Broke-Ass Tag: grooms

8/12

Affiliate Disclaimer NewHey there, dudes! It’s time to talk about rings. We’ve covered the baubles for the ladies, and now it’s time to focus on you. I won’t go into a long diatribe about their significance, the symbolism of eternal love and blah, blah, blah. Instead, I’ve done a bit of shopping and I’m gonna share the loot I’ve found. The list is separated into three categories: narrow, regular and wide. This is important: in the case of rings, size matters. The general rule is the more slender the hands, the narrower the band. However, I think it’s more about comfort. For someone who doesn’t wear jewelry often, a wide band might feel cumbersome and awkward (note that this can be remedied by the type of metal as well).

All the rings below retail under $300, but remember that doesn’t include any sort of extra custom work you might want. Also, I’ve indicated if it’s available in other metals, though the price may vary.
Let’s get to shopping.

Narrow Bands

White Gold Wedding Band from jared14K White Gold Band, $229.99 from Jared

Mens Tungsten Wedding Band 3mm from Jared
Triton Slender Tungsten Carbide Band, $139.99 from Jared

Mens Titanum and Wood Wedding Band from Robbins Brothers Hawaii Titanium and Pink Ivory Wood, $200 from Robbins Brothers

Mens Gold Wedding Band from Kay JEwelers10K Yellow Gold Comfort Fit Band, $149.99 from Kay Jewelers

Mens Gold Thin Wedding Band from Blue Nile18K Gold 2mm Band, $170 from Blue Nile

Mens Brushed Gold Wedding Band from Blue Nile
Matte Mid-Weight Comfort Fit White Gold Band, $300 from Blue Nile

Hand Cut Filigree Mens Wedding Band from Etsy seller tinahdee Hand-Cut 14K Gold Fill Filigree Ring, $40 from Etsy seller tinahdee

Unisex Love Knot Wedding Band from Etsy seller AroshaMode18K Plated Yellow, White or Rose Gold Band, $160 from Etsy seller AroshaMode

Mens Gold Flake Wedding Band from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery
Gold Chaos 4mm Wide Band, $173.03 from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery

Mens Narrow Palladium Wedding Band from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery
1.5mm Dainty Palladium Band, $181 from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery

Regular Bands

Mens Titanium Wedding Band from Etsy seller RobandLean
Titanium Elder Wood Meteorite Band, $200 from Etsy seller RobandLean
Mens Cobalt Wedding Band from Robbins Brothers7mm Cobalt Band, $250 from Robbins Brothers

Mens Titanium Wedding Band from Robbins Brothers
Titanium Comfort Fit Band, $95 from Robbins Brothers

Mens Multi-tone Stainless Steel Wedding Band from Kay Jewelers
8mm Multicolor Wedding Band, $109 from Kay Jewelers

Mens Black Cobalt Wedding Band from Kay Jewelers
Cobalt 8mm Band, $295 from Kay Jewelers

Mens Engravable Silver Wedding Band from Kay Jewelers
Stainless Steel Engravable Band, starting at $107 from Kay Jewelers, $107
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Mens Tungsten Carbide Wedding Band from Jared
Tungsten Carbide Band, $229.99 from Jared

Mens Gold Wedding Band from Jared
14K Yellow or White Gold Band, $279.99 from Jared

Mens Etched Black Tungsten Wedding Band from Jared
Florentine Etched Black Tungsten Band, $279.99 from Jared

Mens Cobalt and Black Diamonds Wedding Band from Blue NileCobalt and Black Diamond Band, $240 from Blue Nile

Wide Bands

Mens Wide Cobalt Wedding Band from JaredCobalt 8mm Band, $149.99 from Jared

Mens Stainless Steel Wedding Band from Kay JewelersStainless Steel Band, $149 from Kay JewelersMens Copper Stainless Steel Wedding Band from Jared
Copper and Stainless Steel Band, $99.99 from Jared

Mens Mother of Pearl Wedding Band from JaredMother of Pearl Inlay Stainless Steel Band, $129 from Jared

Mens Distressed Silver Wedding Band from Etsy seller TinahdeeSterling Silver Distressed Band, $50 from Etsy seller Tinahdee

Mens Whiskey Barrel Wood Wedding Band from Etsy seller HawkinsHandicrafts Whiskey Barrel Wood Band, $50 from Etsy seller HawkinsHandicrafts

Mens Brushed Titanium and Wood Wedding Band from Etsy seller GrandJunctionGuyBrushed Titanium Bubinga Ring, $285 from Etsy seller GrandJunctionGuy

Mens Wood and Meteorite Wedding Band from Etsy seller GrandJunctionguy
Bentwood Meteorite Band, $215 from Etsy seller GrandJunctionGuy

Mens Carbon Fiber Squared Ring from Etsy seller ElementringsWave Squared Carbon Fiber Ring, $179 from Etsy seller Elementrings

Etsy Rings Paradise Meteorite Inlay Wedding BandMeteorite Inlay Rose Tungsten Band, $196 from Etsy seller RingsParadise

That’s all chaps! Hopefully I’ve made ring shopping a little less stressful for you.

Any catch your eye? Let me know in the comments!

  • 2/16

    Julie and Matt enjoying their first dance as husband and wife

    My best friend in the world and I enjoying the fruits of  our labor! Photo by SK Photography

    As I get ready to celebrate my first Valentine’s Day as a married woman, I can’t help but feel like I’m more than overdue to talk about Matt’s role in planning our wedding. I’d like to think that Matt and I have pretty equal roles in everything in our relationship. Somebody recently commented about how we have “non-traditional gender roles” in our marriage, which I guess is true in many ways, but I think that’s because we more so fall into roles that speak to our strengths so that we can both do the best to take care of one another. That’s just our dynamic and so that was how it went with the wedding as well. Many people told me how lucky I was to have a groom that was so involved with the wedding planning, and I know that’s something many brides struggle with when it comes to their grooms, but it can also can be more complicated than that.

    Matt is extremely personable and easy to talk to in meetings and on the phone. My prefered method of communication was through emails because it gave me an opportunity to compose myself and make sure I had everything in order I needed to talk about. This was great because it meant that we split up contact duties. Different vendors prefer different methods of contact and that’s not always immediately obvious when you first reach out to them. I’d email people first and Matt would call after if that didn’t work. When we’d meet with a vendor, we’d confer with one another first to get on the same page, and then Matt would do the talking based upon what we had both discussed ahead of time. We always waited until after we had left meetings with vendors to make final decisions so we could comfortably discuss them with one another and both really have a say about what we had heard and thought in the meeting. Being on the same page was huge for us. Early on in our relationship we went through some drama that has caused Matt to be extra vigilant in remembering that in our life together, even if we might disagree with one another, we are always on the same team working towards the same goals. I think that way of thinking helped us avoid what could’ve been a lot of drama as we planned the wedding.

    Once our vendors were decided upon, we’d split up how we dealt with them based upon their preferred method of communication. Our florist for instance was more of an emailer. Our DJ preferred to discuss matters by phone. Once, Matt emailed our florist from our joint email account and she was certain I was mad at her because it was so different from our usual conversations. He was very short and to the point whereas I wrote more flowery (pun intended) emails that were full of gratitude for her services and very descriptive information on what we were looking for. Our DJ probably thought I was crazy because any time he called me, I’d talk to him for about a minute before I’d say “uhhh let me talk to Matt and get back to you on that,” and sure enough Matt would ultimately be the one to give him a call back. That didn’t happen every single time, but it did happen often enough that in previous centuries I might’ve been committed.

    We did work together as a great team, but unfortunately, as always, there are other people who play roles in the planning process and can upset that. Many vendors we dealt with weren’t really down with the dynamic of a groom being very involved in the wedding, and regardless of what Matt had to say, they’d ultimately defer to me or they’d take my silence as disinterest and try and come up with ways to get me excited about working with them. “Ohh Julie, You’ll love this feature!” they’d exclaim and then typically they’d show me something that didn’t really mean anything to me. While I think more and more grooms are starting to take part in the planning process, I don’t think it’s hit the mainstream WIC that the mythology that it’s all about the bride isn’t quite true, so Matt was like this weird anomaly to a lot of people we met with. The vendors we worked with in the end understood and accepted our dynamic and I think even respected the equality between us when it came to decision making.

    It also is tough because sometimes I think, as brides, we fall into that same mythology that the wedding is all about us. From the start, Matt and I were both really excited about the wedding so we discussed the many parts of it from the get-go, but I think even early on I thought a lot of the final decisions would be mine alone. I didn’t recognize immediately that he would even have parts of it that were important to him, but there were major things about all aspects of our wedding that meant a lot to him. For instance, one major thing that mattered a lot to Matt was that our venue had windows. We found a great hall about an hour outside of Boston that was super cheap on the rental price but that wasn’t exactly appealing to the eye and lacked the natural light he was looking for. I was all set to write a check, but when Matt and I discussed it, I realized that while my priorities were met by it, his were being ignored. So we continued our search and finally found a venue that thrilled both of us and satisfied both of our priorities. Honestly, I’m grateful he didn’t let me choose the place I was ready to write the check for. It would’ve cost us way more money and effort sprucing it up and our venue that we did find was so perfect for us in every way.

    That’s the thing about planning your wedding with your groom. It’s awesome because it means everything doesn’t fall to you and you can have something that is really representative of both of you because you arrived at all your decisions together, but it also leaves some room for disagreements. Brides who don’t have their grooms extremely involved in their weddings are not only left to make decisions all by themselves, they also GET to make decisions for themselves. It’s kind of a double-edged sword no matter how you look at it. Ultimately having Matt deeply involved in the process of planning our wedding gave us some great quality time together, some amazing memories, and practice in discussing and making decisions as a family instead of individuals. I’m glad he was as involved in the wedding planning process as he was, and I hope that his involvement is part of a bigger trend in the industry….not just an anomaly I lucked out to be part of. If you’re in the middle of your planning process, and you find it’s all falling to you, maybe sit and talk to your significant other. See what might be important to him about the wedding. I think what made it so easy for us is that despite shortcomings we might have in how we communicate with others, we’re great at all sorts of communication with each other so that was the very first thing we did when we set out to make our day happen.

  • 11/6

    Image: Whitney Huynh Alright grooms, step aside — this one’s for the Best Man. The day of the wedding is a big day for your bestie, so make sure something small doesn’t fuck it all up. He’ll thank you for life if you take all the right measures and plan it out properly. Trust me, I’ve been in a lot of weddings and you’d be amazed…

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    6/12

    Jon Black Photography This is what I know about Grooms, having had one of my own and hung out with, like 200 of them. 1. There is one thing. One thing that your Groom wants at his wedding. Might be two things -- Zane wanted steak and to have his suit made -- but there is definitely one. Yours might want to wear a bow tie,…

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    6/10

    Hey y’all! I’m new to The Broke-Ass Bride and I’m crazy stoked to be working with the team. Let’s get right down to business, shall we? Guys, it’s high-time we start helping out the bride-to-be and make some of our own decisions. Where’s a good place to start? What you’re gonna wear. Yes, that involves shopping. To some of you, this might not be that…

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    10/6

    I don't know a whole lot about comics, so when a request came in for a Comic Con edition of Wedding Inspiration, I had a bit of research to do....and now I'm LOVING comic books as inspiration for a wedding. I would dress my bridesmaids in bright colors and gold shoes and let my groomsmen wear little details like Batman cuff links, or rock their…

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