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Photo: Clane Gessel via Bella Signature

We at BAB were sooooooooooo excited about the Supreme Court legalizing same-sex marriage (#LOVEWINS), we decided to do an article especially for the boys (who like boys).

It’s possible you’ve been secretly worried about how a wedding looks without a bride. Well, you can thank The High and Heavenly World of Pinterest, because there are so many options you’ll get the spins. The thing is, you can celebrate your gay wedding the same as a straight wedding — any way you fucking want. Once you’ve figured out the type of wedding you’ll plan (A traditional wedding in a gay-friendly church, a rustic wedding in a barn, a drag queen wedding under a disco ball — the world is your oyster), then you can figure out the outfit situation. I’ve listed a few options I found that could easily be affordable and fit a range of occasions from formal to more casual.

*Quick Note: Just because we mention the guys here doesn’t mean we’re limiting these options to groom/groom weddings. These are also awesome options for ANYBODY —women included — that want to rock a suit or tux.

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Photo: Moodeus via A Vote & A Vow

Contrasting Suits: What a great way to keep things formal without doing flashy tuxes. It also allows the grooms to choose their own accessories and leaves things a little open-ended for the wedding party. Plus, every guy looks sexy in gray.

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Photo: Kate McElwee Photography

Dare to Pattern: Soooooooooo slick! Doing a solid/pattern combo in a single tone keeps these guys looking really put together and takes formal to an unexpected place. And seriously, if you know BAB, you know we love an element of surprise. One last thing about this idea: Another reason it works is because they kept the accessories mild and matching in color and texture. You could probably get away with adding a little more pizzazz, but be careful.

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Photo: A Brit & A Blonde

Matchy-matchy: You guys, when all else fails, just pick a palette and Sadie Hawkins that shit up. This can actually be a good option for a couple reasons. One, if you’re looking to do a quick ceremony, this is the ticket. Since you’ll be looking for the same thing for both, you’ll save time hunting around the mall. Second, sometimes buying items in pairs can save you a few bucks (be on the lookout for Buy One/Get One sales)! You can see they ditched the jacket and went with a bright tie, kinda like this one.

Grooms with Mixed Accessories

Credit: DeAwna McGinley Photography via Chicago Style Weddings

Accessory Play: How dashing are those grooms? I would only dare to mix accessories like this if everything else was neutral, and these two do just that but in a really bold way. Otherwise, you might end up having a carnival wedding, which, though memorable, might not be quite your end goal. But I like the mix here. You could even do some fun socks.

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Photo: via Passion for Flowers

Do you love a good ascot as much as I do? Well you should. You can’t really see the whole look from here, but I do like how they did matching suit tones in different patterns, paired with an unexpected neck accessory. Also, I’m in love with those boutonnières.

Where to Find These Looks

Traditional
DessyTuxedo

Simple Gray Suit
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Patterned Suit
CombatantGentSuit How are you coordinating your wedding day looks? Tell us in the comments below!

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    Name: Jessica Knowles and Andrew Long

    Occupation: Jessica – Sales and Marketing Manager for Housing Company; Andrew – Landscape Designer

    Wedding location: Brickyard at Riverside Golf Club, Macon, Georgia

    Wedding Date: May 16, 2015

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Budget: Around $15,000. The amounts below add up to around $20,000, however my parents paid about $15K, I paid for photography, hair/makeup and rings. Groom’s family paid for his tux and some of the flowers and some alcohol.

    How would you describe your wedding: A truly magical day!

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    What was your favorite part of your wedding? Bride: Walking down the aisle to Andrew, it was like time stopped and it was just me, Andrew and my dad. For me, one of the most memorable parts was the moments when my dad and I were standing at the head of the aisle waiting for the music to start. Once it started, he asked me when we should go and I just said “I’m ready when you are.” Other memorable parts were saying our vows — I remember vividly the “with this ring, I thee wed.” For guests I guess the memorable parts were probably our groomsmen Austin’s little words he spoke about me and Andrew as a couple and advice for us.

    Groom: Us looking at each other doing our vows.

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    What did you splurge on?  The biggest expense was the catering and alcohol.

    What did you save on? Hands down the invitations — We had wanted to DIY to save money but it ended up getting extremely complicated–last minute we got them on Vistaprint with a 40% coupon for $160!! That’s a invitation and RSVP card and envelopes for both. They were gorgeous!

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    One money saver was finding a private alterations person instead of doing it through David’s Bridal. We only paid $175 for alterations (bustle, sweetheart neckline, hemming multiple layers and taking in around the waist) whereas the David’s Bridal consultant said alterations are generally around $300. A big money saver was not having a lot of flowers. The only ceremony decor we had was two urns of flowers at the end of the aisle.

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Also — if you don’t have an Amazon Prime membership, sign up and get the 30 day trial free (just make sure you set up a reminder to cancel otherwise your card gets charged).I ordered a TON of stuff off Amazon and got it all within two days — I was so thankful! Some Amazon purchases include Hersheys Kisses, hangers for dresses, tissue paper for hotel bags, gift boxes for bridesmaids shirts and glitter paint for champagne glasses.

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

     

    Was there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect?  I think the only thing we wish we had done differently was serve ourselves dinner. The head table was served a little bit of everything from the buffet but we both wish we had gotten our own plates so we could have had more of what we specifically wanted.

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    What was your biggest challenge in planning?  The biggest challenges was the guest list — we should have had a final number allotment for each side and cut it off after that instead of allowing it to fluctuate.

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? Don’t overwhelm yourself with tons of DIY projects! I’m so glad I didn’t!

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    What was the best piece of wedding advice you received? Enjoy every moment and stick to your guns about things that are really important to you.

    Any other bits of wisdom? It was important to me to incorporate as many family heirlooms as possible. I wore my maternal grandmother’s pearl necklace and my parents had earrings made for me that had amethysts that belonged to my paternal grandmother. My bouquet was wrapped in my paternal grandmother’s scarf. My family heritage is English/Scottish and it is tradition for wishes to be read aloud at the reception from family who were unable to make the trip.

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    SONY Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Vistaprint coupons all the way — there are often Groupons for Vistaprint and I used them to get bridal shower thank you cards, wedding thank you cards and invitations. Getting a day-of coordinator was the best decision EVER!!! Ours was absolutely amazing. Don’t feel like you have to spend hundreds of dollars. Ask around churches to find someone who is experienced and is willing to just do it on the side.

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Hack: instead of floral centerpieces on tables we had rose petals sprinkled on the tables and it gave such a romantic feel. It was only $45 for all the rose petals and there were tons leftover.

    Tip: One of the things I was complimented on the most was the program, I made it myself in Publisher but people loved that it listed a timeline for the evening and the menu so people knew where to be and when. It was really helpful to have a big turnout for the sparkler send-off because everyone knew what time it was at!

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Photo by Andie Freeman Photography

    Budget breakdown?

    Total: Approx. $20,000

    Venue & Caterer: Approx. $2,000 and $6,500

    The Brickyard at Riverside

     

    Cake Art: $500

     

    Photographer: $3,500

    Andie Freeman Photography

     

    Hair & Makeup: $300

    Amanda Jane Salon

     

    Dress: $700

    Galina by David’s Bridal

     

    Groom’s Attire: $150

    Vera Wang from Men’s Wearhouse

     

    Bridesmaid Dresses:

    David’s Bridal

     

    Floral: $900

    Lawrence Mayer Florist

     

    Music: $1100

    Milligan

     

     

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    And now to quote the immortal words of Soul II Soul: “Back to life, back to reality, back to the here and now.”  Nick and my’s wedding was so amazing, and our honeymoon to the Pacific Northwest was absolutely perfect.

    That’s what made it that much harder to come back …

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    6/29

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    Isn’t funny how you can think you have something figured out, and then suddenly you see a picture and everything changes?

    It’s the reason why I strongly believe that you should do your best to stop looking at wedding dress pictures once you’ve chosen one — that’s how some people …

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    6/26

    Marriage Equality




    In a monumental and long overdue decision today, the U.S. Supreme Court declared that love is love, and everyone has the legal right to marry.

    DAMNIT, you guys. This is fucking big.

    I was a teenager in Wyoming at the time Matthew Shepard was beaten and left to die …

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    Hello BABs! You’ve been keeping us on our toes with lots of requests and comments – and we love it, so keep ’em coming! And if you’re a BAB that we were able to help Get Over It, we’d love to hear your story and know what you picked! (Pics …

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    6/25

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    I haven’t considered myself single for many years. Matt is pretty involved in all parts of my life, except for maybe work, and we’ve been considered part of one another’s families for basically our entire adult lives. There’s one major thing from my singledom that I may eventually find myself …

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    6/24

    Real Bride Shannon considers her options for her Arctic Excursion Honeymoon

    There is an enemy lurking, waiting to put a damper on your wedding plans. His name is X, as in, “Oh, great, there’s a big ol’ X on this vendor’s calendar where our wedding date is supposed to be.”

    It happens. You have money in hand, ready to book that …

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  • 6/23

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    Oh man, it’s like Christmas in (almost) July, you guys. Our love, BHLDN, has graced us Broke-Asses with their Big Summer Sale, knocking down prices on some of your very favorite gowns (uh, helloooo Persiphone) and accessories. While BHLDN always has a pretty stellar sale section, this event …

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