Broke-Ass Category: Gay & Lesbian Weddings


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Photo: Clane Gessel via Bella Signature

We at BAB were sooooooooooo excited about the Supreme Court legalizing same-sex marriage (#LOVEWINS), we decided to do an article especially for the boys (who like boys).

It’s possible you’ve been secretly worried about how a wedding looks without a bride. Well, you can thank The High and Heavenly World of Pinterest, because there are so many options you’ll get the spins. The thing is, you can celebrate your gay wedding the same as a straight wedding — any way you fucking want. Once you’ve figured out the type of wedding you’ll plan (A traditional wedding in a gay-friendly church, a rustic wedding in a barn, a drag queen wedding under a disco ball — the world is your oyster), then you can figure out the outfit situation. I’ve listed a few options I found that could easily be affordable and fit a range of occasions from formal to more casual.

*Quick Note: Just because we mention the guys here doesn’t mean we’re limiting these options to groom/groom weddings. These are also awesome options for ANYBODY —women included — that want to rock a suit or tux.


Photo: Moodeus via A Vote & A Vow

Contrasting Suits: What a great way to keep things formal without doing flashy tuxes. It also allows the grooms to choose their own accessories and leaves things a little open-ended for the wedding party. Plus, every guy looks sexy in gray.


Photo: Kate McElwee Photography

Dare to Pattern: Soooooooooo slick! Doing a solid/pattern combo in a single tone keeps these guys looking really put together and takes formal to an unexpected place. And seriously, if you know BAB, you know we love an element of surprise. One last thing about this idea: Another reason it works is because they kept the accessories mild and matching in color and texture. You could probably get away with adding a little more pizzazz, but be careful.


Photo: A Brit & A Blonde

Matchy-matchy: You guys, when all else fails, just pick a palette and Sadie Hawkins that shit up. This can actually be a good option for a couple reasons. One, if you’re looking to do a quick ceremony, this is the ticket. Since you’ll be looking for the same thing for both, you’ll save time hunting around the mall. Second, sometimes buying items in pairs can save you a few bucks (be on the lookout for Buy One/Get One sales)! You can see they ditched the jacket and went with a bright tie, kinda like this one.

Grooms with Mixed Accessories

Credit: DeAwna McGinley Photography via Chicago Style Weddings

Accessory Play: How dashing are those grooms? I would only dare to mix accessories like this if everything else was neutral, and these two do just that but in a really bold way. Otherwise, you might end up having a carnival wedding, which, though memorable, might not be quite your end goal. But I like the mix here. You could even do some fun socks.


Photo: via Passion for Flowers

Do you love a good ascot as much as I do? Well you should. You can’t really see the whole look from here, but I do like how they did matching suit tones in different patterns, paired with an unexpected neck accessory. Also, I’m in love with those boutonnières.

Where to Find These Looks


Simple Gray Suit

Patterned Suit
CombatantGentSuitHow are you coordinating your wedding day looks? Tell us in the comments below!

  • 6/26

    Marriage Equality

    In a monumental and long overdue decision today, the U.S. Supreme Court declared that love is love, and everyone has the legal right to marry.

    DAMNIT, you guys. This is fucking big.

    I was a teenager in Wyoming at the time Matthew Shepard was beaten and left to die on a buckrail fence in a town across the state. He did die, six days later on Oct. 12, 1998. That was the day after my 13th birthday. I was just beginning to understand sex and sexuality, and I knew that for this man to die because of who he loved was wrong. Very very wrong.

    On October 21, 2014, same-sex marriage became legally recognized in Wyoming. I swelled with pride that my small, unpopulated home state would rise above the vitriol and make the right decision.

    Now, the rest of the nation can join suit.

    But there is still so, so much work to be done. Torment rages on. Hate still writhes in the ignorant underbelly. Mean, hurtful actions take place every single day because so many refuse to let others be.

    I find it difficult to come up with anything that could make this moment more poignant than it already is.

    “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. … [The challengers] ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.” — Justice Kennedy


  • 11/17

    When Ben and Jenni from Two Sparrows Photography contacted The Broke-Ass Bride little while back asking if we'd be interested in featuring a broke-ass LGBT shoot in honor of October's roll as LGBT History Month -- National Coming Out Day, Oct. 11, also happens to be my birthday -- I responded with a resonating HELL YES. Gimme dat! So after hooking them up with some of our…

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    I had the rare opportunity this weekend to attend a wedding where I didn’t know anyone. I wasn’t a guest or a guest’s date so therefore I was able have a completely objective, fly-on-the-wall perspective of someone else’s special day. I got to watch a shoe-string budget wedding almost fail. But guess what? I was the only one who seemed to notice. Our food at…

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    Hell YES California! We are celebrating at Broke-Ass HQ because yesterday, a (bad-ass) California judge ruled the (effed up) ban on same-sex marriage known as (that asshole) Prop 8... freakin' unconstitutional, yo! Equality ROCKS! Here's to all of our L/G/B/T/Q brothers and sisters in love. Here's to marriage equality and the progress of civil rights. And here's to america... land of the free, home of…

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