Broke-Ass Tag: Broke-Ass Wedding

5/31

Hello my fellow BABs! Greetings from Connecticut!

My name is Kimberly and I am a 36 year old Database and Office manager. In addition to being the lucky mom of a fabulous 18-month-old daughter, I am also the momma of a 14-year-old grumpy pug. My fiance, Antonio, and I are planning a romantic, garden themed wedding for (hopefully) 100 guests. Our wedding will be taking place summer of 2019, so that we have plenty of time to save. Therefore, I’ve decided to take my time and come up with various options before I get into the nitty gritty of wedding planning. Of course, I’ve already joined various wedding crafting groups and signed up for at least five wedding-themed newsletters. I’ve also read so many real wedding stories that I could fill a three-subject notebook with tips, tricks and anecdotes, and I’ve only been engaged since March.

Ready? Here we go!

The Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments

1. Thou Shalt Embrace Thine Inner Crafting Goddess  

Fact: When you are on a broke-ass budget, DIY will become your middle name. Give into it. Embrace it. Dive in like you would dive into a carton of Hagan Daaz after you’ve been dieting for a week. (Don’t act like that’s just me.) The key is to know what you are good at and what you can teach yourself. Most of all, know what you shouldn’t touch with a 20-foot pole, rubber gloves and a hazmat suit. Play to your strengths and you’ll be fine. Also, keep in mind how much time your DIY projects will cost you, because if you don’t, you will take on more than you can handle and you WILL regret it.

2. Thou Shalt Stay True to Thine Own Style, Not What’s Trending on Pinterest

Don’t get me wrong, I love Pinterest. I love, love, LOVE it, because Pinterest can provide you with a lot of great ideas and inspiration. However, Pinterest can also drop kick you into the fiery chasm of hell if you let it. Why? First of all, Pinterest can lead to the decimation of your budget. That’s huge. Furthermore, you may find yourself  on the day of your wedding looking around at a mish-mash of styles that say nothing about who you are as a bride and as a couple. If bold colors are what’s hot, but you had your heart set on earthy tones, then guess what — earth tones it is! Your wedding will be beautiful because it will be a reflection of you.

3. Thou Shalt Ask for Help if Thou Needs It

I’m not sure how, or why, it happens; but as soon as we have that beautiful ring on our finger we turn into Super Bride. Super Brides think they are indestructible and can plan this amazing wedding all by themselves. Wrong! You ARE amazing, but you you CAN’T do everything by yourself, nor should you try. Super Brides often find themselves overextended, and as result, they burn out. So, if you don’t want to be a frazzled mess of a bride on your wedding day, ask for help. Bridesmaids are not just for looking pretty in pictures, they are there to support you. Now, having said that, please do not think I am encouraging the indentured servitude of your friends and family. Remember, they are not there to plan the wedding for you, but to lend a helping hand when you need one.

4. Thou Shalt Not Become Bridezilla

Planning a wedding is stressful, and you are bound to have a short fuse from time to time. It’s expected. Having a bridezilla moment is not the end of the world. No friendships will be ruined, no innocent villages will be destroyed. You will recover. However, if you are a raging, bridezilla from the moment you said “yes” you will run the risk of ruining some relationships. If you need an outlet go for a walk or a run, hit a punching bag, get a massage. Do something. Whatever you do, do not unleash the beast on your friends and family members who are just trying to help. 

5. Thou Shalt Splurge on One Detail or Two    

If there’s one thing that a broke-asses learns early on, it’s that you can’t have everything that you want. You have to decide what is a “must-have” and what is a “nice-to-have” and crossing those “nice-to-have” items off of your list can be depressing. However, being a broke-ass does not mean that you can’t splurge a little. In fact, I encourage it. If it’s important to you to get married under a beautiful wedding arch, put extra money into your decor budget. If you and your fiance are foodies, flush out that catering budget. It’s your wedding day, if ever there was an occasion for a little splurge it’s your wedding day. And when I say “little splurge” I mean “little splurge.” Do NOT go crazy and start over-spending left and right.

 

***Stay tuned for Part TWO!***

 

My fiancee and I — pre-wedding planning madness.

  • 7/14

    As my moniker suggests, I am a full-on musical-theatre-loving, jazz-handing, amateur dramatist. For those unfamiliar with my post code (zip code for you American readers), Bristol is a hot-bed of creative people. So I am incredibly fortunate that two key parts of the wedding will be deftly handled by talented people we both know and love.

    First up: Photography. All the blogs I have read on wedding planning have said the same thing — don’t skimp on the photographer. The one thing you will have to remember your day by will be the photographs, and it’s worth investing in someone who will ensure they deliver beautiful memories for you.

    That being said, I am still a Broke-Ass Bride through and through, and was therefore delighted when a dear friend of ours got in touch and said he would be able to work something out with us. Music to my broke-ass ears.

    What is even better is that he is exactly the sort of photographer we both want. Mike was particularly delighted by his examples of candid photographs. We both felt that what we wanted was a minimal amount of “set up” shots, and mostly just someone there to capture what was happening organically. Joyfully, the discussion of what sort of photos we want, and looking at lots of other couples on their special days, rejuvenated our excitement about getting married. It was great to have a moment where we remembered what all the planning and negotiating and stress was going to be for!

    Stewart shoots live theatre as well as weddings, and in fact all the previous pictures on the blog of me doing theatre have been his. Here’s a few more for good measure:

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    That’s my fiancé in the middle of both pics as well — we always seem to be hugging with other people on stage …

    We also get a pre-wedding shoot, where we will likely head off to one of our usual haunts (although I have occasional flights of fancy where I think we could go to the Old Vic or Hippodrome, two beautiful theatres in our city, for the shoot).

    I know not everyone is lucky enough to have a buddy who can help with this stuff, but my advice would be to go to your extended networks via the good ole social media. If you hunt around you’re likely to find someone who knows someone, and any personal connection will help!

    Tune in to my next post for where else my friends are coming in proper handy … with music!

    Do you have any friends that are helping out in a big way? Tell us below!

    Emma Watkins