Broke-Ass Tag: stationery


Modern RSVP card available from Etsy seller EmmyPaperie

Every wedding planning book, blog, article advises that you should set your RSVP date for one month before the wedding. It seems to be a logical request. Most important vendor deadlines require that you confirm your final head count at least one month before the wedding. Let’s re-read that last sentence, “at least one month before the wedding.” I highly doubt that your contract says that you can ONLY submit your headcount 30 days before the big day, the words “at least” are very very important.

Attendance numbers are important which is why I asked that my guests RSVP 12 weeks before my wedding date, here’s why:

I’m not just feeding my guests, I creating a guest experience.

I need to know how many chargers to buy, how many table linens to buy/rent, how many centerpieces to create and how many bottles of booze to buy.

We need more than 30 days to make adjustments.

Our final headcount can make or break the decision to have a four-tiered cake or a two-tiered cake, and as a courtesy to our cake baker we can actually give them time to make just what we need.

I’ve never missed an RSVP deadline, said no one ever.

Someone will forget to go to the wedding website and RSVP. Someone will misplace the RSVP card and once found, mail it back well past the deadline. Someone will text you and say they never received the invitation. Someone will mess up your perfectly planned timeline to finish up your seating chart. Do you know how you can remain calm, cool and collected?  Give yourself the gift of time!

Hand Stamping & Getting the Invitations Ready to Be Mailed

Have you ever been to a wedding and noticed all of the leftover food and the uneaten cake that is being boxed up for a family member to store while the newlyweds honeymoon? I know your answer is yes –because we all have. The minute that I began planning my wedding I declared that I would NOT be that newly minted wife, who out of the corner of my eye noticed all of the leftovers.

The joyful reaction will the most definitely be there when your guests receive their invitations, regardless if it’s six months or four months before your wedding and you will burst with joy when you have all of your RSVPs in and you have enough time to make budget savvy decisions.

Just in case you were wondering, for my summer wedding, the Save the Dates hit everyone’s inbox in early December and the invitations landed in mailboxes in April with a May RSVP deadline.

How much time are you giving your guests to RSVP?




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    Affiliate Disclaimer NewSteampunk Notepad from Etsy seller OldWaysFussnFeathers
    Steampunk Notepad, $13.50 from Etsy seller OldWaysFussNFeathers

    Hey dudes, do you remember way back when people used to have giant desks and write letters to each other all day? Major #fbf, I know. There are some of us out there that still practice this ancient art form, believe it or not. Though there’s the ease of sending an email or setting up a Facebook invite, there’s nothing that has quite the same amount of value as receiving a hand-written letter or card in the mailbox. For grooms, letters can be a great way to ask your groomsmen to be in your ceremony, to send personal announcements and for sending thank you cards after it’s all over. Stationery also makes for a mature, personalized gift for the true gentlemen in your life.

    Surprisingly enough, there’s a lot of print options out there, with options to even have your own custom items. I’ve rounded up some of my favorite places for business cards, postcards, stationery all all kinds of other things you can use to personalize your letters.

    Elegant Marble Personalized Stationery from Minted
    Elegant Marble Personalized Stationery, $50 for 25 from Minted

    Dapper Dude Stationery from Etsy seller TheFinePrintPaperie
    Dapper Dude Cards, $12 from Etsy seller TheFinePrintPaperie

    Beer Lover Stationery from Etsy seller WhatACardCards
    Beer Lover Cards, $12 from Etsy seller WhatACardCards

    Initial Stationery from Etsy seller ShopKellyRenay
    Initial Notepad, $20 from Etsy seller shopKellyRenay

    Moo Business Cards
    Printfinity Business Cards from Moo (prices vary)

    Typewriter Notecards from Etsy seller TheGentlemansStudy
    Typewriter Correspondence Cards, $18 from Etsy seller TheGentlemansStudy

    What do you think about writing cards and letters? Any places you favor that I didn’t mention? Share your favorites in the comments below with or with #brokeassbride on Instagram and Facebook.

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    Wedding planning can bring up a lot of unanswered questions. Charms available from Etsy seller TimeandMaterials It's been a busy month! At the beginning of December, we visited our venue for a tasting event. They organize the event as a mini bridal show, so some local vendors also attend. We had lots of delicious food and met some great vendors. We actually had a really…

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    I have to say, I’m pretty proud of how my wedding invitations turned out. I didn’t realize invitations were even something I cared about ... until I did. Here I had come up with a whole big list of priorities and not-so-importants to try and be sure that I properly focused my efforts, limited funds, and time, and suddenly I realized super late in the…

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    There are things I don’t miss about wedding planning: the seemingly endless hunt for affordable vendors, the DIY materials and 24-packs of craft beer piled up all over my living room, and of course the anxiety dreams where I show up to the church on my wedding day having forgotten to buy a dress, but it doesn’t matter because all my guests forgot it was…

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    Long weekends are often a treasure trove of sales and deals, and what better time is there for a Broke-Ass to score some killer discounts on wedding-y shizz? No better time, damnit. Because us savvy shoppers have to stick together. I've been watching my inbox fill up with the notifications of Labor Day sales, and I've been saving them just for y'all. Here are some…

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    As I and many of my fellow Real Brides will tell you, DIY is a great way to save some dollars. IF you're crafty. IF you know where to get supplies on the cheap. IF you've got buttloads of free time. I tossed around the idea of designing my own save the dates, but when MagnetStreet was running a great sale (and they do that…

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    Credit: Bright Fizz Photo I downloaded one of those wedding countdown apps a few weeks ago out of curiosity. Just how many seconds were left until we said “I do?” My biggest shock though came in realizing that, duh, January to June is FIVE months, not six. We had missed the six month mark, when I told myself that I’d have to actually start making hard…

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    Happy Friday, everyone! I'll be traveling to Charlotte, N.C., in the morning for a meeting with some of our partners and to see a friend, and Dana and Paul are officially on the second leg of their epic honeymoon tour, chilling in a great hotel in Seoul. But I'd never take off without leaving you with some great deals and discounts to help you kick…

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