Broke-Ass Tag: personalized wedding

7/7

Affiliate Disclaimer NewContinuing to work with couples long after my I Dos have been said, it’s easy to get this feeling of, “Ah, damn! I wish I had done something like that!” From impossibly cute to just downright creative, I’m constantly amazed by how inventive and fun the couples I get to work with through Little Wedding Extras can be. Now that we’ve put away three weddings in the past month, I’ve got to share some of the great things that we made happen … but only because there was an amazing couple with the ideas to get it started.

Your Exit Isn’t Limited to Bubbles or Streamers!

Shakin it

Real talk: most venues won’t let you toss anything anymore, and as pretty as sparklers are, most cities have dropped a big ol’ no on them. One musical couple picked up a bunch of mini tambourines so the guests could shake and cheer while they made their big exit. To top it off, they had a trumpet and trombone player follow them out! I was also a huge fan of the wording they chose for the sign letting people know to grab one — “Thanks for shakin’ it with us!”

Centerpieces Don’t Have to be Flowers.

dinosaur centerpieces

These little Jurassic warriors made awesome decorations for the outdoor reception in late June. Since they were easily portable, guests took them home and got to enjoy them after the wedding.

They Don’t Need to be in Traditional Vases if They Are.

Katie and Jordan mini terrariums

Each guest table at Katie and Jordan’s wedding featured a different style centerpiece made from succulents, herbs or greenery. These mini wine glass terrariums were a hit with guests when it was time to take a piece of the decor home!

You Don’t Need a Theme and it’s Fine to Mix it Up!

Ryan Rosie welcome table

Ryan and Rosie had an “Up” themed poster for guests to sign and used the sweet handprint mailbox to collect cards, but the rest of their decor was simple, fun and totally separate from the theme. Adding an element you love here and there without using it to style your entire wedding is always OK! Have fun and let your creativity be your guide!

Religious or Cultural Elements Can Always be Beautiful.

Katy David Chuppah

For Katy and David, a chuppah was an absolute must for their traditional Jewish ceremony. Religiously, it simply needs to be four poles and a canopy (although many couples use specific religious elements to create the symbol of their future home), so we went all out in designing a gorgeous birch and organza canopy with floral accents that complemented her bouquet and other arrangements.

Weddings are all about you as a couple. If it isn’t perfectly uniform and matchy-matchy, it’s still a wedding! Let the things you love in your life and your relationship play a part in the day, and don’t be afraid to let your personality shine, because there is no right and wrong when it comes to celebrating the day they way you want!

  • 4/6

    I have lots of strong feelings about weddings. I don’t believe they should result in debt. I do believe they should be a celebration of your personalities, and sing with details that say something about your love. And generally, I don’t believe there are rights or wrongs in weddings, because really … who are we to judge what’s right for you, or the next couple?

    A really bad-ass post by my friend Emily at Eco-Chic Weddings (& Good with Style) reminded me that one of my strongest feelings about weddings is something I’ve not posted much about… yet.  In the spirit of continuing where Emily left off …

    Love Heart Made With Hands At Sunset_

    Your wedding isn’t just one day. It’s no carriage-gonna-turn-pumpkin at midnight, people. It is the beginning of your life as a married person. As a couple. As a team. It’s kinda like, your wedding is like the ultimate New Years Eve. Out with the old … and in with the new — resolutions vows and all. Heck, there’s even usually Champagne toasts and kissing involved! It is not about expense. It is not about purchases, or timelines, or gratuity envelopes. It is not even about beautiful dresses and photographers and music. It is about you, your partner and your love. It’s the beginning of a new phase of life, but now you’ve got a buddy who wants to be there every day with you. PS: how freaking rad is that?!

    It goes lightyears beyond what kind of partner you want to be to your mate. If you haven’t already, now is the time to decide how you want to approach life together, as a unit. Whether you’ve been together for 5 minutes or 5 years, it’s up to you to decide what the next 5 minutes or 5 years or 5 decades will be like (beyond the to have and to hold business). This can be so fun (and it doesn’t cost a single dollar)! Look back at your relationship, and think about what elements you can infuse into your wedding design and your ceremony, as reminders to yourselves and to communicate to your posse, the kind of life you’re creating together.  So … eff tradition and let your unorthodox light shine, if old-school ceremony doesn’t suit your style. Or revel in the ritual of convention and history, if that’s what makes your heart sing. There is no right or wrong, as long as you’re being true to you. So be straight up with yourselves and don’t compromise. This is a rare moment in our adult lives, in which you really get to set yourself up for the future you dream!

    When we wrote our ceremony, we were hellbent on making it extremely personally unique, and wanted to really use it to set up the life we want to forge together. If we were going to make a solemn, lifelong vow to each other, we decided it was best to put everything into words and actions that personally embody our priorities as  a couple.  And it went beyond the vows to each other. We invented symbolic gestures to replace ones that didn’t resonate with us, or we borrowed inspiration from others and made it our own.  The Internet is rich with cool people who’ve designed personal and rad weddings, and we made good use of their legacies.

    At the top of the ceremony, we invited our guests to join in a group blessing, to commit to support and protect our relationship — and then continued their involvement with a ring warming ceremony. We wrote personal statements to each other, and customized our vows completely, looking boldly at our strengths and shortcomings, weaving in ways to keep us strong, grounded and connected. We also dedicated a section of the ceremony to making vows to the universe — pledging to be conscious caretakers our Earth and her people, and to lead by example in an effort to help others find a way to greener, kinder lives.  Later, our guests showered us with compliments about our ceremony. Many said they’d never been to such an unique or personal wedding, and they absolutely loved learning about us through the event. The best compliment we heard all night? “It was so YOU!”

    The same can (and should) apply to your design. Let your spirits sing, yo! Some of your guests may never have met you before, or perhaps the last time they saw you, you were rocking Pampers. You’ve invited this specific group to witness your marriage, so what do you want your wedding to say about you, and how can you include your guests?  Have fun with it, and see how many ways you can infuse what makes you YOU into the day.

    And please, lets not underestimate the valuable life lessons hidden in the wedding planning process. If you’re self-planning, there are some badass skills that you’ll acquire that can easily be applied to your life in ways that you’ll never imagine! From budgeting and negotiation, to creativity and design, to research and logistics, don’t just abandon all those useful talents you’ve been building up once you reach the end of that aisle!  Use them to make your life better, easier, more fulfilling, and sweeter, every day!

    Every couple has a different personality. A different set of priorities, or personal doctrines, by which they lead their lives. So why should your wedding be a one-size fits all, fill in the blanks script or design?  Let your wedding day serve as a reflection of and  launchpad for your life, and live its lessons every day, for as long as you both shall live.

    How will you use your wedding as a launchpad for your life? What life lessons will you take with you?

    Dana
    The Broke-Ass Bride
  • 2/23

    Finding a unique wedding cardbox to fit our theme was a difficult undertaking. As much as I love the classic mailbox, vintage luggage and the sweet birdcage ideas, they weren't quite right for our theme. I searched high and low to find something unique, exciting and memorable that spoke to us - but when I stumbled across For The Modern Bride I knew I had…

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    2/9

    I have a question. How do you time out your processional music, if using popular tunes?I mean, as it stands, we're thinking of using 1 song for the bridal party/families, and another song for my grand entrance.Our aisle is probably all of 20 seconds long to walk.So, how does it work? Do we fade it out when its time to switch tunes and then fade…

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    2/6

    .....Was on TV last night!Check it out - I edited this to exactly his scene. Look for his handsome, hand-crafted afro-puff (courtesy of moi!). I'm so proud of him.... I could just burst!Its fascinating, how accomplishments for one of us, become pride-filled events for both of us. It reminds me that relationships (and especially marriage), are a melding of much more than hearts, homes, families…

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