Photo: Carole Cohen
Before I got engaged, I always said I wouldn’t let my wedding take over my life. I watched so many friends become consumed by their wedding planning process. Every time we hung out would become about some wedding-related activity, whether it be dress shopping or a trip to Michael’s. Our dinner conversations would revolve around their latest updates. I vowed this would not be me. After all, there is a lot more going on in my life: jobs, friendships, hobbies … and people are probably a lot more interested in the other aspects of my life. No one cares as much about my wedding as I do! Well, apparently, that is not the case.
Everyone wants to talk about my wedding. It has become a more popular topic than the weather, and people love talking about the weather. I attended a conference this week where I saw many of my former co-workers. The first question everyone asked was “how’s wedding planning going?” or “your wedding is right around the corner!” No one wanted to know how my new job was or noticed my new hair style. Even a person they hired after me asked about my wedding, having heard about it from my friends. It definitely feels nice that so many people care about me and my big day, but sometimes I want a break from wedding mania! Believe it or not, there are times even I don’t want to talk about my wedding.
Weddings (and pregnancies) seem to be universally relatable. Strangers see a ring, and immediately feel comfortable asking you all about your plans and telling stories of their own weddings, whether they are planning or have been married for 50 years. You, of course, smile and nod and make pleasant conversation with all of these people, but if you’re like me, after a while you get tired of explaining your plans to people and telling the same stories over and over, justifying your choices in a way. Right now, I’m in the waiting phase where all the major stuff is set, and not much is going on in the way of planning, so I don’t really have much to tell. Even my mom seems to expect me to talk about the wedding all the time and is disappointed when I don’t have updates. So please, if you see me, talk about the weather.