Broke-Ass Tag: Idaho Wedding

1/20

Affiliate Disclaimer NewGuys, I can’t even tell you how stoked I am to share this wedding with you. I’ve known Marcus and Myndi for, like, ever. We all grew up together in Jackson, Wyo., and I have so much love for these two. There are few things more fun than watching old friends cultivate an amazingly strong relationship and grow a family later in life. Myndi and Marcus decided to stick totally true to themselves for their wedding ceremony — avid river rafters (as one does, in the Tetons), they opted to incorporate a day float into their nuptials. Priorities took a front seat for these two — a small budget, family, friends and fun were the name of the game and they pulled it off splendidly, as evidenced in photographs by Jeff Buydos of Teton Creative Visual.

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Occupation: Energy Bar Slinger

Wedding location: Middle of the Snake River, Swan Valley, Idaho

Wedding Date: 9/19/15

Budget: $5700

Number of Guests: 40

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How would you describe your wedding:

Our wedding was very intimate and heartfelt. We chose to write our own vows as we wanted deeply personal vows that we can look back on throughout our marriage to help us through whatever obstacles may arise. One of our dear friends, our daughter’s Godfather, officiated using an outline that we came up with, but he added some very touching personal details. Our small guest list made it easy for us to really express our love for one another without feeling nervous or exposed. Our guests were all asked to participate in the ceremony by promising to help us keep our vows to each other over the years and to encourage our love. They all responded with a resounding “WE DO!”

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We didn’t have flowers or a fancy scene set. We got married on an island in the middle of the river with a driftwood arch that Marcus constructed and allowed mother nature to provide the remaining décor. We didn’t miss those extras either, with our heartfelt words and the natural beauty of our location.

Marcus’s older brother and my older sister with our Pomeranian and our 1-year-old daughter made up our wedding party. Immediately following the ceremony we busted out the cooler full of bubbly and our siblings each gave loving toasts.

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Six rafts and two drift boats carried us and our guests down a calm and scenic portion of the Snake River to our ceremony site and then further down to South Fork Lodge where we took out to enjoy a fabulous dinner.

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What was your favorite part of your wedding?

Everything was awesome, but the best thing would have to be the ceremony. Getting choked up saying my vows and Marcus taking my hand and encouraging me to go on with them was a really special moment. The fact that our ceremony and vows were written for us by us meant a lot to me. It was so personal and lovely I get a little choked up just thinking about it. There weren’t many dry eyes on the river that day!

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What did you splurge on? Food and Photography

What did you save on?

Attire: My dress, shoes, hair accessories and jewelry all came out to $107.00

Flowers: We went without a bouquet and boutonnieres. I made centerpieces using pumpkins and succulents, but other than that we relied on the beauty the location to provide decoration.

Wedding Venue: The island on the river didn’t cost us a dime.

Reception: Floating on the river with our nearest and dearest, drinking beer and Champagne and laughing up a storm served as a substitute for a traditional reception. We opted to have an elegant feast and tremendous cake after the float and that was the extent.

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Was there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect?

I feel like most everything about the day was perfect! If I had the privilege of doing it again, I would have freshened up my makeup after the river trip when we got to the lodge. I also would have forgone the corset I wore and just went with shapeware.

What was your biggest challenge in planning?

Figuring out how to get all those people down the river and coming up with a Plan B in case of bad weather.

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What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself?

Nothing is worth worrying about. If you are surrounded by people that love you and you get to marry your one and only, you win!

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What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?

5. The wedding favors, I had custom reusable canvas bags printed for each individual or couple. Inside were goodies for the river trip — Kate’s Real Food Bars, mini sunscreen, custom printed cozies, leis, silly sunglasses and colorful reusable goblets for toasting Champagne. I wanted to give sustainable items that wouldn’t go directly to the landfill — thus reusable bags and cups.

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4. South Fork Lodge was such a gorgeous setting for the end of our journey that day. The staff was so sweet and the food was fabulous.

3. The cake! It was 3 tiers of amazing. Two tiers of huckleberry buttermilk with huckleberry mousse filling and one tier of pumpkin spice with chocolate ganache filling. I will dream of that cake for years to come … No we didn’t save the top tier. I ate it all!

2. Floating down the river on a beautiful day!

1. Our vows and ceremony

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Top 5 least favorite?

2.) My undergarments were uncomfortable

1.) The day had to end

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received?

Don’t go to bed angry. In my opinion sometimes you need to sleep it off!

The best?

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Never say something you’ll regret later.

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Any other bits of wisdom?

Kids change things! I’ve heard people say that introducing a child can put a huge strain on a relationship. While it presented new challenges for sure, having our daughter bonded us for life. Seeing Marcus as a father made me fall ever more in love with him. It proved to me that we make an incredible team and that he is a person that I can spend the rest of my life with.

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Budget breakdown?

Food/Cake/Booze -58% ~$3300

Photography – 26% ~ $1480

Attire Bride and Groom: 4% ~ $228

Raft Rental: 3% ~ $170

Favors and Centerpieces: 9% ~ $513

Venue: South Fork Lodge

Photography: Teton Creative Visual Photography

Cake: Jackson Hole Cake Company

Myndi’s Dress: Prana

Centerpieces: MD Nursery

Favors: Kate’s Real Food

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Congratulations, you two! Many happy adventures!

 

 

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  • 2/27

    Your “I dos” are a moment of gravitas, a quiet but weighty culmination of your decision to spend your lives together. In honor of their serious decision to make this commitment, Destry and Lanny decided on a similarly intimate wedding ceremony and reception: 40 invited guests, immediate family and the closest of friends. By this decision, they were able to spend more time with the community that has watched them sow the seeds of their relationship, helped them nurture it, and witnessed it flourish.

    Names: Destry & Lanny

    Occupations: Destry is a design drafter,  Lanny was an administrator for a private travel company but currently attends business school full-time

    Wedding location: Kingston, Idaho

    Wedding date: July 27, 2013

    Wedding budget: My crazyperson spreadsheet tells me our final total was $4,300-ish.  We didn’t give ourselves a hard maximum. Instead, we decided to spend by priority. Neither of us gave two hoots about centerpieces or expensive favors; instead we cared about food and photos and got INCREDIBLY lucky on both counts. While we spent a lot less than the national average, we still feel like we spent an enormous amount of money for one day.

    Approximate guest count: We limited our invited guests to 40, but counted on 35 attending for sure. We only invited our immediate family members and very close friends. Destry is the oldest of five, so you can imagine that it adds up quickly.

    How would you describe your wedding? At the risk of sounding cliché and ridiculous, I’d describe it as a balance of country, rustic and vintage.  We kept it subtle though. We didn’t want guests to feel like we were beating them over the head with kitschy crap. We didn’t have time or energy to invest in kitschy crap either.

    What was your favorite part of your wedding? It’s a cliché, but it’s so true: It’s really hard to choose one favorite.  I would say that driving from our hotel to the venue together was so special and important to me. We both had a chance to be alone together, in our own car, just being together, quietly. Because we knew it was going to be such an emotional day, that short drive was so important to both of us.

    We were lucky to have an equally meaningful moment alone at the end of the night after everyone had left. The sky was inky black with bright stars and the barn was lit up with twinkling lights woven throughout the Virginia creeper that covered its entire frame; we stood silently at the top of the hill wrapped in a blanket, looking down upon the scenery and reflected on the deluge of pure love we’d experienced that day.

    What did you splurge on? Without a doubt, the food and furniture were our most costly expenses. Our wedding was held over 60 miles from our home in Spokane. So, we felt it was important that we provide a really solid meal to our nearest and dearest if we were going to drag them to a mountain farm in the middle of the woods. Have you ever been to a wedding on a Saturday at 6:30 p.m., only to find that it’s a cake and punch reception in the church gym/basement/lobby?  Those are basically the worst (in my opinion) and we were against that at all costs.

    Additionally, we really scored with a venue that embodied everything we hoped for and wanted to provide some aesthetic continuity by using furniture that didn’t clash. We found an up-and-coming furniture rental company out of North Idaho who provided some stunning pieces for us.

    Also, I know it’s silly, but I totally went all out with my hair as well. I was pretty close with my hairdresser at that time, but after her two previous attempts at formal styles left me crying in the car we decided to go another direction. My hair is fairly long, but I wanted it longer for the wedding, so she offered to pick me up some extensions with her discount and color them to match my hair.  After several unanswered texts and voicemails left me feeling like a jealous ex-girlfriend, I bought the hair myself and scheduled an appointment with someone else. I ended up spending a small fortune on the whole ordeal, but it felt worth it: $200 for the hair, $70 to color it, $50 for the trial and $100 for the wedding day style. (I feel compelled to note that I’m still pissed that I spent as much as I did on the day of the wedding because the salon’s active price list shows the trial hair as included in the total price.)

    So, what became of my former stylist?  Well, I finally heard from her three days before the wedding letting me know that she had blocked out the entire day and we could go get hair, color and style it starting at 9 a.m. A note about that – the wedding took place on a Saturday, and the hair extension shop isn’t open on weekends, so despite the sketchy billing practices, I am glad I opted out. 

    What did you save on? Ev-er-y thing. We saved by doing our own flower arrangements – actually, we didn’t use flowers at all. We bought raw cotton online and put everything together. The allergic reaction was totally worth it.  Picture, if you will, my then-fiancé and I in our non-air conditioned kitchen, trimming and cleaning raw cotton bolls. We spent countless hours picking dried leaves out of the cotton so we could spend ADDITIONAL countless hours stringing each one just-so on jute twine and arranging them into our respective bouquet and boutonniere.

    I had intended to splurge a little and treat myself to a morning of girly pampering, however that never materialized. I scheduled a makeup trial a few weeks prior to the wedding, but I didn’t feel that this woman was listening to me. I’m 30, and I don’t think it’s in my best interest to try out a new personal style on my wedding day. I’m old enough to understand what looks good and what works for me. Since I’m a jeans and hoodie kind of girl, you can imagine how hard it was to mask my disappointment when she revealed my potential makeup.  Winged eyeliner and I are never going to be best friends, nor do I have aspirations of acquainting myself with berry lip stain. Adding insult to injury, I paid $75 (after tipping, because I’m a doormat) for a look I couldn’t wait to wash off my face.

    Ultimately, I didn’t feel that she was especially honest or talented so I lied and canceled my appointment about a week before the wedding, citing something about the cost being budget-prohibitive. The (supposedly) agreed-upon rate was $100 for both sessions, but I had already effectively paid the bulk of it after listening to her talk shit about everyone else in town while she applied makeup that didn’t match me or my coloring. After the rage-tears subsided, I went to Nordstrom (alone) and met with the only kind a makeup artist. I showed him a photo and he whipped my look into shape, directing me to all the right products and showed me how to recreate his work at home. I hugged him, and practiced nearly a dozen times before the wedding and I’m thrilled with my choice to do my own.

    The piece-de-resistance, though, were our photographers. We happened to have two very close friends who are not only incredibly talented, but provided their services for free. Without their generosity, as every bride knows, we would have EASILY doubled our expenses.

    Was there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect? Looking back, I would have asked more people to help.  We would have had a little more fun during the planning stages if we’d allowed more folks help us out from the beginning. Instead, we stubbornly refused offers for help until much closer to the wedding date. That cotton-stringing party I mentioned above?  Ultimately, my in-laws came to the rescue with four additional hands for stringing.

    I can’t quite remember why we were so secretive about planning, but I suspect part of it had to do with a bizarre idea that someone might steal our ideas? Weddings make people crazy. Like, crazy-crazy.

    What was your biggest challenge in planning? 1.) Hurt feelings. If I had known beforehand, how personally other people would take our wedding choices, we might have eloped. We received unsolicited suggestions, advice, and requests for invitations for people we’d never conceive of including in our celebration. It was an ongoing challenge of (and testament to) our patience, kindness, and ability to tolerate other people.

    2.) Money. It would be so much easier to throw everything on a credit card, but that’s not our style for anything we do in life. We felt incredibly fortunate to have been in such a position that allowed us to do everything we needed and wanted to do on our own terms. Still, having more money might have abbreviated our timeline considerably but we don’t regret any of it.

    What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? ALWAYS (and I mean ALWAYS) have a contingency plan. ALWAYS. For good measure, have three or four backups. We picked out a favorite restaurant to host our rehearsal dinner and made reservations to hold the date (I can’t remember if we paid a fee or not). A month before our wedding, my best friend drove up from Portland, Oregon, for a bridal shower hosted by my mother-in-law and I had hoped to take her to dinner there … as we were walking up to the building, it dawned on me that they weren’t just not open, they were closed. Like, for good.

    Obviously, we ate elsewhere, but I was determined to keep from getting ruffled by the situation. Later in the week, my fiancé and I ate at another restaurant that had recently undergone a major renovation and appeared to be a great place to host our rehearsal – so we booked it on the spot.

    By sheer bad luck, we were forced to resume our search on June 17 (about a month before our wedding) because our second choice BURNED DOWN. I crowdsourced suggestions on Facebook and had friends beg me to stop ruining Spokane with our wedding. It was about this point that I stopped giving a shit about it but it turned out to be better than I ever could’ve imagined. A family-owned bar/café where we spend Saturday nights playing trivia stepped up to bat and hit a grand slam (those are the same sport, right?) with how they handled our dinner. We told them how much we could spend, the headcount, and offered a vague suggestion of the kind of food we liked. It was such a success that our families are still raving about it to this day.

    What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding? It was a day full of love and laughter and ridiculously delicious food. Because we chose to invite literally nobody outside our immediate families and our closest friends it made the day so ridiculously special, I still struggle to elucidate my feelings.


    Top 5 least favorite? We had a lot of people offer to help or provide something (mostly food) and we were far more comfortable hiring people to do that job for a number of reasons, including (but not limited to) sanitation. Remember, if you will, the comment above where I mention that the venue and our hometown are 60 miles apart – now imagine chicken salad, pasta salad, potato salad and basically mayonnaise-based anything in someone’s back seat for nigh on two hours. Sounds like fun, right? Sorry to let the booster club down, but I’m not trying to battle diarrhea on my wedding night. For the sake of feelings, let’s just say it’s because I want everyone to have a good time and avoid being unfairly labeled bridezilla, okay?

    One of my photographers is married to a former marine and bodyguard. Why on earth is that even remotely of consequence? Because my husband’s ex-girlfriend (one he’d broken up with before we even met; IN 2002.) has a super-adorable habit of making her presence known. Neither of us expected anything especially dramatic, but he studied photos as a precaution and kept her out of sight when she did, in fact, show up.

    What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? “Just relax! It’ll all come together” – Everyone who ever planned a wedding but experienced a subsequently immediate Telenovela-style bout with amnesia. Nothing ever just “comes together” and anyone who suggests otherwise probably didn’t have a DIY wedding if you know what I mean. Are you fucking kidding me? RELAX? I am relaxed (sort of), but I am still allowed to give like, ONE shit about how this day goes down. Will I remember all of it, not likely; but I don’t expect to.

    The best? From my older sister, more than 10 years ago: “Wedding planning is so stupid. It is literally the DUMBEST thing I’ve ever done.” Having done it, I can confirm that she’s right. The wedding itself wasn’t stupid, but the kinds of things that consumed my thoughts throughout the planning process were so cosmically insignificant; but they felt so god damned essential in the moment.

    Second best was between my husband and me – it became kind of a mantra between the two of us: “This is our party; our wedding is not our marriage.”

    Any other bits of wisdom? Just Relaaaaax!  Okay, I’m kidding … kind of. It’s easy to get upset and overwhelmed when people overstep boundaries, but standing up for yourself is the best thing you can do when you’re planning your wedding. I desperately wish I had just told a few vendors to piss off directly instead of skirting the issue as if their feelings were supposed to take precedent above mine. I wish I had been more assertive and direct when people acted in a way that made me feel like they were taking advantage of an emotionally charged event. But there’s nothing I can do about it now. (Except write some passive-aggressive Yelp! reviews.)

    Oh, and don’t you dare listen to anyone who has the nerve to tell you that you must spend more or else your wedding won’t be “everything you ever dreamed of.” Your wedding will be everything you dreamed of because you’re marrying someone you love. Anyone who suggests otherwise is presumptuous, snide and condescending.

     

    Budget breakdown

     

    TOTAL

    VENUE

    $235.00

    FOOD

    $1,128.85

    FURNITURE

    $961.57

    OFFICIANT

    $200.00

    LIQUOR

    $200.00

    FLOWERS

    $250.00

    CLOTHES (D)

    $300.00

    INVITATIONS

    $105.00

    HAIR

    $420.00

    CUPCAKES

    $135.00

    REHEARSAL

    $400.00

     

        TOTAL:  $4335.42

    Wedding vendors and links:

    Venue: French Gulch Farm and Garden, Kingston, ID

    Furniture Rental: The Attic, Coeur d’Alene, Idaho

    Catering: Couple of Chefs, Spokane, WA

    Attire: Bride – David’s Bridal, Spokane, WA Groom – Duchess Clothier, Portland, OR

    Hair: Bride – Douglass McCoy, Spokane, WA Groom – Porter’s Barber Shop, Spokane, WA

    Bride’s Makeup: BRIDE!

    Flowers, bouquet and decor: Bride and Groom designed all decor using dried wildflowers and cotton purchased online. Tabletop arrangements were styled by Groom’s brother and sister in law. (Bride made bouquet, Groom made his own boutonniere)

    Rings: Bride (same ring, except blue) Groom

    DJ:
    iTunes, operated by Groom’s brother

    Invitations:
    Designed Online, Printed at Home (We purchased the full suite; including save the dates, thank you cards, and custom map)

    Photographers: Andrew Callaci (Portland) and Nicole Varnell (Spokane)

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