Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding planning

8/28

So we are exactly a week away from our wedding date and just like when I got engaged, everyone keeps asking me the same questions.

Are you getting excited?

Are you nervous?

I nearly dropped kicked my poor father in the throat yesterday for being the 634876506 person to ask me that.

Cutting out monograms for dad handkerchiefs

No, I am not excited. I am on the brink of having an anxiety melt down honestly. No I’m not worried about getting married or spending my life with Michael or anything that dramatic. I’m more just pacing back and forth anxiously with my clipboard backstage, triple-checking with my stage hands to make sure everything is in place before the curtain rises.

Completed Dad Handkerchiefs (and grandpa and best man)

My mother is not doing a single thing to assist in calming my anxiety explosions. She insisted that she wanted to get the officiant for the wedding as she did not like my first choice person. Fine, whatever, not worth a battle. Fast forward to now, a week before the wedding and she STILL DOES NOT HAVE A PERSON. Yep, did you just hear the record scratch and audience gasp of horror too? Mom and I both work in financial aid in colleges. I get that it is her busiest time of year, but it wasn’t a few months ago. She has had a very long time to do this and simply has not. *grinds teeth*

Gift boxes I made for all 12 of the handkerchiefs

Mom and I went to Sam’s Club yesterday to get a ton of supplies we’ll need for the wedding like coffee cups, bowls for the ice cream, soda, etc. As we are standing in the aisle that has the disposable chafing dishes and I’m getting ready to put more pans in the cart, she clears her throat and declares she has changed her mind and wants to rent them instead. *pinches bridge of nose*

This was a Saturday.

Most rental places are closed on the weekend. I am getting married in seven days. You decide now you want to try to rent something for Labor Day Weekend? *begins counting as high as I can in Japanese and then German*

Applying Vinyl to Bridesmaid Cups

It’s the tiny little bits of chaos like this that are causing me to eat TUMS like candy. I overcame one of my giant hurdles last night and tried on my dress again. It fits, mostly. I’ve been much more active in the past few months as the new job requires walking about three miles a day. I’ve lost 26lbs since April. My last dress fitting was in maybe May or June. The dress is a tiny bit loose on top in the boob area but my mom and sister insist that it doesn’t look bad and it’s all in my head how very loose it is. On some level I know they are just trying to have me calm down and get me to embrace something that I couldn’t change even if I wanted to. Hopefully they are right. As I look out at the barren field where I sow all my fucks, I realize I have had no more to give for quite some time.

Finished Bridesmaid Cup

I’ve been working like mad the past few days finishing up the last of the wedding projects. I finished making all the handkerchiefs for the dads, made gift boxes for all the boys pocket handkerchiefs, finished the cups for the girls, and several other projects. Getting things done and being able to check them off the list is incredibly calming. I know that by Wednesday, whatever is still not done is simply not getting done. It helps calm the inner freak out. These tiny moments of zen are what will get me to the wedding day. I’ve started making a point of telling people in the office to warn others off asking me if I’m excited. The next person to ask very well may find my foot lodged in their throat.

Have you reached this point in planning your wedding yet?

  • 8/24

    I decided to collaborate with my Groom for this post because why not?! He’s involved in this process too. So here are the top 10 things we’re most looking forward to on our wedding day:

    Megan’s List:

    1.  Being married.

      It kinda already feels like we ARE married. We live together, we plan finances together … but I’ve heard that there is a shift. Also, there will be a huge weight off my shoulders/brain because we won’t be planning a huge event. A little less #MEGANZILLA? Time will tell.

    2. Hearing Timo’s vows and saying my own.

      … those vows that I haven’t yet written …

    3. Our first dance.

      We’ve been going to dance lessons and everyone better be super impressed with us. I really love the song we’ve picked out and I’ve only told a few people what it is.

    4. Having our families together.

      Timo’s family is coming from Germany and my family is coming from North Carolina and despite potential language barriers, I think it will fun getting to hang out with everyone.

    5. Wearing my dress.

      My dress is the one surprise for most people, but most importantly, to Timo. I’ve shown a few people photos of my dress, but it looks most awesome in person.

     

    Timo’s List:

    1. Seeing my wife in her dress for the first time.

      No explanation needed here. 🙂

    2. Taking beautiful pictures to keep the memories on that day alive.

    3. Having a good time with family and friends.

      I haven’t seen many of them since our last visit to Germany in June 2016.

    4. Not having to think about the wedding anymore and all the planning involved.

    5. Finally, fully being the [MegMo] family, because I love our family. <3

      (Timo actually wrote his last name, but internet security is a thing, so I took some editing liberties … #sorrynotsorry)

     

    When I was drafting this post, I didn’t discuss my list with Timo and he didn’t discuss his list with me. He just emailed me his five  things.
    I’ll admit that I giggled several times reading his list because 1) we had very similar answers, 2) He called me the “w” word, 3) Timo had such good answers!

     

  • 8/22

    My wedding is two weeks away and I have never felt such a flurry of emotions! Despite some stresses, however, the excitement is definitely in the forefront as we near the final countdown. In the spirit of lists, here are a couple related to my big day. 10 things I am most looking forward to: 10. My university friend group, which has been scattered across…

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    8/17

    Hi again BABs!  Today we bring you a bridge in love with a unique sparkly gown. Reader Natz Hay commented on this post looking for her dream gown: Thank you for what you do! I just discovered your site and it's helping me figure things out since my recent engagement. I have fallen in love with the Galia Lahav - Bella dress but the pocket…

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    8/4

    Reader Maya emailed looking for help finding and affordable gown: Hi, I really love the dress Inca by Grace Loves Lace, but can't spend $3000 on a dress, I'm trying to keep it under $500. Is there a knock of it that I can afford? {sic} Thank you! The Inca gown is a gorgeous all lace gown with long sleeves and an open back.  It appears…

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    7/24

    After I got engaged, I spent a lot of time day dreaming about what my wedding might look like. I imagined the ceremony decor, reception centerpieces, flowers, and so on, but I never imagined a theme. I always thought themes were for proms, birthdays, and holiday parties, but a wedding … not so much. Themes can be beautiful and fun … for someone else. I…

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    7/13

    Good morning BABs! Another bride has fallen in love with the style of designer Berta's gowns, and CAI/GOI is here to help! Mandy J wrote on this post asking for help: Absolutely in love with Berta style 15-101 (long sleeves, backless, godet train, geometric inspired details). My budget is $3k and under. Thank you!! Happy to help, Mandy! Berta has a unique modern, yet romantic style,…

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    7/6

    Download available from Etsy seller WhiteFeathersDesign I will admit, I am not on online shopping. I prefer the "touch and feel" shopping experience! On the other hand, when your time is limited, you need to buy a gazillion items and you are looking for the best deal, online shopping becomes your best friend! I've secured some awesome deals and sharing is caring, so here are…

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    6/23

    Happy Thursday, BABs! Today’s CAI/GOI request is from reader Jenny, who is searching for a Rue de Seine “Haze” look-alike for under £1,000 (approximately $1,300) and available in the UK. She writes: “Hi, I really love Rue de Seine's Haze dress but only have a budget of max £1000. Do you know of any similar but cheaper dresses out there & available in the UK?…

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