5/27 Real Bride Meg: Ditching Traditions

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First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the realization of all of the traditions that come with it. From wearing white to tossing the bouquet and cutting the cake, there are many “rules” that brides and grooms are expected to follow on their wedding day, some dating back to the 14th century! Let’s take a look at some of them:

  • Brides began wearing white on their wedding day after Queen Victoria donned a white gown in 1840. She wanted to have some lace — a prized possession — incorporated into her gown.
  • The garter/bouquet toss is a very superstitious tradition. It all began in the 14th century when it was believed that having a piece of the bride’s wedding day outfit would bring good luck to men. Instead of having random men tear up the bride’s dress, women began wearing garters for the groom to remove and toss to single men. As a result, the bouquet toss was born so single women also had a chance at luck.
  • It’s hard to imagine these days, but it was bad luck for the groom to see the bride before making it to the altar. This suspicion came at a time when arranged marriages were the norm, and it was believed the bride’s father feared the groom would back out of the marriage if he did not like the bride’s appearance.
  • The wedding cake has a ton of traditions and suspicions. Some include the breaking of Banbury cake over the bride’s head (1655), cutting and sharing the cake as a symbol of unity, eating the cake crumbs for good luck and keeping the cake until the first anniversary to prevent problems within the marriage.


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While I consider myself a sentimental person and love the idea of traditions, most wedding traditions are not my cup of tea. We’ve decided to ditch most of them and put our own modern twist on others. This is 2015, after all!

Some of our broken traditions are becoming more of the norm these days, one being the first look. We went back and forth on this one for quite some time, but after talking to married couples who’ve been there, done that, we decided to go for it. Not only does this give us more time with the photographer so we can enjoy some of our cocktail hour later in the day, but it will most likely get rid of some pre-wedding jitters.

While many wedding ceremonies are still done in a church, we really wanted to have an outdoor wedding. A ceremony tradition we’re pushing aside is the groom’s entrance. Typically, the groom and his groomsmen have an unnoticed entrance. Steve’s parents really want to walk him down the aisle, however, so they’ll be making their trip just before the bridesmaids enter.

Our reception will be breaking a lot of rules, as well. As you all know, we’re the DIY type, which means a lot of unconventional details. Our menus will not be neatly placed on each table setting, you won’t find floral displays as centerpieces, and even our cake table isn’t really a “table.” We’ve done a lot of thrifting for our decor, and I can’t wait for our guests to see what we’ve come up with!
FullSizeRenderSome items I’ll be incorporating into our reception decor.

Oh, and that garter/bouquet toss? Absolutely not. I’m a modern gal and would never participate in these activities, even if the groom wasn’t scarred for life when he had to put a garter on his cousin when he was in middle school!

I’ve also told you all about how my bridesmaids chose their own dresses for a non-traditional mix-and-match look. I’d say that this bride’s look is a somewhat non-traditional, but I’ll let you be the judge …

Every other wedding tradition we’re participating in is pretty standard, from the run of the day, the vows, the cake cutting, the dancing through the night and the happily ever after.

So, what traditions are you keeping alive and which ones are you ditching?

Meg Douress is the pint-sized, freckle-faced, curly-haired Real Bride Blogger for The Broke-Ass Bride. She is a professional writer, amateur photographer and social media fiend who is set to wed her college sweetheart in June 2015. She enjoys obsessing over the lives of celebrities and being a Philadelphia phan. Join her on her thrifty wedding planning adventure on Pinterest and Instagram, and tune in to her sarcastic comments on Twitter: TheRealMegD.