Broke-Ass Tag: guest list

8/14

So, I’ve felt like I’ve been kind of stagnant with the wedding planning lately, but I finally feel like the ball is actually rolling now. We had our second consultation with the wedding planner this past Saturday, which was Chris’s first actual in-person look at the venue and meeting her, made all the more interesting because he was coming off of an overnight shift at the ER and was running on three hours of sleep. It was great though (besides dropping half of the wedding cost then, which hurt my soul); we went over a lot of details that we’ve been discussing but haven’t nailed down yet. We finalized our colors (plum and silver), our menu (guests will choose between steak, chicken, fish and shrimp), locked in the DJ and went over the ceremony and the timeline for that and the reception.

And then, we got to pick the cake sample we wanted, which I picked up yesterday!

So, Cathy’s daughter is a baker, and she makes the cakes and cupcakes, so she made us three flavors of cake and filling to test. We chose double dark chocolate with mocha filling, milk chocolate with strawberry filling and marble with apple cinnamon filling. I picked them up yesterday and was SUPER excited to see that we had six, full-size cupcakes to test — two of each flavor. They were beautiful, nicely frosted with vanilla frosting and decorations. At least they were, until some jerk cut me off in traffic and I slammed on my brakes, causing the cupcakes to go flying off the seat and onto the floor, and me to use all of the swear words in my repertoire (don’t worry, I hadn’t picked the kids up yet).

My poor babies

Luckily, they still tasted delicious, and being slightly squashed made it easier to taste, since the girls were with us and we got them in on the action too. The only ones I didn’t let them taste were the mocha filled ones, since the last thing I needed was overly hyperactive children jacked up on coffee. So all four of us agreed that we loved the strawberry filling. The girls liked the apple cinnamon, but neither Chris nor I thought it was flavorful enough. We loved the double dark chocolate, but the mocha was way too strong, and Chris doesn’t like coffee to begin with. I don’t know why we picked the marble to try, I don’t like marble to begin with so that was my fault, but I wanted a vanilla-ish option of cake to try. So, I think we decided that we’d do the double dark chocolate with strawberry filling, and then probably just vanilla with chocolate. We’re doing cupcakes instead of a big cake, so we get to pick two (which amuses me to no end), and we also get a little cake for the two of us to cut, which I think is amazing.

I’m not going to lie, I’ve been looking forward to tasting the cakes since we got engaged, and I wasn’t disappointed.

On a serious note, I will say that the decisions about the guest list estimate was a lot of pressure.

Cathy needed an approximate number to give me an estimated payment for the first half, so Chris and I had come up with our lists of guests, to include the bridal party, but not the girls since they’ll be there for the ceremony but not the reception. We ended up telling Cathy that we’ll pay for the DJ and the photographer to eat, it just seems like the nice thing to do, and Cathy is only charging half for them. But coming up with that number and then getting the estimate for the total was definitely a bit painful. Not a shock, since she and I had estimated cost at our first appointment, but definitely a bit eye-opening. I’d definitely recommend having a pretty hard estimate of your guest list when you go in to meet vendors, since they seem to do an estimate for you as to what the wedding will cost in total.

How’s your planning going? Have you made any big moves lately? Share in the comments!

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  • 7/5

    Wedding planning definitely teaches you a lot of lessons about yourself and you as a couple that you might not have previously known. It has brought my little sister and I much closer together. We are five years apart and were never really close until maybe a year or two ago. I wish I had asked her to be my maid of honor. The idea never crossed my mind because I am not used to having a sister I can talk to or rely on.

    My sibs and dad before my sister’s graduation

    Our wedding has brought to light some superstitions I never knew I had, like not wanting something old or borrowed from couples that had failed marriages. It has brought Michael and I up close with not being able to afford many of the things we would like to have and learning to deal with the disappointment. Sometimes we realize what is actually the most important to us and shift our plans so that we can afford those things instead of something else less important.

    The most reason lesson I have learned about myself (or perhaps just had reinforced), is my utter lack of patience. Summer is most definitely wedding season. I was invited to two different weddings only a week apart. One was the friend’s I mentioned missing in my last post and another of my girlfriends was getting married July 4th weekend. One of the things their weddings made me appreciate is sending my RSVP in a timely fashion.

    Wedding RSVP

    I have sent out the shower and wedding invitations already and the RSVP deadline for the shower was last week. My sister let me know that 14 of the people invited had not yet RSVP, so I called, texted and emailed each of them to see if they were coming. For the majority of them the response was pretty much immediate and I knocked out 10 in one day. Now I’m just glaring at my phone and email waiting to hear from the last four stragglers. Yes, I realize that my wedding and shower are not the most important things that you ladies have going on in your lives. I understand you probably got the invitation and immediately lost it. But for the love of all that is holy, could you please just RSVP as soon as you get it so I have one less wedding thing to stress about?

    I think I will set up a laptop or my iPad at the shower so that I can capture a few wedding RSVPs while I have a captive audience. Tacky? Possibly. Do I care? NOPE!

    What about you, what have you learned about yourself?

  • 6/14

    Bride to be cellphone case from Etsy seller Guestbookery Originally, we had planned to do evites but I got so much pushback from the "elders" about using that technology that I gave up the fight and went the traditional route of paper invitations. While they are gorgeous and I'm happy with how they turned out, the price tag didn't bring me much happiness, nor did…

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    4/18

    Print available from Etsy seller WishfulPrinting The biggest expense at any wedding are the guests. They are the consumers, so the more guests you have, the more expensive your reception will be (in theory, I'm sure someone can prove me wrong about that). We are opting to have a buffet dinner at our reception and we figured to keep costs down, we need less mouths…

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    12/19

    Credit: Juniper Photography I’m sure many people have ideas about how they want their weddings to be even before they start planning them. Maybe they know for sure they want to get married on the beach, or they’ve always known they would wear a family heirloom that has been passed down for generations. I had ideas like that too -- my matrimonial must-haves, if you will.…

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    9/12

    RSVP Cards available from Etsy seller PucciPrintables We are in the home stretch with just a few weeks to go before our big day. There are a lot of last minute details to worry about and loose ends to tie. We're also trying to wrap up our RSVPs. I find it such a nerve-wracking process. Each time I see a response card in the mail,…

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    5/27

    Just Married Wedding Announcement, $6.50 by Etsy seller BlissPaperBoutique Hey BABs! Wedding etiquette can sometimes feel overly formal and antiquated, but we're here to help you navigate the ins and outs. This week's advice request is about sending wedding announcements: My fiance and I are planning a wedding in April of 2017. All of his family is in town and most likely all will attend, but…

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    12/11

    World's Best Coffee Mug, $13.75 by Etsy seller MagicCityDesigns Hiya BABs! Today's advice question comes from a reader who wants to know about the etiquette of inviting coworkers to her wedding. (Hence, the mugs. Because coffee. And Dunder Mifflin. #pamandjimforever)  Hello and happy holidays!! I am writing to request etiquette guidance: I had a very strong relationship with my former coworkers, which has not carried over to…

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