5/31 Real Bride Valerie: Bridal Shower Dread

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I am not one of those women who get excited about baby showers or bridal showers. A bunch of women mingling about the hors d’oeuvres and mimosas and how they know the bride or mother-to-be has never been my forte. I can’t say as I’ve been to a single shower that I wasn’t dying to leave by the end. And don’t get me started on the games.

We are not having a bridal party, so there’s no Maid of Honor to help plan a bridal shower, and I was actually totally fine with that. I was prepared just to skip the whole thing. My mom, the darling woman she is, Googled who’s responsible for the bridal shower when there is no Maid of Honor and she was elated to learn that modern etiquette indicated that it was her responsibility.

The idea of a bunch of women crammed into my mother’s living room, sitting uncomfortably on folding chairs and drinking mimosas while I awkwardly open gifts that I already knew I was receiving (registry, duh) made my stomach turn. I’m not a fan of the decorations, the themes and on top of that, the games. Ugh.

I am relieved to find out that my mother really does know me as well as I thought she did. It may have helped that I was pretty vocal about how much I hate bridal showers. There is no potluck, no living room, no folding chairs. There are games, but they are at an absolute bare minimum.

My mom and I went to check out Motor Bar and Restaurant at the Harley-Davidson Museum this past week. Motorcycles, the Milwaukee River, amazing outdoor seating, plenty of space for everyone — WIN. It was perfect. I am not a motorcycle rider, but it’s significantly cooler than my mom’s living room or the banquet hall at your local Italian restaurant chain.

The bridal shower was totally one of those things I was dreading, but my mom’s managed to find a place that isn’t hokey, or ordinary. I will deal with Bridal Bingo or whatever if I have good food, a good bar and a good atmosphere in return. It might actually be … sort of … fun?

Did you end up having a bridal shower against your better judgment? How did it turn out?

Valerie Bruce is a Real Bride Contributor for The Broke-Ass Bride. Shameless Wisconsinite, die-hard Packers fan, and forever Milwaukee-proud. Content Strategist, Fitbit-er, and a super slow, yet persevering, runner. Oxford comma enforcer and crafter extraordinaire. Eater, quasi-chef, and food Tweeter. Tweet along @eatinginmke.