Broke-Ass Tag: Lisa

10/14

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Cash Wallet by BlackArrowStudio

Cash Wallet, $56 by Etsy seller BlackArrowStudio

I’ve been wracking my brain to come up with some truly epic wedding advice for you, BABs. This being my last advice post for The Broke-Ass Bride for the moment, I’m feeling some (self-imposed) pressure to get it right! ? I hope you enjoy it, and remember that you can always reply in the comments or email BAB directly with your questions.

It’s been my honor and pleasure to write for The Broke-Ass Bride and to answer your wedding planning questions and concerns, and I hope to bump into some of you out there in Weddingland! ? For now, I leave you with good vibes, best wishes for a happy wedding and marriage, and the following final tips:

Talk About Money

We talk a lot about gowns (yay!) and reception food (NOM) and pretty little details (:swoon:) during wedding planning. We talk about all the feels. And we talk about savvy ways to save on wedding expenses. But today my advice is to talk about the much bigger money picture with your partner. The wedding can be a yuuuuuuuge expense, to be sure, but how you navigate expenses going forward into your marriage is also kind of a big deal. We’ve all heard that money is one of the things married couples fight about most often, so raising the topic sooner than later will set you up for success. Do you have debts? What are your spending habits like? How do you budget for expenses? Will any of that change when you’re married? Will you share accounts, or keep them separate? How will you divide expenses? Do you expect to discuss all major expenses together, or will you make those decisions independently? Who will manage the bills? All of these questions — and more — are important to talk about with your partner, and if you’re paying in full or part for your wedding you may want to start talking about it now. Once you can come up for air in the wedding planning department, schedule a budget planning party with your partner, and hash out what your post-wedding budget will look like.

Save For Your Future

Leading up to the marriage there’s a lot of spending: buying things for the wedding, buying things for your home together, and maybe even buying things for a baby (or furbaby!) on the way. #ProTip: Don’t forget to also save. As soon as the two of you have figured out how you’ll tackle expenses and shared (or not) accounts (see above), it’s time to come up with a plan to save for your future — for medical bills, vacations, retirement, school tuition for yourselves or kids, a new house, etc. Have fun dreaming up a future together, then create special accounts where you’ll sock away money toward those dreams. You’ll be surprised how quickly the spare change adds up!

Invest In The Marriage

Once upon a time, marriages were transactions about money or power. We’re lucky to live in a time (and place) when love and choice reign, and partners are chosen for compatibility and companionship, when we get to marry our best friend and the person who just gets us. My parting wish for you is that you invest not necessarily money, but your time, care, and attention in your marriage, and in nurturing your partner, and your partnership. Because BABs, your marriage is worth way more than the wedding. ❤️

Custom Wallet Insert Card by MetalandIdea

Custom Wallet Insert Card, $15+ by Etsy seller MetalandIdea

– Party on!

Lisa

Planning a wedding in Northeast Ohio? Here’s where you can find me for wedding planning assistance.

  • 10/6

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    Hey BABs! Much as I’d love to play Fairy Godmother and conjure each of you the perfect gown with a flick of my sparkly wand, I am but a mere mortal, confined to hunting for wedding dresses from among those that already exist. It’s been my honor and pleasure being a #GownHunter for you, but now it’s time for me to pass the torch. This will be my last CAI / GOI post for the foreseeable future (:sniff:), but DON’T PANIC! Caitlyn’s got your back, and the CAI / GOI posts will continue, so keep sending your requests!

    For my last trick — er, post — I’m tackling a request for three inspiration gowns, so buckle up and enjoy the ride!

    Hey! 🙂 My name is Hanna and I am looking for a wedding dress that is under $200. We are paying for everything ourselves and I cannot afford to spend a lot of money on a dress but I still want it to look amazing. I am in love with the wedding dresses by Allure but they are way too expensive. Can you please help me find something like these dresses but in my price range?

    Can't Afford It

    Allure Bridals 2809

    Allure Bridals 2809, $750-$999

    Allure Bridals 2858

    Allure Bridals 2858, $1,000-$1,499

    Allure Bridals 9272

    Allure Bridals 9272, $1,000-$1,499

    Get Over It

    Ivory Lace Open Back Wedding Dress by Dresssupermaker

    Ivory Lace Open Back Wedding Dress, $149+ by Etsy seller Dresssupermaker

    Enchants Encounter Dress in Peach

    Enchants Encounter Dress in Peach, $175 at Modcloth

    A-line Sheer Ivory Lace and Tulle Wedding Dress by MermaidBridal

    A-line Sheer Ivory Lace and Tulle Wedding Dress, $199 by Etsy seller MermaidBridal

    Fete of the Union Maxi Dress in Ivory

    Fete of the Union Maxi Dress in Ivory, $150 at Modcloth

    Own the Ceremony Maxi Dress in White

    Own the Ceremony Maxi Dress in White, $175 at Modcloth

    Allison Parris Sugar Coat Dress

    Allison Parris Sugar Coat Dress, $70 rental at Rent the Runway

    Simply Liliana Wedding Dress

    Simply Liliana Wedding Dress, $65 at Tradesy

    A Love Above the Rest Fit and Flare Dress in Blush

    A Love Above the Rest Fit and Flare Dress in Blush, $175 at Modcloth

    Tulle Love and Cherish Lace Dress in White

    Tulle Love and Cherish Lace Dress in White, $175 at Modcloth

    The Depth of Your Delicacy Fit and Flare Dress in Petal

    The Depth of Your Delicacy Fit and Flare Dress in Petal, $60 at Modcloth

    Marabelle Lace Dress

    Marabelle Lace Dress, $65 at Ruche

    Fancy Forecast Lace Dress

    Fancy Forecast Lace Dress, $40 at Modcloth

    Short Lace Wedding Dress by ieie

    Short Lace Wedding Dress, $200 by Etsy seller ieie

    What do you think, Hanna? Can any of these gowns stand in for an amazing Allure wedding dress? Stop by and let us know in the comments! 

    Got a gown that you just can’t get off your mind? We’re happy to help you get over it! Just tell us in the comments below! Please remember to include the budget you’re working with so we can find you the best alternative for you. Please be aware, though, that because you guys love this column so much, we can often build up quite the queue and it may be a while before we can get to your dream dress. Rest assured, though, Team Broke-Ass is on the case!

    *As always, please do your own research before buying a gown online. Team Broke-Ass is here to provide you with inspiration and resources, but it is up to the consumer to know what they’re purchasing.
  • 9/30

    Marathon Runner Cake Topper, $205 by Etsy seller Clayphory Pre-post disclaimer: If you're looking for fitspiration, you've come to the wrong place. This is not a post about losing weight, working out, or changing your appearance for your wedding day. Instead, this post contains tips to (hopefully) keep you from passing out on your wedding day. These are general tips, not medical advice. As always, consult your doctor or nutritionist…

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    9/22

    Hey BABs! Thanks so much for hanging in there as we work our way through all the requests for help with finding alternate gowns. While you're waiting for us to get to your request, don't forget that you can use the search bar in the upper right to see posts we've written about your gown's designer, or just pop in "can't afford it" to see all the…

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    9/16

    Credit: Lucky Photographer from Kate & Daniel's Real Wedding One of the decisions that can significantly impact your wedding budget is about how you'll serve your guests. This applies whether you're serving dinner, appetizers, cake and punch, breakfast-for-dinner or any other type of meal. So let's break down some of the options, shall we? Buffet Pros: This is typically a more cost effective option if you want to offer…

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    9/8

    Sometimes distance is a bigger issue than budget. BAB reader Mary explains in her comment to this post:  Hi! I need help getting over an Amelia Sposa gown: Nova. My budget is $2,000. This dress is under that, but it is strictly online ordering from Italy, and I need to physically be able to try on the dress so this one is out. My specifics: 1.…

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    9/2

    Gift Boxes available from Etsy seller PenandFavor So you've broken down and started a registry -- or two -- but now you're not sure what to add. Maybe you're all adult-like and already have the basics like bedding and cookware. Maybe you've never lived on your own and have no idea what you might want or need right now ... and don't really care. Or maybe…

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    8/25

    Hey BABs! You ready for a double-header? Reader Maggie asked if we had any ideas for budget-friendly versions of either the Mikaella's 1961 dress or the Maggie Sottero's Brecia gown. Both are lace fit and flare gowns with stunning keyhole, low back detailing and sweep / chapel trains. :DROOL: Maggie, the answer is YES! I've got ideas! That way-low open back detail is a toughie to find, but…

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    8/19

    Personalized Hand Fans - Set of 24, $36 by Etsy seller ModParty If you're anywhere in the U.S. right now, chances are it's crazy hot. I'm talking sweating-while-you-dry-your-freshly-showered-hair kind of hot, coconut-oil-is-a-clear-liquid kind of hot, AC-on-full-blast-is-still-too-hot kind of hot. PSA, guys: HYDRATE! HYDRATE! HYDRATE! But that brings me to today's Broke-Ass Advice topic: How to keep cool at an outdoor wedding. Whether you're a guest, a bridesmaid or a bride,…

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