A couple of weeks after my wedding, I was sitting with my cousin at some sort of family event when she turned to me and said “Would you do it all over again?” I think she was surprised (happily) when Matt and I said we absolutely would. She said most of the time when she talked to people before, they said it wasn’t worth the stress/time/energy/money/drama/etc. I think part of the reason we can still look back on the day and everything that came before it so positively is because we did plan our wedding the Broke-Ass way.
Us having a blast in our last minute splurge, a photo booth! Everyone else loved it too, it was packed all night! Photo by SK Photography
Our wedding was the culmination of a lot of hard work on both of our parts. I worked crazy hours the summer before the wedding, and Matt was working multiple jobs at the time. It was a labor of love for sure. We also worked really hard to find solutions to make sure our priorities were met. There was a lot that went into it and it made the day of all that much sweeter. We could finally relax and just enjoy the day with the people we love surrounding us. Any bells and whistles we had were about either representing ourselves or adding to the enjoyment of our friends and family, not because we “had to have” them or “it’s just what people do.” We did things our way. We even ended up going over our original budget by a little bit … but we did in a measured and purposeful way.
We got some pretty nifty souvenirs out of it too! Photo by SK Photography
As happy as we are with our wedding there are a few things we would do differently. If money wasn’t an issue, there’s a list a mile-long of people we would’ve loved to have there. I wish I had taken my dress from the people I bought it from and ran. I wish I hadn’t snapped at my mom at one point while we were taking family photos (it was just one quick snappy answer, but it was still not right). The thing is, money WAS an issue, and we will hopefully get to celebrate our new life together with the people that we couldn’t invite at other times. I didn’t realize the dress shop was an issue until it was too late and I can’t beat myself up over that. The moment with my mom happened quickly and was over. It really didn’t affect the way we interacted the rest of the day, and it was borne out of my mom having the same priorities as me at heart. She wanted to be sure my guests weren’t starving while we were busy taking pictures. I was kind of snippy with her because I knew that my guests were being served something and that we had scheduled the photos at that time as well. If we had been on the same page, we would’ve been fine.
I stressed a lot before the wedding too. Do I regret that? I don’t know, honestly. Part of it is just who I am. I’m nervous by nature and dealing with any kind of social situation freaks me out a little bit. Of course the thought of being surrounded by a bunch of people was going to worry me, even if it was a bunch of people I knew and loved. We were worried about how everything would turn out … and in part we took extra care to make sure that wasn’t the case. We had awesome people we were working with that worked with us to allay those fears. We also got much closer to a bunch of people in our life because they were there for us through it all and really showed us how many people really love us.
Us having a great time with a few of those people that love us (and that we love back!) Photo by SK Photography
In the end, we had such a successful day for a couple of reasons: We prioritized what was most important to us and kept our eyes on that throughout the planning process; we didn’t let drama get to us; we surrounded ourselves with people that love us; we picked vendors we liked who listened to us … the list goes on. The most important part of it though, is we can look back on it with pride and our heads held high. I think no matter what your budget is, if you can walk away from the day feeling like your money and time (and of course all those other things) were well spent on all the things that matter most to you and your spouse, you’ve planned a great Broke-Ass wedding. I know for us, it was well worth it because we stayed true to ourselves, made sure our priorities were met, and didn’t fall into the WIC trap of believing we needed anything more than we wanted. We trusted our choices and embraced and were understanding of our limitations. We have some pretty amazing memories thanks to all these things and I wouldn’t trade those in for anything in the world.