Broke-Ass Tag: wedding budget

8/8

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It has come to my attention that I may be a cheap-ass rather than a minimalist. Earlier this week, a friend called me in a crisis asking me for ideas on favors she might be able to do for another friend’s bridal shower. She was out of time, trying not to spend a lot and trying not to put forth that much effort. Other than being proud of myself for being the person she called to help her brainstorm on how to meet all those objectives, I was befuddled and admitted:

“I’m not even sure we’re doing favors for the wedding.”

Nonetheless, like a good friend, I hopped on Pinterest and we had a quick brainstorming session. Of course, I got some ideas for things we could do for favors, but all I kept coming back to was, “How much are those going to cost?”

Now, we, as a collective group of Broke-Asses can appreciate the self-reflection of “how much does that cost?” But I’m wondering if I’ve taken it too far. I’m wondering if my refusal to pay for “trivial” things (favors, an aisle runner, chair covers, most everything in any article with a title that includes “must have”) is making me look more like a cheap-ass and less like an economically-minded minimalist.

I think this also falls back to my last post about being an anti-bride.

I never dreamed of my wedding day as a girl. I did indulge in college with my suitemates on a $10 Knot magazine and we all took turns flipping through it and earmarking pages with all the pretty things we liked on them. But that was pretty much the sum of my “wedding fever.” I can’t say I didn’t have “groom fever” that may have been mislabeled as “wedding fever” — a common misconception, IMO. But since Timo proposed, my approach to all things wedding has been to be as practical as possible.

Part of me wonders if I will regret not splurging more (more, as if we aren’t already spending $10,000) and “investing” in the little things. But when I seriously think about it, my final thoughts at the end of the day are that I’d rather save money because we’re probably just going to forget about trivial details and be able to actually invest our money into memories we will have on our honeymoon … like diving the Great Barrier Reef.

Do people actually care about favors?

Side question: How many coozies is it socially acceptable to own? What happens to discarded coozies? Is there a coozie heaven? Why are coozies so popular?

Also, I am making it a point not to get caught up in the hype of all the MUST DO things. I don’t care about a sit down meal and as Timo said, I’d rather serve delicious food than overpriced “good” food. I don’t care about putting our wedding hashtag on everything. I don’t care about chair covers. I don’t care about table numbers or place cards. I don’t even care about a send off, despite knowing how cool some of the photos could be if we used glow sticks or sparklers.

At the end of the day, I want to be married, maybe have a few good pictures by my very well-paid photographer (OK, wayyy more than a few based on how much I’m paying him), maybe video evidence that we wrote our own vows and promised “for forever” and have gotten to eat the BBQ and cupcakes we are paying for. Oh yeah, and maybe to have a few adult beverages and not completely fail at the first dance we are paying to learn.

This is where my groom comes in.

If he cares about these things, I tell him to act on these tasks, otherwise, it becomes a money saving opportunity.  For now, I’m going to cling tight to my title as a Broke-Ass Bride and use it as a cost-savings opportunity.

PS. I swear that if he tells me in the next three months that he wants to do coozies as a favor for our guests, I’m going to throw the coozie drawer (yep, there are so many they have their own drawer) at him … with LOVE.

 

  • 6/12

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    Earlier this month, it was the one-year anniversary of the day he proposed. Not to sound cliche, but I cant believe how much time has flown since then. We’ve also hit the three-month countdown until the wedding and that is an incredibly exciting and yet terrifying feeling.

    While we have all of our gotten our vendors booked, deposits paid, dress fittings and hair trials booked, wedding bands ordered …

    I have this constant creeping feeling that I should be planning at every spare moment I have.

    What should we serve at the rehearsal dinner?

    What kind of favors should we have?

    How should we organize the tables?

    Its a disconcerting feeling at the best of times, its extra intrusive and annoying when someone such as myself is, lets say, trying to focus on something like writing her master’s thesis.

    I don’t concentrate well to begin with. All these random details flying around my head have me feeling like I’m constantly spinning. Part of me just wants to sit down and bang out the details from start to finish, but unfortunately, my fiance doesn’t share my sense of urgency, and I think we’ve only received back about 15% of our RSVPs. Dang.

    I’m guessing these situations are part of the reason why some people might hire a wedding planner.

    Speaking of things I can’t afford …

    Holy smokes, are we ever over-budget.

    I remember the days of innocence, where I was baffled by the idea of a single event costing tens of thousands of dollars. This is partially our fault for failing to do research beforehand. When we drew our budget up initially, I just massively spitballed what I assumed things cost based on previous experience: For example, I used to work at a flower shop when I was in undergrad. I remember mid-size floral arrangements costing about $50-$75 (CAD). Therefore, I assumed my bridal bouquet, at approximately the same size, would cost roughly that. I’m not proud to admit this, and I’m assuming everyone who’s reading this right now is laughing at the sheer naïvete of my assumption. You can bet your collective asses that the lowest estimate I got for my bouquet was more than double that. So naturally, in the end, our entire floral budget was more than double what we thought. Oops.

    Thankfully, we were able to make some cuts, like requesting smaller centerpieces, and eliminating the flower girs’s floral crown (as adorable and Instagrammable as it would have surely been, she’s 4 years old and it would have been pulled off and trampled on the ground in a matter of seconds). Our relatives were also able to lend us some money to cover the additional costs. Thankfully, all is not lost, and we can adjust.

    Word to the wise: Don’t rely on what you think you know — do some research!

    There are entirely too many helpful websites (like this one *wink*) available to help you make an informed decision.

     

    How’s your planning coming along? Share in the comments!

     

     

  • 8/17

    Dollar Sign Lighted Marquee available from Etsy seller TLNFunctionalArt Russel says I should start and end this post with "Everything." I'm not gonna do that, but I will confess that the title should probably say "Things *I* Am Spending Too Much Money On." Several of our wedding elements that are super important to me happen to be somewhat pricey. I knew that going in, and…

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    7/26

    Ah, the craft store ... for the DIY couple, it can start to feel like a second home. There are paints and paper, ribbons and trim and if you really start looking, you may start to realize that a lot of this stuff is really expensive. When it comes down to it, craft stores and the supplies therein are usually marketed towards women. If you're…

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    7/11

    So, I am sitting here thinking ... Remembering my parents' wedding story. It was a sweet, simple, small elopement with a cake-and-punch reception that they planned in my grandma's house without my grandparents knowing. By the time my grandparents got home from work, my parents were off on their honeymoon with a note left behind. I heard stories of and attended countless small, simple weddings…

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    5/30

    Printable Beatles Quote available from Etsy seller hellosugarmint Previously, I posted about scoring a great deal (AKA free) on a venue for our wedding. One of my closest friends had offered to let us use her property for our wedding day celebration. Turns out that as the housing market begins to rebound in this area, she is going to start the process of getting her…

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    4/29

    Badgley Mischka Always and Forever Belt, $50 rental at Rent The Runway So you have wedding money!!! What do you do with it? How should you prioritize your budget categories? The second rule of BAB-dom is this: Spend your dough on the things most important to you (and your partner). The first rule is to make a budget and refer to it often. That's it! But…

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    8/19

    Available from Etsy seller AncientWisdomBuddha I was reading the other day that experts expect gas prices to start falling along with this leaves this autumn. It has something to do with the mix of oil and gas that they use in the fall vs. what they use in the summer, along with a bunch of political factors. This might not seem super relevant to wedding…

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