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12/23

Happy Holidays from Team Broke-Ass

Hey BABs! Whew, what a year! We had some great times, some hard times and some just flat out rad times. Huge things happened near and far — from the very scary to the very wonderful (hello, marriage equality!) in 2016. There were amazing Real Weddings; some seriously rad DIYs; riveting, overwhelming and always relatable Real Bride Stories; and sage, on-point advice from our stellar wedding pros. Behind the scenes, Christen got married and had a baby and our book is still climbing the charts.

Because it’s been such a good (and insane) year, we’re giving ourselves a little break over the holidays (because we earned it, damnit). Though we won’t be posting any new content to the site until after the new year, we will continue sharing some of our favorite stories, inspirations, how-tos and real weddings on our Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest accounts. But don’t worry, we’ll still be around, prettifying things on the back end, collecting perfect nuggets of wisdom and adding your Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! requests and Broke-Ass Advice pleas to the calendar.

We’re also searching for some new Real Brides and Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! shopping gurus! If you’re interested in either, email info@brokeassbride.com with a little info about yourself and for Real Weddings, about your wedding. If you’re interested in CAI/GOI, send us a link to a Pinterest board with one designer gown and your get over it offerings! Put #TeamBrokeAss and either Real Bride or CAI/GOI in the subject line!

Thank you all for helping to make this year as un-freaking-believable as it was! We hope your holidays are filled with love, wonder, glitter, unicorns and general badassery.

xoxo!

christen
  • 12/1

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    Yay! You’re engaged! Welcome to the wide world of Wedding Land. It can be a little scary and a lot fun (and don’t worry, we’re here to help you through all of it), but before we even delve into All Things Wedding, let’s take it slow, boo.

    Getting engaged and being afficanced is this magical world between being coupled and being legit married. People get REALLY excited for you … and then they’ll have A. LOT. of opinions and “advice” for you (I use the latter lightly, because some of it is so not helpful). But before you get lost in piles of magazines, websites, tulle and cake (so much cake), let yourself really truly enjoy this time before the wedding planning gets under way and while you can still bask in the glow that you know this is your forever person and they feel the same about you. Here are The Broke-Ass Bride’s Top 5 Things to Do After You Get Engaged:

        1. Don’t Tell Anyone … If You Can Help It.

          You know how sometimes it can be really fun to keep things under wraps? Sure, your best homeboys and homegirls probably either know or are dying to find out and your folks might need a little heads up, but don’t take to social media quite yet to show off that sparkler or proclaim your engagement from the rooftop. Bask in the glow, because the second you start telling people, the second you’re going to start getting wedding planning questions that you probably haven’t even thought of, and few things will dull that engagement sparkle faster.

        2. Take Care of Your VIPs.

          Make sure the very most important people in both of your lives know before the whole world does. I guarantee Mom is going to be legit pissed (within reason) if she finds out from Aunt Mildred that you got engaged. When you’re ready call them or meet them in person if you can. They’ll likely have questions (when, how, etc.) but those don’t have to be addressed right away. Just give parents, siblings, super close friends and perhaps grandparents the courtesy of being the first to know. They’ll appreciate it (and it’ll save you some grief).

        3. BDV (Budget, Date, Venue)

          Before you even THINK of looking at invitation suites and attire, you gotta take care of these three logistics. You really, honestly can’t even make a damn move without figuring out what budget you’re working with. And don’t just pick a number out of thin air — think hard about it. Sure, $15K might seem doable, but consider how much “extra” money you really, honestly earn each month and whether you’ll be able to stash that much away without putting too much of a dent in your social life (you’ll want your social life during planning to help keep you sane) or hindering any other day-to-day aspects. Sure, there may be offers of help from family members, but I recommend figuring out what exactly you and your partner can afford without anything coming from anyone else. Next, consider your date and / or venue — these two are very often intertwined. If you have a specific venue in mind, consider booking for offseason (varies by location) or off-day (any day but Saturday) to defray costs. If you’re adamant about the day — especially during the summer — start contacting venues to see if they’re available.

        4. Divide (or Don’t) and Conquer

          Not all partners are into wedding planning. I’ve seen weddings where the groom has had considerably more say / done more than the bride, I’ve seen weddings where both grooms gave ALL the shits and did everything hand-in-hand and I’ve seen weddings where no one really cared at all, as long as there was a photographer, some bubbly and great company. Figure out where you and your partner fall — do they care about stationery? Venue? Dessert? Food? — and tentatively choose tasks based on those lists. There will be changes down the line, trust me. Nothing needs to be set in stone. It’s good to get a rough draft of what you both want, inquire as to the possibilities, suss your budget and assess from there. If it turns out that you care way more about craft beers than you thought you did, take that on as a team. But don’t let the whole process be one-sided, because that’s no fun.

        5. Celebrate

          No, seriously. Stock some bubbly in your fridge for whenever you get that oh-so-giddy feeling. Let someone throw you an engagement party (or throw it your damn self)! Get a manicure, take engagement photos, use it to your advantage at dinner (you can do this for about a week or so. Any more than that is just kind of selfish.) and allow yourself to be pampered and thrilled about this time. After all, you worked hard to get here! Relationships take work, and committing yourself to another person can be scary and thrilling at the same time. Revel in it, yo!

    Congratulations and welcome to the party! We do hope you’ll let
    The Broke-Ass Bride accompany you on this journey. We love being able to provide sane, sound and savvy advice to couples who really just want to rock a badass wedding on a broke-ass budget, no matter how that looks to you!

    christen
  • 9/16

    Guys, I've been sitting on this news for over 2 years now, and I'm SO THRILLED to finally get to share our secret. This fall, FYI network will be airing a 2-episode Broke-Ass Bride TV special!  (It actually experienced a commando airing last Sunday morning, too. And if you are here because you saw that show ... WELCOME!) But the fancy official premiere will be…

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    9/9

    If  you dig the wedding blogging world and want to dive on in, c'mon! The water's great! We're looking for a few good newbies to join the fun and be a Real Bride (or Groom!) contributor for The Broke-Ass Bride! Blog about your family dramz, dress twirlz, DIYz and all the other fun stuff, and share it with our schamazing readers. Share how you're making your…

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    8/18

    Less than 7 weeks out from my wedding to Paul, and I'm struck with how very different this time around has been, in every possible way. Illustration by Astrid Mueller Let's recap the last wedding: 31 years old Together nearly 7 years by the time we wed Engaged after 5 years 20 months of planning 100 guests Well-defined theme Location we had no connection to…

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    6/4

    Hey you! Yeah, you! Do you spend your days thinking about weddings, dreaming up different themes, schemes and gorgeous details? Can you easily get lost in the pages of gorgeous bridal magazines or scrolling through wedding blogs? Do you have a Pinterest board(s) dedicated to various ideas and styles for the big day? Fantastic! We need that head-in-the-clouds kinda gal as The Broke-Ass Bride's new…

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    6/24

    We've hinted, you've waited, and we're finally ready to open up about a big secret! We've been slowly but surely talking with producers and TV networks about getting The Broke-Ass Bride on a TV near you!  Pinch my ass, cuz it feels like a dream, yo!  It's a long, slow road filled with unexpected bumps and potholes, but there's a stunning view on the horizon…

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    8/13

    You know how sometimes, you just have to try something unreasonable on, so you can see how bad/ill-fitting it looks and "Rule it Out"? I used to think I wanted a Claire Pettibone dress. The Juliet, to be exact. I couldn't afford it, but it didn't stop me from wanting it. I dragged my mom while she was in town for Christmas, to try it…

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