Broke-Ass Tag: bridesmaid

4/3

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Here are a few more bridal party norms in place that I’ve observed, which are also huge money suckers for both the marrying couple and the attendants:

  • Bridesmaids and groomsmen must all wear the same dress/suit, and the bride/groom gets to choose it, and it must be expensive-looking and formal. This usually meaning it must be purchased or rented for the purpose of the event, and likely means it will be worn only once.
  • Bridesmaids should have their hair, makeup and nails done professionally, and in more or less the same way.

I know there are varying schools of thought on who foots the bill for the above two points. However, in either case, it is a heckuva lot of money. If the bride and groom pay, that’s the cherry on top of a gigantic bill for their wedding. If the wedding party members pay, it is a gigantic cherry on top the costs of transportation, lodging, gifts, babysitters, lost wages from missing work, etc.

For ease, and with respect to experience level, I’ve left Ev in charge of coordinating the outfits of the suit-wearing members of our wedding party, while I’m navigating the needs of the dress-wearing group. My bridesmaids, and Evan’s groomswomen, are all gorgeous and stylish people. They’re also delightfully unique, which is what we love about them, and they feel comfortable wearing different things. So, why would we want them to all look the same? I believe that have the capacity to pick their own dresses and choose what hairstyle, and amount of (if any) makeup they want to wear in my wedding. That way, I know that they will both feel comfortable, and look fly as hell.

However, I also know that getting all dolled up together can be a fun, de-stressing, bonding time for all of us. So, I’ve struck a balance. I have requested that they choose own dresses, but they can choose one that fits their personal style — I just ask that it be a shade of my chosen wedding color. Then, they can wear it again!

I am willing to pay for hairstyling, unless someone doesn’t want it done. The cost of hair and makeup combined is cheaper than each separately, so I told each of them that if they wanted to have their makeup done, they could just pay the difference in upgrading from hair-only to hair and makeup. They are free to choose whatever style makes them feel comfortable and pretty. As for shoes? Nails? Meh. Up to them.

In the end, maybe my expectations are low, but to be honest I’m just grateful that they’re going to be there. The last thing I’m going to notice in the photos, when I look at them in 20 years, is if all my bridesmaids look perfectly done-up and identical to each other … rather, I will probably be remembering how much fun we had that day, and how much I love them.

How have you approached the look of your wedding party? Do you want a uniform aesthetic or are you more laissez faire about it?

 

  • 10/17

    Are we sick of that play on words? Maybe? I don’t know. Puns. I dig ’em. Anyway, since we’ve had oodles of convo surrounding Halloween weddings this week (I mean, you saw the HP Lovecraft-inspired shoot, right?), it seemed appropriate to find some great dresses for this haunted holiday, whether you’re hitting the parties or are planning your own eerie I Do’s — and all of them are frightfully budget-friendly at under $100!

    Take Me There Black Long Sleeve Lace Dress - Lulu's

    Take Me There Black Long Sleeve Lace Dress, $56 at Lulu’sThe Body Eclectic Dress - ModCloth
    The Body Eclectic Dress, $89.99 at ModCloth
    Red & Black Lace Annabella Wiggle Dress - Unique Vintage
    Red & Black Lace Annabella Wiggle Dress, $60 at Unique Vintage

    Unique Vintage’s site has this styled in Dia de los Muertos style, with fabulous sugar skull makeup. I die.

    Black Long Sleeve Bats Print Dress - SheInside
    Black Long Sleeve Bats Print Dress, $17.59 at SheInsideWhat a Spangled Web We Weave Dress - ModClothWhat a Spangled Web We Weave, $94.99 at ModCloth

    (Guys. The sparklez!)

    How do you like these boo-tiful (sorry) dresses? How will you be dressing up for Halloween?

    christen
  • 10/3

    This card should do the trick! Available from Etsy seller PattersonPaper Dear Heather, I haven't asked anyone to be my bridesmaid yet, because I'm scared they'll say no when I tell them I can't afford to buy their dresses. How do I broach the subject to them without putting them in a position where they feel like they can't say no? Heather Dear Heather, Awesome…

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    6/13

    Food and money. Man, oh, man. Isn't that the broke-ass life? You always try to have enough of both, but what about when you're trying to throw a big ol' party? That's where the stakes get raised, and some good, timeless advice from erstwhile BAB team member Liz, of Silver Charm Events, swoops in to soothe the nerves. Dear Liz, My fiance and I LOVE a…

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    5/6

    I recently had the privilege to be a bridesmaid for one of my closest friends. This was my first time as a bridesmaid, and my first time attending the wedding of a friend (as opposed to a family member). I hadn’t been to a traditional wedding for a couple years, so getting to be an important part of one, especially one with a bride so…

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    3/24

    Ahhh, bridesmaids. Your ladies in waiting. Your personal party planners. Your servants. Your army of skanks. Lucky for me, my mom birthed a bridal party so my decision was relatively easy. Three sisters? Boom. One cousin that is basically like a sister and was your ever-trusted partner in crime growing up? Also, boom. One best friend who would do absolutely anything for you including address all…

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    3/10

    How do you choose your maid of honor? Until recently the question was easy: my high school best friend & mother of my two goddaughters. As I grew closer to one of my college roommates, however, I started to wonder. Once I got engaged it was a dilemma: I love my high school best friend, but I knew that my college roommate had more time…

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    9/4

    Shoes are one of my greatest loves, but they're tragically often out of my budget. Sounds like Colleen is in a similar situation. Hello!  I'm a fellow blogger and also a bridesmaid for a wedding this December. The bride is thinking of having us wear gray booties. The prettiest pair we've found are Vera Wang -- which are upwards of $350!! If you're interested in…

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