7/12 Real Bride Megan: The Plateau

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I have hit my planning plateau.

I was told by many vendors that I was waaayyy ahead of the game when I was looking for our essentials in January with a wedding in November. That didn’t bother me one bit. There were days when I felt like all I thought about was Wedding. I won’t lie, it was annoying. I felt like other things in my life were falling to the wayside because I needed to get all the wedding things done right then! Turns out, I probably had some time. Yet, I knew that 95% if our guests would be traveling at least 3+ hours, at a minimum, to come to our wedding, so I wanted to get everything planned ASAP so they could have ample opportunity to plan to come. In addition, I might have been feeling some pressure from Papa G because Germans need to plan trips no less than six months in advance and we were eight months out and OMGWTF?!?!

What this meant for me was getting shit done efficiently and with plenty of lead time. It meant putting down deposits by the end of January. It meant ordering our invitations by the end of March and having them arrive in Germany by early May (a commitment I made to Papa G to give the Germans six months to plan their US adventures). Next, I’ve got a meeting with our wedding coordinator and decoration lady scheduled in July and it feels like I’m obsessively checking our wedding spreadsheets every day to see if anyone else has RSVPed.

Spoiler alert: NO, they have not.

I’m starting to see the benefit of RSVP cards since we got two of the eight we sent out to the elders within a few weeks of their arrival to the recipient. Otherwise, I have zero wedding things going on.

And ya know what, Dwight? I’m enjoying the plateau.

I’m enjoying not having to think about Wedding 24/7. I’m enjoying sitting down and watching Modern Family with Timo for an hour in the evening without having to harass him about details that he probably isn’t overly interested in, but he said he wanted to be involved with so I have to ask him about. I’m enjoying being able to focus on work and not feel like I’m neglecting house things because my brain is so over-tasked with all things Wedding.

Because the reality is, this plateau will not last.

I know it. I know that the details will start to matter and more people. My Mom and Dad and Besties are going to start asking me how wedding planning is going and Timo will not have picked out a suit by September and I will start to have meltdowns because: “Why doesn’t he care about this? We’ve been planning for over half a year! He’s had soooo much time to make this decision! I’ve done all these things and made all these decisions and he can’t even pick out something to wear! My dress was ordered in FEBRUARY!” 

I know that I will have to pick someone to do my hair. I know that I will need to do test runs. I know that my wedding coordinator will finally say, “No, Megan, YOU need to make this decision.”

But during this plateau, I’m taking care of me.

I’ll keep it super real with the BAB’s. I actually had hip surgery on June 1st, during the plateau. An unfortunate gym squat led to torn cartilage in my hip in January and after months of rest and physical therapy and a cortisone shot, our last option was surgery. I won’t lie, I’m a runner, so this was a very serious decision I had to make.

It’s super scary knowing that my orthopedic doctor and my physical therapist have a goal for me not to limp down the aisle on my wedding day. That’s a thing. So while I have enjoyed episodes of Modern Family and not discussing the Wedding, it’s still at the back of my mind as I sit in my CPM machine wondering when I will get full function back. I will also spend the month of June teleworking because I’m not allowed to drive (it’s my right hip and controlled substance pain killers). I get to spend my plateau on the couch teleworking and doing physical therapy to get my hip back to 100% so that way I might be able to walk the 10k we have already paid for the weekend before the wedding.

So that’s a little scary.

Anyone else have a plateau during their wedding planning?  Did anyone else have surgery before the wedding?


Megan emulates an old-lady in Charleston, SC. She's a fan of the oxford comma, all things Disney, most things chocolate, handy-dandy notebooks, earning medals for running, giving inanimate objects names, and laziness. Timo, Phil, and Meri alternate between driving Megan insane and keeping her sane. She knows it's all about balance, but if you could please pass the run, or the gin will do, too. When she isn't wedding planning, she blogs at Can I Decide Another Day?.