Broke-Ass Tag: budget friendly

8/29

A lot of pre-wedding activities like the bridal shower or bachelorette had to be organized remotely or during short trips home because, (as I’ve mentioned in previous posts), due to a recent move, Ev and I live pretty far away from most of our family and friends. Three out of four of my bridesmaids, as well as my bridesman, don’t live near me. I found myself stumped as to how I might manage a bridal shower, bachelorette party AND a wedding with everyone involved without us spending all of our money on place tickets.

So, I decided to drop one of them.

I was insistent on a bachelorette party.

I am a bit of a goofball and I knew a night of getting silly would be the perfect remedy for pre-wedding stress. Because everyone is planning on coming in to town a few days before the wedding, I planned it for the Wednesday before. I know this might seem like a bit of a bad idea, but I have a game plan.

I firmly indicated to my girls that while I do indulge in a few libations, I’m not trying to have a three-day hangover, and they respect that. I assigned my girl K to plan the it and know she’s good for keeping the party fun within reason. I asked her to surprise me, within a few parameters: I have requested that it involve playing Mario Kart, doing some king of team-building exercise such a laser tag (but not anything that will send me home covered in bruises, such as paintball), and that we go for drinks at a pub that has good beer.

Finally, I requested requested that we keep the activities affordable for everyone, naturally, because I’m broke-ass. She agreed and promised that I’m going to love it. Knowing her, that I will probably end up in one of those giant inflatable T-Rex costumes by the end of the night. I promise I’ll post pictures.

bridal shower costumeInflatable T-Rex Costume, $51.99 from Amazon

After getting that set up, I realized that having a bridal shower probably wasn’t in the cards. Everyone had already used up vacation time and spent money to come to the wedding, I didn’t want to ask them to do it again for my shower. I also didn’t want to try to cram that in also during the week before the wedding. Doing that, plus the everything else, would just be way too much. In the end, I wasn’t nearly as excited about it as the other things.

So, I chose to opt out.

Nobody was terribly fussed about it. I didn’t expect it, but a few of my bridesmaids and female family members chose to give me small shower gifts at times when we got together. That, honestly, was a pretty nice alternative. I was able to accept the gift in a manner that wasn’t rushed, and then got to spend quality time with the person. So, for my individual situation, that was the best way it could have worked out. There’s perks to being broke-ass!

Next time I post, I will be a married woman! See you then!

Holly

  • 8/4

    Reader Maya emailed looking for help finding and affordable gown:

    Hi, I really love the dress Inca by Grace Loves Lace, but can’t spend $3000 on a dress, I’m trying to keep it under $500. Is there a knock of it that I can afford? {sic}
    Thank you!

    The Inca gown is a gorgeous all lace gown with long sleeves and an open back.  It appears to have a nude underlay to give that sheer look. I’ll focus my search on similar sheer lace dresses, concentrating on those with sleeves in your budget. For those that don’t have sleeves, think about a shrug (something I did with my wedding gown for the reception!). Let’s see what I find …

    Inca gown; $2,800 by Grace Loves Lace

    Lace Trumpet Gown, style TR21722; $500 by Modest by Mon Cheri

    Fallon dress; $490 at BHLDN

    Long Sleeve Lace Mermaid Wedding Dress; $450 at David’s Bridal

    Jessica Howard Lace Blouson Maxi Dress; $83 at Dillard’s

    Scallop Beaded Lace Halter V-Neck Trumpet Gown; $450 at David’s Bridal

    Right Here Right Wow Maxi Dress in Ivory; $140 at Modcloth

    Slim Trumpet Wedding Dress, style 116138; $500 by Mon Cheri

    And a couple slightly over your budget…

    Umelia dress; $540 by Etsy Seller VictoriaSprinia

    Long sleeve bohemian embroidered dress with sheer details; $550 by Adrianna Papell

    Let us know what you think of these gowns!  And best of luck with your wedding planning!

    -Jennifer

    Got a gown that you just can’t get off your mind? We’re happy to help you get over it! Just tell us in the comments below! Please remember to include the budget you’re working with so we can find you the best alternative for you. Please be aware, though, that because you guys love this column so much, we can often build up quite the queue and it may be a while before we can get to your dream dress. Rest assured, though, Team Broke-Ass is on the case!

    *As always, please do your own research before buying a gown online. Team Broke-Ass is here to provide you with inspiration and resources, but it is up to the consumer to know what they’re purchasing.
  • 7/13

    Good morning BABs! Another bride has fallen in love with the style of designer Berta's gowns, and CAI/GOI is here to help! Mandy J wrote on this post asking for help: Absolutely in love with Berta style 15-101 (long sleeves, backless, godet train, geometric inspired details). My budget is $3k and under. Thank you!! Happy to help, Mandy! Berta has a unique modern, yet romantic style,…

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    6/23

    Happy Thursday, BABs! Today’s CAI/GOI request is from reader Jenny, who is searching for a Rue de Seine “Haze” look-alike for under £1,000 (approximately $1,300) and available in the UK. She writes: “Hi, I really love Rue de Seine's Haze dress but only have a budget of max £1000. Do you know of any similar but cheaper dresses out there & available in the UK?…

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    6/9

    Welcome back CAI/GOI lovers!  Today's request is from reader Terri, who commented on this post: Hi! I landed on this page while searching Amsale-inspired dresses! I'm in love with the Amsale-inspired May, specifically the minimalistic style and elegant sheer look and buttons on the back, and am hoping to find an alternative for under $1000! Please help!! Hi Terri! We are happy to see more…

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    5/18

      Hi BABs!  This week’s request comes from reader Stephanie, who wrote to us on this post and is inspired by several Hayley Paige gowns: I'm a broke-ass-bride and I love Hayley Paige! I am trying to find a style with her signature layered, flowy skirt look, spaghetti straps with a v-neck, and some kind of shimmer or fun detail! My favorites of hers are the…

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    11/16

    BABs, let's talk rings. Yeah, that ring. As Broke-Asses, we typically like for our ring to match our lifestyle -- classy but savvy, fun but smart, stunning but brilliant. And that means finding the most bang for your buck with that all-important engagement ring. You know what you like, now you just have to find the one that makes the most sense for your taste…

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    7/30

    Upcycling and being a Broke-Ass go hand-in-hand. Add some hot color, fun designs, eco-friendliness and an Etsy seller? Looks like we've got a BAB match made in heaven with Topaz and Opal. Kim, the mastermind behind Topaz and Opal, has a history of teaching, but a passion for making these super fun, bright baubles. Her decoupage skillz give bright new life to regular items (check…

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    4/1

    The Broke-Ass Bride is proud to partner with Brides Against Breast Cancer, turning gently used designer gowns into a beacon of hope in the worldwide fight against breast cancer. If you'd like to donate your gown, here's how. If you're in need of a gown, Brides Against Breast Cancer runs a nationwide tour of gowns, and you should most definitely check it out when it…

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