12/9 Caution: Grooms at Work

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In 2007, our homey Chris Easter co-founded a little site called TheManRegistry.com. In just 3 years it has become the web’s leading source for groomsmen gifts, content and wedding vendor listings geared to the groom’s perspective. His site is so badass that Chris was recently named one of the top 30 entrepreneurs under the age of 30 by Inc. Magazine. Chris is a good friend of ours and we are very psyched to have him share some of his planning wisdom with your man. After you read some of his tips here, you can check out more of his blogging flava’ at GroomsAdvice.com.

If the last few years in the wedding industry have taught me anything, it’s that grooms are flat-out trying to shed the “innocent bystander” tag that they’ve been unfairly assigned over the years. Let’s get one thing straight: Grooms have always cared about their weddings. However, not until recent years, has the wedding industry and blogosphere picked up on it. With the influx of real groom bloggers, more companies directly marketing to grooms and more and more guys customizing various aspects of their wedding –– the secret is out.

I’m often asked by brides about the best areas of wedding planning for their guy to take charge of. In no particular order, here are a few favorites:Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Photo: Carole Cohen


Simply put: guys dig cars. And whether it’s a vintage Rolls Royce, a stretch Escalade or dual crotch rockets, there are literally countless options for being creative with the choice of car that will carry you away after the wedding.

Planning the Rehearsal Dinner

This is, of course, a very broad topic. The rehearsal dinner is traditionally a responsibility of the groom and his family. It’s also a perfect opportunity for his inner event planner to shine. When I got married, I dove headfirst into the rehearsal dinner because I really wanted to leave a personal mark on the wedding festivities. We held the event at The Boulevard Brewery in Kansas City (my favorite beer) and had the event catered by Jack Stack BBQ (my favorite BBQ).  The event was a hit because everyone in attendance appreciated the effort that was put into personalizing it … and it was a hell of a lot of fun! I challenge all grooms to aim for the same.

Paperwork and Legalities

Guys are the responsible ones, right? OK OK. I’m a guy and I can even say that this statement is almost never true. However, we do like thinking we’re being responsible and important. That’s why handling the organization, filing and paying of all pertinent legal documents and fees is a great job for the groom. The business of getting married can require quite a paper trail — so be aware of your local/state rules on marriage licenses. Other topics to research include the changing of name(s), adding your spouse’s name to necessary accounts, agreements and whether or not your church requires pre-marital counseling.

Wedding Website/Blog

Managing the wedding website or wedding blog is another unique way for today’s tech-savvy grooms to get involved in planning. Even if he’s not a programming wiz, there are countless websites that offer free wedding website templates where couples can post their wedding info. Some grooms have even taken it a step further by starting blogs that detail their foray into the wedding planning world.

Of course I always recommend the bride and groom sharing responsibilities and discussing all of those fun little details – but the above list is a great starting point for doling out responsibilities. I hope it comes in handy. Cheers!

What are your thoughts on these or other tasks that can be delegated to the groom? Let us know in the comments section below.

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