We are almost exactly one month away from our big day. Basically I am in a perpetual state of panic. I wish that I was not working and instead spending every day at thrift stores buying adorable wedding- related things. Unfortunately I am instead working from 8:30-5:30 and spending my evenings making lists of things I don’t have time to do and resisting the urge to drink until I pass out. As much as I would love to spend this post making every reader vastly uncomfortable or typing “everyone elope!” 500 times — instead, let’s focus on vows.
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Vows are hard. You know why you love your almost spouse, but saying it meaningfully in front of everyone you know is a lot of pressure! Not to mention that you have to choose if you’re doing the traditional vows or if you’re writing your own.
I knew from the beginning that I wanted us to write our own vows — they’re more meaningful that way, right? As I looked for inspiration for my vows I started to get scared about Michael’s vows.
What if I put a ton of time and effort into mine and he was just, “Jess –I love you, you’re my best friend. The end”?! Or didn’t write anything at all and then it was just this unrehearsed ramble? Or our vows just didn’t go together?
That said, I decided to give Michael (and myself) a fill-in-the-blank. Now, I know that as a generality Mad Libs are not very romantic, but this seemed like the best option. This way I can make sure that our vow structure is similar, but I’m not telling Michael exactly what to say. He’s still free to tell me (and everyone), in his own words, why he loves me.
Now I know you’re at least a little bit curious what this Mad Lib vow structure looks like so here it is:
– I fell in love with you …
– [Something about you] makes me want to be a better man/ person
– So today I promise that I will be yours in sunshine and in rain
– In times of plenty and times of want
– In sickness and in health.
– And that you will be mine in times of war and in times of peace
– In old age and in youth
– You are [description] and I want to spend the rest of my life [blank]
(Somewhere in there a quote about love)
And then my vows will be the same (minus the “better man” part).
So ladies — what have you done or decided to do about your vows?