11/21 Real Bride Holly: Flowers – Take Them or Leaf Them?

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Hello lovelies,

I’ll be honest, I haven’t been thinking about wedding stuff much this week. I’ve been very hard at work and probably wont be slowing down until about April. I’m okay with that, though — almost all of the major vendors have been nailed down. We have a venue, caterer, DJ and photographer, and I’ve got my dress. The only two things we have to get on in the next few months are the officiant and the florist. That being said, one of the ideas I’ve been rolling around in the ol’ noggin for the last few weeks is whether or not I really actually need the latter.

Yes, that’s right. I’m suggesting a wedding without any flowers.


It isn’t that I don’t like flowers. I love them. But, I generally like appreciating them in natural settings or in gardens. While I’m always grateful when my fiance and boyfriends of the past bought me flowers, I never felt the reaction I felt like I was supposed to. They’re pretty, but then they die and they go in the garbage and you have nothing to show for them, except maybe a begrudgingly liked Instagram post.
If my gentleman caller wants to spend money on something that will make me feel special, warm and fuzzy, and will last approximately one week, he’s honestly better off coming home with a 2-4*.

*Canadian slang for a 24-pack of beer.

Joking aside, I arrived at this conclusion slowly. As soon as I became aware of the cost of flowers, I started looking at places I could cut them from. Centrepieces were the first thing to go. I feel like it would be easy enough to replace them with candles, trinkets or cute table numbers. Then, I considered whether or not we really needed bridesmaids bouquets. Then, altar decor, or in our case, a chuppah. Our wedding is being held in the summer in a beautiful outdoor setting, underneath a large willow tree. Adding flowers to the breathtaking natural scenery seemed to be overkill. Likely, we will just stick with something minimalist like simple fabric.

So at this point, I was thinking we would really just need a florist for bouquets and boutonnieres. However, I was surprised at the cost for them, too. I could buy a plane ticket for the price of a bridesmaids bouquet. Plus, in my experience, while they look beautiful and make for wonderful photos, I’ve seen the behind-the-scenes of those photos and they kind of seem to get in the way. I considered the possibility that my bridesmaids could carry something pretty other than flowers down the aisle or just keep their hands at their sides. I mean, I know it’s not traditional, but is there any real reason w

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hy they can’t?

As for me, I don’t plan on throwing my bouquet. I could easily carry greenery, or a or paper flowers, or a self-arranged bouquet. Or, again, I could carry nothing at all. I haven’t decided yet, (like I said, my head’s been elsewhere), but I think that theoretically, eschewing a florist altogether could be done, especially at an outdoor venue, without taking away from the fun of the day.

What do you think? Am I talking crazy? Let me know!