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Picture this: You’re well-versed in rom-coms and you’re full of ideas for personalized vows that you’re sure will melt your partner’s heart (and probably your mom’s, too). Weeks and months pass, and now you’re a week out from your W day with a recycling bin full of rejected vow drafts. What’s a Broke-Ass to do???

Let’s back it up a sec. Writing your vows can seem scary — especially if you’re experiencing comparison-itis after having just watched some lovey-dovey wedding scene that left you in a puddle, with or without Channing Tatum. (One of my favorite wedding scenes of all time, y’all.) Today we’re going to take the fear out of vow writing, Alton Brown style!

From a purely structural standpoint, vows are simple — and binary! YAY, MATH. If you can count to two, and follow two simple steps, then I promise: YOU GOT THIS.

Before You Get Started: Tips For Writing Your Wedding Vows

  • Know that you don’t have to write your own vows. You can follow your officiant’s script and never think up, write down or remember a single word. Only write your vows if you’re moved to do so.
  • Sometimes, due to poor acoustics, lackluster sound equipment or an inability to squeak out audible language in the moment, the couple can’t be easily heard by guests while speaking their vows. Bottom line: Your vows are for yourself and your partner. (And of course the officiant legally has to hear you both say “I do.”) Don’t stress about your vows, and don’t worry about what others might think. But do keep them PG-rated.
  • Talk about it with your partner. Will you write your vows separately, and surprise your partner? Will you write them together? Will you both repeat the same vows (traditional), or will you each write different vows (nontraditional)?
  • Start with a template. (We’ll get to that in a sec.) Whether you’re writing them together or separately, it will help if you choose a template so you’re on the same page.
  • Get inspired. Surround yourself with music, poetry, photos and things that remind you of your partner.
  • Use the medium that suits you. Type it out, write it longhand, record a voice memo or video on your phone or paint it on a canvas. The more relaxed and creative you are with your medium, the easier it will be for the words to flow.
  • Remove distractions. Choose a place where you’ll be uninterrupted and turn off your phone.
  • Leave out the inside jokes and embarrassing details, but feel free to share funny moments from your past. Your vows don’t have to be all serious.
  • Keep your vows short and sweet. Two short paragraphs — or two minutes — is plenty! Two Steps, Two Minutes. You can handle that, right?!
  • Finally, practice speaking your vows out loud — over and over again until you feel comfortable enough to almost go without the paper — and then print out three copies (one for the officiant, one for yourself and a backup for an attendant to hold in case something happens to your copy). Even if you don’t need it, the printed version will be like your security blanket.

Writing Your Vows In Two Steps

Step 1: Write About The Feels

Directly address your partner by name, and say something genuinely awesome about who they are. Name some reasons why you love your partner and why they give you All The Feels, All The Time. Tell them you love them.

Step 2: Write Your Promise to Your Partner

This is the really important part. It’s the part where you say out loud what you are committing to your partner. Each couple and relationship is a little different, but don’t be afraid to use traditional commitment phrases here if it suits you. If your ceremony is religious, this is the section where you talk about how your beliefs will shape your marriage. In this section you can talk about the ring or symbol you’re using to represent your commitment — or not. (It’s usually the point in the ceremony when you would exchange rings.)

Sample Wedding Vows

Quirky & Creative

(Partner’s Name), you are my unicorn. You’re beautiful, compassionate, smart and spirited, and you show everyone around you a kindness that is pure and magical. Loving you makes me better … makes me sparkle. I love you, and I’m so excited that I get to do it forever.

I promise to love you no matter what, and to surf life’s calm or crashing waves with you. I’ll always have your back, and when it’s my turn to lead, I’ll be your shield. I promise to love, respect and support you in every way, every day, for all time.

Classic & Minimalist

(Partner’s Name), every day I’m grateful to know and love you. You are patient, kind and generous with your love. I am the luckiest person in the world to be standing next to you today, and to be sharing a partnership with you.

I promise to be your friend and equal partner in all things, through all life’s celebrations and challenges, and to be a faithful and loving wife for all the days of my life.

 

So what do you think of the Wedding Vows 2-Step? 

– Party on!

 

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  • 11/19

    Full disclosure: I’ve been waiting to do this Words to Wed By, and really, it could be FOREVER long. Kids, man, they get all the good shit — toys, clothes, books that have wise and sweet words nestled nicely inside. It must have something to do with the inherent innocence and lack of jadedness. There were many more readings that will be awesome for your wedding ceremony that I wanted to include, but these are just a few of my favorite excerpts pulled from awesome books (that are supposedly for the little ones).

    Words to Wed By Excerpts for the Kids At Heart

    Credit: 50Peach’s Instagram

    From “Winnie-the-Pooh,” by A.A. Milne

    “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.” 

    “Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh?” he whispered.
    “Yes, Piglet?”
    “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” 

    “I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart for so long. If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time.” 

    From “Charlotte’s Web,” by E. B. White

    “‘Why did you do all this for me?’ he asked. ‘I don’t deserve it. I’ve never done anything for you.’
    ‘You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte. ‘That in itself is a tremendous thing.'”

    From “Peter Pan,” by J. M. Barrie

    “You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That’s where I’ll always love you. That’s where I’ll be waiting.”

    From “Oh the Places You’ll Go,” by Dr. Seuss

    “You’ll get mixed up, of course,
    as you already know.
    You’ll get mixed up
    with many strange birds as you go.
    So be sure when you step.
    Step with great tact
    and remember that Life’s
    a Great Balancing Act.
    Just never forget to be dexterous an deft.
    And never mix up your right foot with your left.”

    From “Your Personal Penguin,” by Sandra Boynton

    I like you a lot.
    You’re funny and kind.
    So let me explain
    What I have in mind.
    I want to be your personal penguin.
    I want to walk right by your side.
    I want to be your personal penguin.
    I want to travel with you far and wide.

    From “I Like You,” by Sandol Stoddard Warburg

    I like you and I know why
    I like you because you are a good person to like
    I like you because when I tell you something special, you know it’s special
    And you remember it a long, long time
    You say, Remember when you told me something special
    And both of us remember

    When I think something is important you think it’s important too
    We have good ideas
    When I say something funny, you laugh
    I think I’m funny and you think I’m funny too
    Hah-hah!

    I like you because you know where I’m ticklish
    And you don’t tickle me there except just a little tiny bit sometimes
    But if you do, then I know where to tickle you too
    You know how to be silly – that’s why I like you
    If I am getting ready to pop a paper bag,
    then you are getting ready to jump
    HOORAY!

    I like you because when I am feeling sad
    You don’t always cheer me up right away
    Sometimes it is better to be sad
    You can’t stand the others being so googly and gaggly every single minute
    You want to think about things
    It takes time

    I like you because if I am mad at you
    Then you are mad at me too
    It’s awful when the other person isn’t
    They are so nice and oooh you could just about punch them on the nose

    I can’t remember when I didn’t like you
    It must have been lonesome then
    Even if it was the 999th of July
    Even if it was August
    Even if it was way down at the bottom of November
    I would go on choosing you
    And you would go on choosing me
    Over and over again
    And that’s how it would happen every time

    What are you reading during your wedding ceremony? What inspired you?

    christen
  • 7/8

    We are almost exactly one month away from our big day. Basically I am in a perpetual state of panic. I wish that I was not working and instead spending every day at thrift stores buying adorable wedding- related things. Unfortunately I am instead working from 8:30-5:30 and spending my evenings making lists of things I don’t have time to do and resisting the urge…

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    4/11

    The weekend is upon us, so before you bust out your shopping shoes and grease up that debit card, take a gander at the 10 rockin' deals I found for this week's Ten for the Weekend! Whether you're aching for some killer Cole Haan pumps or scheming ways to share your wedding photos, there's surely something her to strike your fancy! 1. Make sure your…

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    2/10

    Coming up with a meaningful wedding ceremony from scratch proved to be quite the challenge!  We ended up using many sources...traditional Christian ceremonies, literature we both loved, inspiration from wedding blogs, and my amazing Grandfather/officiant.  In the end, I'm so so so happy with how personal and emotional our ceremony was!  Here are a few highlights! We used "Sigh No More" by Mumford and Sons…

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    5/11

    I'm an odd chick.  For many, many reasons that I won't get into... but there's something about me that always surprises people when I tell them... so here it is: I have terrible social anxiety and stage fright, yet my favorite thing in the world is the feeling I get from (successfully) performing in front of a crowd of people. I am horribly afraid of…

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    4/6

    I have lots of strong feelings about weddings. I don't believe they should result in debt. I do believe they should be a celebration of your personalities, and sing with details that say something about your love. And generally, I don't believe there are rights or wrongs in weddings, because really ... who are we to judge what's right for you, or the next couple?…

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