4/25 Real Bride Amy: Walking the Walk

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Real Bride Amy's Chittendon VT VenueOne of the biggest decisions I’m trying to make in my planning process is about how I’m going to walk down the aisle. This is something that is probably a no-brainer for most brides-to-be, but it’s something I’ve been debating. The traditional father of the bride walk isn’t an option for me as I haven’t had a relationship with my father for most of my life, and he won’t even be invited to the wedding.

Option two is my step-father who has been around since I was about 10 years old. We’re certainly close, but not super lovey-emotional. I’ve never called him Dad and I’m just not sure how I feel about having him stand in for this role. At the same time, I don’t want to hurt his feelings if it’s something he wants to do.

Next choice is my mom. She was a single mother for most of my childhood, and has definitely made me who I am today. On the other hand, I don’t know if she’s one for the spotlight and being the center of attention like that, so I don’t know if she would want to. Plus, she doesn’t really get a lot of the more modern wedding elements, so she might think it’s strange.

I’m leaning toward option four which is to walk by myself.  It just seems to fit since I can’t really decide.  I’m a very independent person, so it fits my personality in a lot of ways.  Also, I just don’t buy into the whole “being given away” thing.  No one owns me or is giving me to him.  I’m making this choice on my own. It just seems a little antiquated. I just don’t know if it will seem weird, or like I’m trying to make some kind of statement — which I’m not — or if it will make for a strange walking down the aisle picture. I’m also considering having my dogs escort me so I’m not all alone. This might be cute, but I fear it could end in disaster if a squirrel streaks through.

Have you had to make similar choice? Has anyone walked by themselves? And I haven’t even started to think about what song to walk to! This sums up wedding planning; all the little things become big ones!

Amy is an outside-the-box Upstate N.Y. busy bride-to-be! She squeezes in wedding planning between her day job in healthcare, her second job as a makeup artist, an 8-year-old soon-to-be stepson and blogging for BAB as well as a local community blog. She tries to have a social life and occasionally sleeps. In her precious free time, you'll find her snuggling on the couch with her favorites, her two rescue pups, catching up on her shows and eating a snack that is not on the pre-wedding diet. Follow her on Instagram @beautywithsass.