Broke-Ass Tag: California wedding


Hello fellow BABs! Michael and I are down to the last 50 days before the wedding and I can’t believe it. Time has gone by SO fast –I’m in full-on panic mode basically all the time.


That tiny girl in the hourglass is me. Source

My thoughts look like this:

“I need to build 10000 things and paint wood into adorable signs!”

“Are there any cute thrift stores where I can get vintage frames to put everywhere?”

“Blackboard paint.”

“I need a massage.”

“What are people eating at the cocktail hour?!”

“I need adorable programs. Can I make those?”

“Why is everything in this world not free?!”


Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited too, but everything you have to do for a wedding makes me glad I only have to do it once. (Any thoughts of being a wedding planner have also turned to dust during this planning process.)

When I start to feel overwhelmed I remember how far we’ve come in the few (9) months since we got engaged. When we got engaged:

— We had both recently graduated from college.

— Michael just got hired at his first big boy job out of school.

— I was waiting tables slash for my life to begin.

— We were both living in San Diego.


— I got a job in L.A. and moved.

— Michael is about to transfer up to L.A.

— We rented our first apartment: I’ll be living in it solo up until the wedding (my first and last time ever living alone).

I figure that if that much could happen, all while planning the wedding, without anything going disastrously wrong then I can get through these next 50 days.

How about you ladies –How are dealing with your countdown?

  • 3/21

    You guys!!! Spring has officially sprung, and while it looks like it’ll be nice in my little neck of the woods for the next couple of days, spring usually means at least two months of rain and mud. With that in mind, how about a Real Wedding that highlights the fact a little rain never hurt anyone and can actually make for some pretty great photos? Reba and Andy got married at a really cool YMCA in California. It did, indeed, rain on their parade, but didn’t dampen their spirits. And they got a visit from wildlife! Let’s check their innovative, DIY-filled rainy event, shall we?

    Name: Reba and Andy

    Occupation: Yoga teacher

    Wedding location: YMCA Point Bonita, Sausalito, Calif.

    Wedding Date: 11/5/11

    budget: $10,000

    How would you describe your wedding: Casual, relaxed, in nature. The officiant helped us write our own vows, which included anecdotes about us meeting for the 1st time.

    What was your favorite part of your wedding? Saying “I do” of course! Kissing my husband in the rain and feeling surrounded by love and support from our friends and family.

    What did you splurge on? Photographer, cake, shuttle buses.

    What did you save on? Coordinator, venue (price included dinner), invitations, booze, dress.

    Was there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect? Not a thing

    What was your biggest challenge in planning? We really didn’t have too many. Even the wedding dress, I bought the first one I tried on.  Maybe the biggest challenge was doing so much of it on our own. We really took DIY to the extreme. The day of, the groom was buying non-alcoholic drinks, and dropping them off.  A few days before, I realized I needed to have some plywood to cover a very ugly fire pit where we would stand to get married. So I was at Home Depot, getting the plywood, and finding a way to make it fit into our Volkswagen, and delivering it to the Y, and making sure the tablecloth would cover it.

    What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? Friends are so helpful. Three of my girlfriends did the flowers for the tables and the bouquet.  Some other friends delivered the alcohol. Having a coordinator (and her two sisters) was the best suggestion, made by my mom. They took care of everything, even cut the cake for us. And the coordinator realized just in time that the officiator had left without signing the marriage license, and called her to get her to come back.

    What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding? Everyone talked and had fun, the toasts were spontaneous and funny, the food was delicious, the views of the ocean so beautiful.  We had a clothesline of photos of us, friends and family, and I loved seeing people look at them and laugh.

    Top 5 least favorite? Well, it rained, so there was no sunset.  But it really didn’t matter.

    The best? Enjoy every minute of the day, it goes by fast! And for the groom, his friend told him not to drink too much.

    If you’ve been married for more than a year, what have been some challenges? Wanting to go on a honeymoon, but not having the money to do so,  but it’ll happen.

    Any other bits of wisdom?  If you are planning an outdoor wedding, and it rains, don’t worry about it.  It makes for beautiful photos, and people don’t really care.  Also, it’s nice to have casual events around the wedding day.  We had a yoga class and pizza party the night before at the hotel, which was inexpensive and fun.  Everyone brought their own drinks and got to know each other.  We also did a walk in Muir Woods the day before.


    Budget breakdown? Click to view spreadsheet.

    Photography: Alison Yin

    Coordinator: Andrea Frenkel of Lily and Mint

    Venue: YMCA Point Bonita

    Submitted via Two Bright Lights.

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