10/8 Real Bride Emma: A Note on the Generosity of Others…

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The big day is almost here, and I am super excited! Over the last few weeks I have been surrounded by awesome generosity: El Fiance truly stepping up and doing more than his fair share of wedding prep; a fantastic, hilarious, Hobbit-themed hen party organised by my wonderful ‘Maids with 22 absolutely incredible women; and so many random messages of support that it has been truly overwhelming.

For some light relief, here are a few snaps from my hen party …

Real Bride Emma's Hobbit-themed Hen Party
Me with “a Hobbit” — yes, I am dressed as a man.

Real Bride Emma Gets Into the Elvin Spirit
Me dressed as Legolas, about to do a spot of archery. I am aware how lame this makes me, and I don’t care.

Forget Strippers! Real Bride Emma's Hen Party was Hobbit-Themed
Me and some of the hen party dudes. Such love, many feels.

You might recall that a previous post was a bit, well, stressy. But I am delighted to inform you that all that is behind me, in part due to the fact that I have had so many brilliant people offering help, cake, and their own possessions all in the name of making the wedding planning as stress-free as possible. So I shall take the opportunity now to say thank you very much — I really appreciate it.

And that’s the wonderful thing about living this planning in the public eye — and why I urge you all to be open with your friends and family about your own wedding plans. It can be so easy in this day of Pinterest-pointless weddings and Insta-sham to feel that you should be able to create this magical, unique and social-media friendly day all by yourself. But the truth is BABs, that you can’t. No one can. And that’s OK! Instead of using these networks to endlessly obsess over weddings that have been created by a team of designers and creative types, use them to connect to people and ASK FOR HELP. It takes a whole village to raise a child, and it takes at least one cul-de-sac to organise a wedding.

OK. Preaching over. Here are some nice BAB-style tips.

1) We came into the possession of a significant number of battery-powered tea lights — massive thanks to my lovely friend Bex who is leaving the country for sunnier climes and therefore donated a shedload of wedding stuff to us. Electric lights are great because you can just leave them on all day without worrying about re-stocking them, and they also make a lovely flickering glow without adding any heat.

To make them fit in with our scheme, and also to cover them a little, I simply wrapped book pages (cut up into different sizes) around them. Et voila — sweet little paper covers that hide the plastic nature of the lights but allow their lovely glow to show through.

2) We have now bought all the wine! Hurrah! We used ALDI, which in the UK is a shop that sells really lovely wines at great prices. We had a terrible (not) time trying a few different bottles out, and I would really recommend any UK brides to take advantage of their selection. You can get some really nice stuff for about £5 a bottle (or even less — our red wine is only £3.70 a bottle and it is YUMMY and has totally won awards and stuff). Also, the staff are now pretty used to people coming in and raiding their stick for weddings and large parties, and are super helpful. Massive. Win.

3) Crafting ain’t so bad. And believe me, if I can do it, ANYONE can do it. In the UK I strongly suggest a visit to Hobbycraft, which is full of pretty inexpensive bits and bobs that you can use to spruce up you wedding. For example, I have added lovely bits of pearl spray into the bouquets (which I totally also made, alongside my lovely maids) and they only cost me £2.50 for a set of twelve. Boom.

I also have my eye on cute little letters, which are intended to be put on the doors of kid’s rooms, but could totally be spruced up and popped on the top table.

I’ll talk to you lovelies again after the wedding day!

Till next time, Am Dram Bride – out!

Emma Watkins
Emma is the Am Dram Bride, hollering all the way from the UK. She is painfully English, and loves crumpets, Earl Grey tea and reading. To balance that out she also loves tequila, cheese, and singing as loudly as possible. You can play along on Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.