Hello my fellow BABs! Greetings from Connecticut!
My name is Kimberly and I am a 36 year old Database and Office manager. In addition to being the lucky mom of a fabulous 18-month-old daughter, I am also the momma of a 14-year-old grumpy pug. My fiance, Antonio, and I are planning a romantic, garden themed wedding for (hopefully) 100 guests. Our wedding will be taking place summer of 2019, so that we have plenty of time to save. Therefore, I’ve decided to take my time and come up with various options before I get into the nitty gritty of wedding planning. Of course, I’ve already joined various wedding crafting groups and signed up for at least five wedding-themed newsletters. I’ve also read so many real wedding stories that I could fill a three-subject notebook with tips, tricks and anecdotes, and I’ve only been engaged since March.
The Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments
1. Thou Shalt Embrace Thine Inner Crafting Goddess
Fact: When you are on a broke-ass budget, DIY will become your middle name. Give into it. Embrace it. Dive in like you would dive into a carton of Hagan Daaz after you’ve been dieting for a week. (Don’t act like that’s just me.) The key is to know what you are good at and what you can teach yourself. Most of all, know what you shouldn’t touch with a 20-foot pole, rubber gloves and a hazmat suit. Play to your strengths and you’ll be fine. Also, keep in mind how much time your DIY projects will cost you, because if you don’t, you will take on more than you can handle and you WILL regret it.
2. Thou Shalt Stay True to Thine Own Style, Not What’s Trending on Pinterest
Don’t get me wrong, I love Pinterest. I love, love, LOVE it, because Pinterest can provide you with a lot of great ideas and inspiration. However, Pinterest can also drop kick you into the fiery chasm of hell if you let it. Why? First of all, Pinterest can lead to the decimation of your budget. That’s huge. Furthermore, you may find yourself on the day of your wedding looking around at a mish-mash of styles that say nothing about who you are as a bride and as a couple. If bold colors are what’s hot, but you had your heart set on earthy tones, then guess what — earth tones it is! Your wedding will be beautiful because it will be a reflection of you.
3. Thou Shalt Ask for Help if Thou Needs It
I’m not sure how, or why, it happens; but as soon as we have that beautiful ring on our finger we turn into Super Bride. Super Brides think they are indestructible and can plan this amazing wedding all by themselves. Wrong! You ARE amazing, but you you CAN’T do everything by yourself, nor should you try. Super Brides often find themselves overextended, and as result, they burn out. So, if you don’t want to be a frazzled mess of a bride on your wedding day, ask for help. Bridesmaids are not just for looking pretty in pictures, they are there to support you. Now, having said that, please do not think I am encouraging the indentured servitude of your friends and family. Remember, they are not there to plan the wedding for you, but to lend a helping hand when you need one.
4. Thou Shalt Not Become Bridezilla
Planning a wedding is stressful, and you are bound to have a short fuse from time to time. It’s expected. Having a bridezilla moment is not the end of the world. No friendships will be ruined, no innocent villages will be destroyed. You will recover. However, if you are a raging, bridezilla from the moment you said “yes” you will run the risk of ruining some relationships. If you need an outlet go for a walk or a run, hit a punching bag, get a massage. Do something. Whatever you do, do not unleash the beast on your friends and family members who are just trying to help.
5. Thou Shalt Splurge on One Detail or Two
If there’s one thing that a broke-asses learns early on, it’s that you can’t have everything that you want. You have to decide what is a “must-have” and what is a “nice-to-have” and crossing those “nice-to-have” items off of your list can be depressing. However, being a broke-ass does not mean that you can’t splurge a little. In fact, I encourage it. If it’s important to you to get married under a beautiful wedding arch, put extra money into your decor budget. If you and your fiance are foodies, flush out that catering budget. It’s your wedding day, if ever there was an occasion for a little splurge it’s your wedding day. And when I say “little splurge” I mean “little splurge.” Do NOT go crazy and start over-spending left and right.
***Stay tuned for Part TWO!***
My fiancee and I — pre-wedding planning madness.