4/13 Seven Reasons To Believe in Weddings

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Jesse and Rima

There is a great debate in Wedding World these days, as to why we all do this. And, as a side note, as to why anyone else would. Weddings are down, cohabitation is up. Why, why, why? My life as a wedding coordinator and as an officiant – Ground Zero, as it were –  has given me a few theories on that (Hint #1: The average wedding in the U.S. rivals the cost of a B.A. at UCLA these days – Go Bruins). There’s an article on Huffington Post this week – Seven Reasons To Believe in Marriage – and I agree with them all. But why do weddings matter?

1. The act of publicly committing yourself to another person. Vowing before everyone you love and whichever deity you do or do not believe in, “This is who we are, and we are dedicating our lives to each other.”  No matter how many people are watching, I think the public part is a good  reminder that this is no small feat you are undertaking. And, hey, you promised!

2. Celebrating that commitment to another person – It’s no small feat, but it is one based in love and joy. I think that calls for a party, don’t you?

3. A great reason to get all those people in the same room. I’ve said it before, and I will say it again: There are at least five people on your guest list who you haven’t seen in forever and can’t wait to hang out with at your wedding. Don’t discount it – this is one of the few opportunities you’ll have to  get all the people you dig and who dig you in the same place. It’s a one-stop shop for a good time.

4. Finding out how the two of you work together, and how to improve how you work together. This will come into play many times during your marriage. Planning a wedding will teach you how to compromise. How to reach a goal under a time limit, and often, under stress. You’ll figure out the best way to deal with your families. You’ll figure out the best way to deal with each other. I’ve said this before, too, and you should really trust me on this one.

5. Seriously, The Love, you guys! No, really. Right now I’m thinking about the wedding I performed on Easter, and the way the two of them were looking at each other. And the way everyone was looking at them? They’d created this day that had all the things that made them happy, from the purple roses to the Appletinis to the 4 hour photo booth. It is, what’s the word, gratifying, to create that kind of environment for yourself, surrounded by your own idea of The Pretty and the Cool. It’s one day, yes. But it’s your day.

And the practical and political reasons:

Me and The Boy

I am just saying. (Photo by B&G Photography)

6. For the same reason you vote. Because you can. And it’s another one of those infrequent times were you get to publicly affirm your choice. And everyone should be able to do this. 45 years ago, The Boy and I couldn’t have gotten married in this state. Gay people across this country are facing this challenge today. If you want to and you can, go for it.

7.  The economy. One of the reasons Prop 8 annoyed me – aside from the obvious Lucy-snatching-the-football away-ness of it all – was that weddings are good for the economy. 18,000 couples got married at a time when the average cost of a wedding in CA was $25,000. That’s 450 million freakin’ dollars. Granted, not all of them spent that much. But there was a clerk who had to process their applications, the officiant who married them, and the other clerk who had to process the marriage license. And even a 10k wedding employs at least 5 people at some point, and most of the weddings I coordinate have twice that buzzing around. It’s not just the wedding planners and photographers who are getting paid.  Your venue staff, down to the busboys and the guy that mows the lawn outside, is taking a check home and pumping it back into the economy. Have a wedding – it’s patriotic. 🙂

So, why does having a wedding matter to you? And what do you think of my reasons? Let me know in the comments below!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith is the owner of Silver Charm Events, a wedding planning service in Los Angeles. She's also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and the author of "DIY Your DOC: Do-it Yourself Wedding Day Coordination." Follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
  • Yes! I agree – my partner and I also couldn't have married 45 years ago (thank you Supreme Court for getting that one right!)…I honestly think that if getting married on a whim wasn't something we all took for granted, there would be more authentic weddings all around.

    • missscarlet88

      I would take my happy butt down to the court house now if I could, but there is one thing that was on your list that really says it all. It's a reason to celebrate your love and get all your favorite people in one room to celebrate with you. I believe in marriage, I believe that with the right person it can work, and I am not going to lie, I am really looking forward to the party, but I am also looking forward to rolling over in the mornings and saying "Good morning, my husband."

  • lizcharm

    Yeah, nine years later, I still get a thrill out of calling him my husband, too. Not going to lie.

  • Elise

    Thank you for this post!

  • "Have a wedding – it’s patriotic." HA! I love it 🙂