not whilst in the ER. (image via quickmeme/google image search)

    I’ve said a few times that I don’t think that our wedding planning experience has been the catastrophic disaster that movies and pop culture led me to expect. And while I remain cautious and mildly prepared for the madness to begin in the next two months, I won’t look back …

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  • 8/22

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    Summer’s nearly over, and that means back to school sales are getting goooood. This week’s Ten for the Weekend has fun organization, fashion for her and for him, and tons of wedding decor! Happy weekend, darlings!

    The cute shop with a lot of kitsch, Quirky, is running 25% off sitewide

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    8/22

    In honor of the premier of the new season of “Doctor Who” this weekend (and because I have a serious obsession), it’s a perfect time to holler out to my Whovians and give a nod to those space-lovers out there for this Five for Friday. These are

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    8/22

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    Image courtesy of Photo Pink

    Dear Heather,

    I refuse to spend big bucks on flowers. What else could I use?

    Brittany

    Dear Brittany,

    The possibilities are endless, and I love non-floral decor. I even have a tag on my business blog dedicated to this very topic. Because I have faith …

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  • 8/21

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    Why, hello there, BAB’s! This week we are featuring another fabulous Watters gown! R.J. wrote in about “Odette” and how she just can’t get it off of her mind. Where do I begin? This dress is romantic, light and airy, ethereal, soft and unique. Did I forget anything?! Here’s what

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