3/21 Real Bride Megan: Taking All the (Unsolicited) Advice in Stride

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We made all the big decisions within the first month of planning and everyone had advice for us.

I say this with love from the bottom of my heart: I didn’t care what anyone said.

From the “enjoy planning” to the “you need to do this first,” I ignored everyone. I didn’t want their advice. Guidance about how to go about the logistics of wedding planning, sure, if I’m asking. But advice? No. Keep it to yourself. I have this problem where I’m easy to read and it’s very difficult for me to hide the emotions because everything is visible on my face. I think people started to realize. Maybe it was my dead-eye stare or my RBF?

My bigger problem with taking advice was how to not be a bridezilla about whatever they said to me.  I’m still looking for help on this one, so I could probably use some guidance on this matter.

My next issue was people with suggestions.

Fun fact: EVERYONE will have suggestions that you “need” to do for your wedding.

Sometimes these suggestions are passive-aggressive comments from the family. Sometimes it’s your friends trying to be helpful. Sometimes it’s complete strangers who happened to hear from a cousin’s aunt’s best friend’s father-in-law that you’re getting married. Everrrryyyoooonnneee.

I’ve done pretty good at taking these suggestions, I like to think. Yet, I know there are some things that I’ve had to be downright rude about to get people to stop  There are also things I wish I had set my foot down about that I got pressured into doing (looking at you save-the-dates).

Have you received unwelcome advice and suggestions about your wedding?  Please share some of the stuff you’ve been graceful enough to endure.

 

 

 

Megan emulates an old-lady in Charleston, SC. She's a fan of the oxford comma, all things Disney, most things chocolate, handy-dandy notebooks, earning medals for running, giving inanimate objects names, and laziness. Timo, Phil, and Meri alternate between driving Megan insane and keeping her sane. She knows it's all about balance, but if you could please pass the run, or the gin will do, too. When she isn't wedding planning, she blogs at Can I Decide Another Day?.