5/8 Real Bride Alissa: In Which Planning Becomes a Pain

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So, I’m not going to lie, I’ve done very little planning during the past couple of weeks. I finally was able to mail out our save the dates, and the verdict on our choice was very positive, which made me happy. My next meeting with Cathy (our venue coordinator) is in July, where I’ll give her the first half of the payment for the wedding and then probably cry in my car for about an hour thinking about that money. I called David’s Bridal and asked when I would need to get alterations done on my dress, which apparently they don’t recommend doing until a couple of months before the wedding, just in case my weight fluctuates either way. I need to get the girls’ flower girl dresses; my mom, Shay and my sister are searching for bridesmaid/mother of the bride gowns

… and I feel like I’m just sitting here twiddling my thumbs.

I feel like I should be able to enjoy this lull in planning, but I can’t, because people on both sides of the family are apparently complaining about the amount of information they are given, or the amount of input they have in the wedding, and quite frankly I don’t appreciate it

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Don’t get me wrong, I am very aware that I’m probably hypersensitive to criticism right now. It’s a lot of planning, on top of juggling a full time job, two kids, and still trying to make time for Chris and I and to have maybe 10 minutes to myself. So I try and find some zen about the whole thing, but it’s hard. It’s hard when you hear that you’re “excluding” someone from wedding planning, or not passing along information, and all I find myself wanting to do is yell “are you helping me pay for it?!?!” So I guess the next plan of attack is maybe finding small things for certain people to do so they feel included. I’m not really one to try and pacify people over things I think are ridiculous, but I want everything to go well, I don’t want to be a stressed out basket case by the end of this. Here’s hoping that I make it through this minor speed bump with sanity intact, and that I’m not the only one out there that’s felt a little bitter over things like this!

What’s frustrating you about your planning? Are people expecting more of you than you want to give? Share in the comments!

  • I know that it’s hard to do, but just try to remember that this is one of the ONLY times in your life when it truly is “all about you.” Chart your own path and don’t look back. The others will eventually pick up on the fact that you’re doing your Big Day your way, and that is perfectly acceptable 🙂