6/24 Real Bride Emma: Say “No” to The Dress …

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Good evening my fellow BAB’s.

I am writing this during the England vs. Uruguay World Cup match. The match isn’t over yet, but I am already despondent about our chances of winning, so I am consoling myself with a blog post. Excuse me if this ends up being a little more morose than usual.

Today I’d like to talk about The Dress.

As an am drammer I have been very fortunate in that I have occasionally worn some quite spectacular dresses. Really awesome things, that weighed a tonne and were just out of this world to wear.


Me as Belle in “Beauty and the Beast.” Credit: Stewart McPherson

Despite this, I didn’t think I wanted to get married in a big, fancy dress.

“Just something simple,” I thought. “Perhaps in lace.”

So off I went dress shopping. In true BAB fashion, the idea was never to buy a regularly priced wedding dress from a boutique. I didn’t see the point in spending thousands of pounds on an outfit I will only wear for a few hours. I’d rather spend it on cheese and port — equally as transitory but at least everyone gets to enjoy it. I just wanted to get a feel for styles that suited me so I could find something similar but cheaper online or in a sample sale.

Of course, the best laid plans don’t take fabulous dresses into account.

The first shop we went into was reasonably uninspiring. Some very nice dresses, but nothing that had the “wow” factor. So far, so good.

And then I tried on a Justin Alexander dress.

double facepalm

I honestly don’t know why I did it. It was never going to end well.

I tried on this utterly gorgeous dress, looked in the mirror and felt flipping fabulous. And then I found out how much it was. Frankly it might as well have been £1,000,000 for how out of my budget it was.

So my task is now to either find this dress in a sample sale at a very reduced price, or just get over it and buy something much cheaper. I still have well over a year, so there’s no rush either way, but considering the number of times my fingers have typed “Justin Alexander 8711 sample” into Google in the last week, I can tell you for sure that if there is an affordable sample out there I will find it! {Psst! This sounds like a perfect “Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! challenge, doesn’t it, BABs? – Ed.}

Meanwhile I keep reminding myself that it is just one day, and that I’d rather spend it in a cheaper dress then drag debt into our married lives together. Because frankly, when all’s said and done, it is just a dress.

It’s just a really nice dress.

Amdram Bride – out.

Emma Watkins
Emma is the Am Dram Bride, hollering all the way from the UK. She is painfully English, and loves crumpets, Earl Grey tea and reading. To balance that out she also loves tequila, cheese, and singing as loudly as possible. You can play along on Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.