5/28

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Reader Katelyn challenged the BAB team to help with her search after seeing this post:

Hi, Lisa! I about died when I read this post. I have the exact same affliction but with a different dress. It’s the Sadi gown by Rue de Seine. Baseline cost is $3,000 at the retailer closest to me. My baseline budget is 1k but I would prefer not to go over that if I can help it. I’ve tried local dress shops but they don’t have very good comparisons to it. Do you think you and team Broke-Ass can help me?

Of course we can, girl!

The Rue de Seine Sadi gown is a divine goddess-inspired georgette number with a beaded flutter sleeve, beaded waist, and loose fit. The silhouette is a romantic classic, but that sleeve detail is an utterly unique feature — quite the challenge for the #GownHunter!

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Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Rue de Seine Sadi, collection ranging between $2,375-$3,725

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Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Phoenix Capelet, $450 at BHLDN

I have a thing for layering pieces to create a personalized look for less. To create a similar look as the inspiration gown, try building your own by choosing a goddess-style gown and then layering it with a beaded capelet like the Phoenix above or one of the others below.

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Trickling Capelet, $140 at BHLDN

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Trickling Pearl Capelet, $120 at BHLDN

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Badgley Mischka Antigua Bay, $150 Rental at Rent The Runway

Goddess-style gowns often have deep-V necks (and sometimes backs), and a flowy silhouette with plenty of gathering. Sometimes they have higher empire waists, but others have a slightly lower natural waist. Fabrics will be light and airy in this style — perfect for a warm-weather wedding!

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Alice + Olivia, Mya Gathered Handkerchief Gown, $495 at Bloomingdales

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Mori Lee Voyage Wedding Dresses, Style 6766, $599 at Best Bridal Prices

(Also in white and ivory.)

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Nicole Miller Monroe Twist Gown, $140 Rental at Rent The Runway

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Theia Ruched Chiffon Gown, $895 at Shopbop

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Laundry by Shelli Segal Gown, $325 at Bloomingdales

Below are a few all-in-one options:

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Retro Grecian, Ashley BH130901, $600 at Ieie’s Dress Boutique

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Moonlight Tango Wedding Dresses, Style T670, $583 at Best Bridal Prices

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

ABS by Allen Schwartz Gown, Cold Shoulder Deep V-Neck Jersey, $425 at Bloomingdales

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Unique Prom Champagne Rhinestone Sleeveless Gown, $148 at Unique Vintage

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Aidan Mattox Dolman Sleeve Beaded Godet Gown, $595 at Saks Fifth Avenue

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Mark James by Badgley Mischka, Rhodes Harbor Gown, $80 Rental at Rent The Runway

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Impression Destiny Wedding Dresses, Style 11631, $310 at Best Bridal Prices

If you have another $200 wiggle room in the budget, one of these might meet your criteria:

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Maggie Sottero Wedding Dresses, Style Taren 4MC022, $1,139 at Best Bridal Prices

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Sottero & Midgley Wedding Dresses, Style Rosemary 4SW044, $1,198 at Best Bridal Prices

Can't Afford It? Get Over It! Rue de Seine's "Sadi" Gown for Under $1000

Maggie Sottero Wedding Dresses, Style Alicia 4MS993, $1,198 at Best Bridal Prices

Lisa’s Bonus Pro Tip: Start your gown hunt by identifying the silhouette that suits your shape and style, in the fabric that suits your wedding season, and add details by layering pieces or ask a professional seamstress to embellish — or bedazzle — your gown, if that’s your thing. (It’s totally mine!) 

Katelyn, I hope you find these gowns to be helpful in your search. Let me know in the comments below what you think, and thanks for providing the inspiration!

Got a gown that you just can’t get off your mind? We’re happy to help you get over it! Just tell us in the comments below! Please remember to include the budget you’re working with so we can find you the best alternative for you.

*As always, please do your own research before buying a gown online. Team Broke-Ass is here to provide you with inspiration and resources, but it is up to the consumer to know what they’re purchasing.
  • 5/28

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    There are two words that can strike fear, anger, frustration, and annoyance into the heart of a bride quicker than any other: Plus One. Just the other day I found myself caught up in a frenzy on a bridal Facebook page that started out as another bride requesting wording to let people know that plus-ones weren’t allowed that quickly devolved into several brides ranting about the audacity of SOME people.

    My experiences with plus-ones in the wild thus far have been very limited: a couple of nieces asked if they could bring friends from school to the wedding, and on another occasion a friend expressed surprise that I wouldn’t include a plus-one on someone’s invite because “They’re old enough that they should be allowed a guest.” I expect that once our save the dates and invites go out, we’ll be inundated with requests for plus-ones. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t dreading it. Our guest list is extremely tight because we have a lot of people we love that we want to spend the first day of the rest of our lives with and not a lot of money to make that happen. I definitely don’t want to upset anybody we love BECAUSE of our special day.

    Plus-ones aren’t quite the same as allowing your friends and family to bring someone. A plus-one is carte blanche to bring ANYONE they want. This means that someone you might have explicitly left off the guest list purposely (such as an old flame, arch-nemesis, political rival or your 10th grade history teacher) might suddenly show up in the receiving line. Some people might even feel pressured to find someone to bring with them when given the option. I can just imagine some of my friends swinging by a bus stop on the way to the wedding “Hey, want a hot dinner? I’ve got a seat to fill!” Plus ones are like the “People you May Know” of the wedding world. You may indeed know some of them and you might even like some of them … but they still don’t have  space in your friends/guest list. So … no. We’re not offering plus-ones to our guests. If you don’t have an ampersand beside your name on the outside of your envelope, you have been reserved one seat at our wedding. We’ve done our very best with our guest list to anticipate anyone that would likely bring a guest (including some friends that have significant others we don’t know so well) and included that guest’s name on the invite itself to try to avoid confusion. We’ll reiterate it further on the RSVP card and our wedding website.

    Now what if a friend approaches us and says “Hi Matt and/or Julie, would it be okay if I bring my new girlfriend/friend from school/cousin Vinny to the wedding with me? We don’t go to events without each other/they love weddings/he just got me out of going to prison for a crime I didn’t commit and I owe him a nice dinner.”

    It’s a little bit different. They’re telling us a specific person they’d like to bring with them and giving a reason they think that person should be added to the list above and beyond simply wanting to have someone on their arm when they show up. Should a guest would make a request like this, chances are we will have been told others will regretfully be unable to attend our wedding. We may have some wiggle room to say yes or no as a result. There are a couple ways this could go, but it has to start with a conversation between the two of us. Matt and I have built our relationship on the cornerstone that while we might fight and disagree, we are always on the same team. Part of that means we can’t make a decision like this without coming to an agreement with one another. This is especially important in this situation because we’ve both made concessions on the guest list as it is. We’ve had to take people we love and care about off the list due to monetary concerns, and we have back-up lists of guests if people decline.. It’d be kind of a slap in the face if one of us made a decision without the other.

    I’ll admit, I’m somewhat inclined to say no to most requests of this nature. Chances are if I left your significant other off the list, is because I don’t know them or you haven’t been with them long enough for me to feel comfortable with their cameos in my wedding photos. The last thing I want is for a friend to look back on our celebration with pain because of who their plus-one was (it happens). When it comes to people bringing friends, I think I’d remind them of the people that will already be there that they’re friends with. There might be a few people that only know Matt or I, but we will reach out to them ahead of time to make sure they feel comfortable, and maybe even introduce them to a few of our other friends. (And if you owe someone a meal because of free legal help … there’s a very nice McDonald’s right down the street.) All that said, it is a case-by-case issue and is very much dependent upon how much flexibility we find ourselves with once the responses are all tallied up. It could be moot if we find ourselves with a packed house. So there’s that.

    One thing I think is important is that we have to try and not be too upset by friends approaching us. It’s easy to get frustrated with people when planning a wedding. You’ve got a lot on your plate and sometimes a simple question can feel like somebody is putting more pressure on you at the worst possible time. They’re also asking you to alter something you’ve likely deliberated over very seriously. It sounds weird to say it like this, but our guest list is meticulously curated for a reason.

    Regardless, they aren’t inside your head. You’re the one who knows about your wedding and its intricacies, and they likely don’t know that you’ll respond in whatever way you respond. Many don’t know the extra burden just one additional guest can create. They may have never planned a wedding themselves, or had the good fortune of not having too many constraints on their guest list that allowed them to hand out plus-ones like Oprah gives away new cars. It might have taken a lot for them to approach you.

    Be respectful and courteous in return. Be honest and don’t leave them hanging. They may be upset, but hopefully if you approach them with kindness and understanding it will soften the blow a bit. Be firm about your decision once it’s made. It might not be easy. Respect your decision, and theirs if they decide not to participate in your celebration.

    Are you handling plus ones/added guests in any special way? I’d love to hear it!

  • 5/27

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    Our friends over at GiftBasketsOverseas.com emailed us with this awesome infographic on wedding day traditions and superstitions. From wearing white to tossing the bouquet to not seeing your betrothed before the wedding ceremony, wedding traditions are long-held standards that seem to be falling by the wayside in modern-day I Do’s …

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    5/27

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    First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the realization of all of the traditions that come with it. From wearing white to tossing the bouquet and cutting the cake, there are many “rules” that brides and grooms are expected to follow on their wedding day, some dating back to …

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    5/26

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    We have talked a few times about saving money on your bar by cutting down to beer, wine and a signature drink. And sure, your signature drink could very well be whatever you and your beloved love to throw back from time to time (moi? Old fashioneds, all the way), …

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    I am a bit of a nail nerd. I am totally obsessed with nail art, collecting polishes and playing with nail accessories. I have a collection of over 90 nails polishes sitting neatly in a nail polish wall rack display I bought on Amazon (only $35!). In turn I have …

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    5/25

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    For Mother’s Day, my mom and I went away for the weekend.  We had nice time, and chatted here and there about the wedding. While we don’t argue, I will say we are totally not on the same page. We aren’t super close, my mother and I. We aren’t estranged,

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  • 5/22

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    Memorial Day Weekend is kind of the unofficial ushering in of summer. Barbecues, parades, graduation … the warm months have arrived! And if you’re anything like me, that means getting thee to a body of water as frequently as possible to beat the heat (or hangover … I swear it’s …

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