Broke-Ass Tag: gay weddings


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Photo: Clane Gessel via Bella Signature

We at BAB were sooooooooooo excited about the Supreme Court legalizing same-sex marriage (#LOVEWINS), we decided to do an article especially for the boys (who like boys).

It’s possible you’ve been secretly worried about how a wedding looks without a bride. Well, you can thank The High and Heavenly World of Pinterest, because there are so many options you’ll get the spins. The thing is, you can celebrate your gay wedding the same as a straight wedding — any way you fucking want. Once you’ve figured out the type of wedding you’ll plan (A traditional wedding in a gay-friendly church, a rustic wedding in a barn, a drag queen wedding under a disco ball — the world is your oyster), then you can figure out the outfit situation. I’ve listed a few options I found that could easily be affordable and fit a range of occasions from formal to more casual.

*Quick Note: Just because we mention the guys here doesn’t mean we’re limiting these options to groom/groom weddings. These are also awesome options for ANYBODY —women included — that want to rock a suit or tux.


Photo: Moodeus via A Vote & A Vow

Contrasting Suits: What a great way to keep things formal without doing flashy tuxes. It also allows the grooms to choose their own accessories and leaves things a little open-ended for the wedding party. Plus, every guy looks sexy in gray.


Photo: Kate McElwee Photography

Dare to Pattern: Soooooooooo slick! Doing a solid/pattern combo in a single tone keeps these guys looking really put together and takes formal to an unexpected place. And seriously, if you know BAB, you know we love an element of surprise. One last thing about this idea: Another reason it works is because they kept the accessories mild and matching in color and texture. You could probably get away with adding a little more pizzazz, but be careful.


Photo: A Brit & A Blonde

Matchy-matchy: You guys, when all else fails, just pick a palette and Sadie Hawkins that shit up. This can actually be a good option for a couple reasons. One, if you’re looking to do a quick ceremony, this is the ticket. Since you’ll be looking for the same thing for both, you’ll save time hunting around the mall. Second, sometimes buying items in pairs can save you a few bucks (be on the lookout for Buy One/Get One sales)! You can see they ditched the jacket and went with a bright tie, kinda like this one.

Grooms with Mixed Accessories

Credit: DeAwna McGinley Photography via Chicago Style Weddings

Accessory Play: How dashing are those grooms? I would only dare to mix accessories like this if everything else was neutral, and these two do just that but in a really bold way. Otherwise, you might end up having a carnival wedding, which, though memorable, might not be quite your end goal. But I like the mix here. You could even do some fun socks.


Photo: via Passion for Flowers

Do you love a good ascot as much as I do? Well you should. You can’t really see the whole look from here, but I do like how they did matching suit tones in different patterns, paired with an unexpected neck accessory. Also, I’m in love with those boutonnières.

Where to Find These Looks


Simple Gray Suit

Patterned Suit
CombatantGentSuitHow are you coordinating your wedding day looks? Tell us in the comments below!

  • 11/30

    Hey-o! We’re coming off one of the biggest shopping weeks of the year – and we wanna know what you bought! Did you make a major score that would make any BAB proud? Well brag on, with your broke-ass self! Tell us all about it in the comments!

    If you got NOTHIN’, there are just a few Cyber Monday STILL deals hanging around, and we’re sharing them with you here so you don’t miss out completely.

    First off, this is the LAST CHANCE to get your discount from our good friend Debi Sementelli from Lettering Art Studio. Debi designs fabulous fonts that add a calligraphy-style look to  any wedding project! She’s lent her lettering talents to fancy corporate clients such as Neiman Marcus, Target, The Paper Source, and Marriott Hotels –  and now she has a special deal exclusively for BABs! Debi has just unveiled her latest, vintage-inspired font creation: “DOMLOVESMARY“. Created with the wedding client in mind, this set of 66 typeface designs includes envelope friendly titles: Mr and Mrs, Mr, Mrs, Miss, Ms, Doctor, the Doctors, as well as words to fill out your invitation suite: RSVP, Respond, Save the Date, Accommodations, Directions and more! You can get 40% off this correspondence ink package right now through Dec. 1st at with the coupon code “BLOGLOVE”.

    Adorn is offering 20% off on all jewelry rentals with coupon code “FALLBRIDE”.  There’s a gorgeous piece for every taste – whether you prefer diamonds, pearls, or platinum bling! Coupon code expires TODAY, 11/30.

    Noritake is running its biggest sale of the year – 30% off all merchandise, including sale items! Plus, FREE ground shipping on all orders! This sale starts Thanksgiving Day at 8 pm EST. If you’re missing a few sets of that flatware you registered for, or you’d like to pick up a few matching dinnerware accessories, now is your big chance! Act fast, because this crazy sale ends TODAY.

    Get 20% off ridiculously pretty bridal hair accessories, hair clips, and headbands from the lovely Etsy seller Bella & Beya! Just use coupon code “THANKFUL”.

    If you or your groom are shopping for groomsmen gifts, is giving you 15% off ALL WEEK LONG with coupon code “CYBERMON2012″!

    Shabby Apple is STILL having a site-wide sale on their ADORBS, vintage-inspired dresses, shoes, and accessories for gals of all sizes! Get 20% off with coupon code: “JOYFULSEASON.”

    Southern California’s De-Lovely Events is offering 15% off all wedding planning services through December 31, 2012! Book ANY service with a $500 deposit on Black Friday! All services include a complimentary initial meet and greet, Pinterest design/vision board and some UNBELIEVABLE support throughout your planning process! More details or to hook up this deal: visit their site and enter code “LUVDE2012″ in your inquiry!

    Want access to the latest deals exclusively for brides and BABs? Sign up for our weekly (but totally going bi-weekly in 2013) BAB newsletter! And while you’re at it, follow us on Pinterest, Twitter, and ye olde Facebook page!

    Alrighty! Now on to some news of a more life-affirming variety…

    As you know, Washington was one of the first 3 states to ever legalize gay marriage via popular vote! WOOT! Our BAB team member Mellzah is helping out with a fabulous project instigated by infamous sex and relationship advice columnist Dan Savage, of “Savage Love” fame. On December 9th, same-sex couples will be flooding Seattle City Hall to FINALLY make it official (in a 100% legally binding way! More deets here. ). Dan Savage and co. hatched a plan to give Seattle City Hall an epic make-over by professional set designers, paper artists, and the like, and fabulous peeps like Mellzah are doing their part by handing out boutonnieres and bouquets to brides and grooms on their way to marry other brides and grooms! Mellz and her crew are issuing a shout out to benevolent, LGBTQ-friendly florists to donate bouts and bouquets so that can bestow a little floral lovin’ on as many couples as possible! If you’d like to help out,  here’s the event facebook page, and you can watch Dan Savage’s video here! (We’ll be covering this extensively on the blog, btw.)

    Are you desperate to find someone to do odd jobs around the home, or for your wedding day? Dana tried out TaskRabbit for the very first time this week, and she is ALL ABOUT IT. Every TaskRabbit is a friendly, reliable, background checked individual (no more Craigslist shadiness!) that can help you with practically everything from pet-sitting to personal shopping to home delivery to mastering Microsoft Excel! And did we mention, there’s an entire section for “Event Help”?! (BONUS: you can get $10 off your first task if you click this link!)

    Lastly but not leastly, we have not one but TWO totally bumpin’ giveaways this week – one for a $200 DIY wedding videography package form Storymix Media! (For full deets, click here!) You can also snag a 16 X 24 stretched canvas of your fave wedding print from our pals at CanvasPop! (Get in on that sweet giveaway action right here!)

    And for all you BAB-lovin’ vendors out there, we’ve got something a little special for you too! Our 20% off Holiday Sale is still going on for December! Email our Advertising Guru Christen at for all the deets!

  • 8/16

    We’ll shout it from the rooftops: We heart marriage equality! And our fabulous bloggy friends over at A Practical Wedding are throwing a fabulous shindig in NYC to celebrate the state’s recent legalization of gay marriage! “Yay New York: A Mass Reception to Celebrate Marriage Equality” is taking place on August 25th at 320 Studio in Manhattan’s fashion district. Check it out, it’s pretty stunning.…

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    Hell YES California! We are celebrating at Broke-Ass HQ because yesterday, a (bad-ass) California judge ruled the (effed up) ban on same-sex marriage known as (that asshole) Prop 8... freakin' unconstitutional, yo! Equality ROCKS! Here's to all of our L/G/B/T/Q brothers and sisters in love. Here's to marriage equality and the progress of civil rights. And here's to america... land of the free, home of…

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