Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding Cliches

10/31

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The word cliché is the last word you want to use to describe your wedding. But the fact of the matter is weddings are full of clichés because they are time-honored traditions.

Most weddings have a number of similarities since they consist of traditional elements that are largely shaped by religion, law and cultural norms. Some brides buck tradition, but even the most unconventional couples work in a few of these incredibly awesome wedding clichés.

Wedding Sparklers

At one time throwing rice at the bride and groom as they made their big exit was the trend. However, pictures of the couple dodging pellets didn’t make for the best photo ops. Today people are using festive wedding sparklers instead. These are specific sparklers for weddings and add a fun element as well.

Sending a couple off in a sea of sparkles became popular about five or six years ago. That’s when people started to see specialty made, long sparklers that guests hold to create an arch of light for the bride and groom to walk through. Needless to say, this now cliché trend has staying power because the photos look amazing.

Wearing White

Brides are starting to branch out from wearing solely white on their wedding day, but walking down the aisle in a colorless ensemble is still the norm. Wearing a white dress isn’t really a matter of choice for most brides, but rather it’s a symbol rooted in tradition that dates back to Queen Victoria’s wedding in 1840.

Way back in the day, wearing white on your wedding day signified a woman’s purity. In other words, it represented virginity that would soon be a distant memory (although it probably already was). Despite the newfound acceptance of pre-marital sex, the vast majority of wedding dresses are still white. Today, most brides simply consider the color to be symbolic of the event, not their virginity.

A Whimsical Veil

Most brides have no idea why veils are part of wedding day attire, but they wear them anyway. Maybe it’s because we have so few opportunities to show off fancy headgear these days.

If brides knew the real reason why this tradition was started, they certainly wouldn’t consider a veil to be a necessity. Veils were first worn by ancient Greeks and Romans who thought it would protect a bride from evil spirits that were jealous. We’re not sure who was putting evil spirits on the guest list, but we’ll gladly take advantage of our one opportunity to rock a veil.

Towering Wedding Cakes

Really you only need one reason to splurge on a huge wedding cake – it’s delicious. Another reason couples still make cake a feature of the reception is because guests expect it. You can always save a little on the main course if you provide guests with a huge chunk of wedding cake at the end.

There’s also the cake cutting tradition that isn’t possible without something to cut. Just be sure to get a few pointers from the baker before the wedding. Towering cakes have been known to topple over or collapse because they were sliced into at the wrong spot. Another delicious tradition that isn’t possible without a cake is freezing the top tier and eating it on your one-year anniversary.

June Nuptials

June has been a popular month for weddings since calendars were first created. These days it’s a top pick because the weather is relatively nice, and it’s easier for families to travel since kids are out of school. Originally, Roman couples got married in June because Juno was the goddess of marriage and childbirth.

A DJ That’s Obsessed With Classic Jams

After you’ve been to a handful of weddings it starts to seem like there’s a DJ manual that guides the music selection. At first, you tap your foot lightly to the familiar tunes and settle in for the typical wedding reception playlist. But after a few glasses of Champagne, you find yourself out on the dance floor.

That’s why classic jam DJs are so great. Even if the setlist is a little dated, guests young and old know the music. The songs are classics because they’re awesome to dance to, and that’s the DJ’s top priority.

Today a lot of brides are bucking tradition and doing their own thing, which we fully support. But if you enjoy certain wedding traditions there’s no reason to feel pressured into avoiding them so your ceremony doesn’t come off as cliché. Embrace the traditions and put your own twist on them so they’re more meaningful and special.

 

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