Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding Decisions


After I got engaged, I spent a lot of time day dreaming about what my wedding might look like. I imagined the ceremony decor, reception centerpieces, flowers, and so on, but I never imagined a theme. I always thought themes were for proms, birthdays, and holiday parties, but a wedding … not so much.

Themes can be beautiful and fun … for someone else.

I have to admit that I did see a lot of cool and fun themes on Pinterest, and I toyed with the idea of having a beach themed wedding… for about 30 seconds. Themed weddings don’t have to be cheesy, and they are perfect for some couples, but the idea made me feel like my hands were tied. I felt like my options were limited and I wanted the freedom to be creative and be able to incorporate our styles and personalities into all aspects of our wedding. So, I decided that instead of picking a theme I would choose a color scheme and one or two decorative motifs to give the ceremony style and continuity.

How many shades of pink are there in the world?

My sister bought me a wedding planner for Mother’s Day that contained a sheet of cardstock with different colored tiles that you could punch out. Best idea ever. I could easily create different color combinations with the cards, and make a list of the combos that I liked. No muss no fuss. Obviously, the planner didn’t have every shade of color, but it had enough to get my creative juices flowing. If the planner had come with too many options, I would have been overwhelmed.

Sorry orange and green, but you ARE the weakest link. Goodbye.

I knew right off the bat that I didn’t want anything to do with orange or green shades. They are perfectly fine colors, they are just not for me and never have been. My first thought was to do something classic. So, I combined blush and white and threw in a soft gray for an accent color. Next, I thought it would be nice to do two or three shades of one color and then throw in a white or ivory as an accent. So, I decided on shades of pink, purple and blue. Finally, I thought it could be fun to go with bright colors that popped, and so I chose vibrant shades of pink, purple and blue. After mixing and matching for a while, I came up with five options that I liked and focused on narrowing that list down.

Decisions, decisions, decisions.

I tried to imagine my ceremony and reception decked out in decor in each of the five color schemes that I put together and immediately I was able to cross off the pink, purple and blue groupings. The more I thought about it, the more I felt like having various shades of the same color was a little too boring for me. So, out they went. Now, it was a grudge match between classic elegance and exotic beauty. Both options were gorgeous and provided me with all kinds of decorating ideas. I felt like I had a winner with each color scheme, but I kept going back to the blush, white and gray. As fun as the other combo was, I couldn’t picture myself surrounded by decor in those colors. Whereas I could easily imagine myself surrounded by blush flowers, crisp, white linens and silver/ gray accents.

And the winner is …

In the end, it was no contest. I decided to go with the blush, white and gray. It is a timeless color combo that always looks great together and never goes out of style. Plus, there is a little something for each of us. The pink is beautiful and feminine for me. The gray is sleek and manly for my fiance. And the white ties everything together. Perfect — well, it’s perfect for us. Once I made the decision, I ordered some card-stock samples and fabric swatches to see my choice in action. I was not disappointed. The colors look great, and I can’t wait to start coming up with decorating ideas.

Okay Pinterest, I’m ready for you now!

How did you settle on your wedding colors? Did you know what you wanted going in or did it take some brainstorming?





  • 3/1

    … I am still on the hunt for a florist, how about you?

    The original plan was to keep the flower plan simple: bouquets and boutonnieres only. Well that plan is not realistic! Who was I kidding? I love fresh flowers and buy them weekly to decorate my house. A minimal flower presence at my wedding was a silly idea. What was I thinking? 

    Real Bride Ciji Floral Event

    I attended a floral event/book signing in hopes of being inspired

    I started looking for florist in December 2016 and I am still looking. I’ve hit one roadblock after another but I still have hope! Here’s how you can avoid my mistakes:

    • I started talking to florists before I had a decor plan. The thought was that I could share bits and pieces of my vision and they would tell me what to do, that hasn’t happened … yet
    • Be open to suggestions but not all suggestions. I don’t really want mother’s corsages and I should stick with that decision without being influenced by tradition and florist feedback
    • Talk it out! I have so many ideas in my head and so many pictures on my Pinterest page but what I need most is to talk thru my vision. I’ve tried not to be a burden my friends and family with all of my wedding talk, but I need to get over that and I have a plan. More to come on that plan in a future post! 
    • Be gentle on yourself! Nothing’s worse then the feeling of wasted time. When I realized that it’s taking me almost four months to check this box off my list, I was two minutes away from a meltdown. I’ve had to give myself pep talks and encouragement. It’s your big day, it’s ok to take your time and get it RIGHT! 

    I am confident that I will be able to share soon a status update on my floral decor plan, stay tuned! 

    What have you been running into massive roadblocks with?

  • 6/19

    When it comes to bridal accessories, I am having a bit of an identity crisis. Mostly due to my severe addiction to Etsy browsing, but also due to the fact that I am torn between styles. I am not what you might call traditional and tend to have kind of funky taste in accessories. And as someone who staunchly refuses to adhere to an adjective…

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