Broke-Ass Category: Bridesmaids


Erica Kristen and I

The four in the middle:  planner/doer, her fiance, me and my MOH

When it comes time to pick your ladies to stand by you, take into consideration their particular skill sets before you ask them. I have an overwhelming six bridesmaids. I have one that is a doer and a planner. There’s an artsy one, one with a green thumb, a miniature one whose mom can bake, my sister who’s also a doer and knows me, and my best friend who is a doer. I love them all and am happy to have them with me as they all bring great skills to the table.

What do you do though, when your maid of honor doesn’t happen to be the one with the planning skills and is more of a doer? My maid of honor has been there to hold my hand through every minor meltdown over flowers, panic attack over dates, venue wrestling matches and the like. She has my back and is super skilled in calming my ass down when I get overwhelmed. She’ll happily go gallivanting off on some inane wedding related mission with me at the last minute and is basically just a boss bro. She apparently, cannot, however plan a shower or bachelorette party to save her life.

It’s weird, I never really considered the shower at all when I was planning. It’s not really my job, someone is just supposed to throw you one. Now, there is nothing saying that the maid of honor has to plan your shower — sometimes moms do that. My mom is ALSO not the planning type, nor is his. Some of my more planning and doing ‘maids keep asking me about the shower, as if I have the answers. I don’t. I even went so far to just out right pick the venue for my maid of honor. All she had to do was book it and use one of the six approved dates we all agreed on. No dice.

So what do I do?

I’ve been going back and forth on this one for a while. My wedding is in six months. If a shower is happening, we should probably let people know soonish, or at the very least, book the place. She has apologized about a million times for being a bad maid of honor and I continually list her strengths and points of valor. I finally just out right asked her, bro, do you need help? Because, there are 4.5 other bridesmaids who would happily rally to your side, you legit only have to ask. I’m not quite sure if she’s afraid to ask for help or what, but she still hasn’t.

OK fine, I asked my sister to make the menu. All my MOH has to do is ask the planner, who is sitting idly on the runway, to go launch and book the venue. The rest of them can do decorations or whatever else goes into a shower. I even already asked the planner if she’d book the venue and she’s happy to, but has a bunch of questions only my MOH has the answers to and didn’t want to ask her without stepping on her toes. OMFG Y’ALL! This is a friggin party that I’d rather not stress over, you have done everything else beautifully. You’d never hesitate any other time making things happen. Why oh why can’t this one tiny thing happen?

My MOH really does rock, she just doesn’t have planning parties up her sleeve. What would you do, how would handle this? Help?

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    Affiliate Disclaimer NewI am totally married and stuff, but I just realized I never filled you guys in on my amazing bachelorette party. For shame! My bestie/bridesmaid Adrienne went above and beyond and made it the perfect day. It’s such a fantastic feeling to know your friends just get you and want to celebrate with you.

    I love sports. Other than the whole marrying Russel thing, my top 2016 moments were watching the Cavs win an NBA championship (I cried happy tears on June 19th … I did not cry on my wedding day), celebrating with 1,000,000 other Cleveland fans at their parade, and the Indians going to the World Series – we even got to attend games six and seven. (Let’s not talk about the results, okay??) So yeah, sports are a big part of my life. When it came time for my bachelorette party, Adrienne decided on a baseball game and a night on the town — AKA the best time ever for a girl like me. We have a minor league team right in Akron, so we got to keep it local, which was a huge bonus. No hotels, no major traveling for most of my girls and no trying to figure out which bars are the best, etc.

    We started by meeting at my friend’s office before the game (shouts out Laura W.!) so we could hang out and I could open gifts. Her office is right across the street from the stadium, so it gave us a chance to meet up, plus there was free parking which was amazing. In case I haven’t mentioned it, my friends are legit and they got me so many amazing goodies. Shirts, koozies (I collect them), alcohol, gift cards, penis party favors galore, and two of the greatest items on planet earth — I am sure of it. My sister and her girlfriend turned a wooden bat into a Sh-Bat — basically a shotski but baseball style. It is the gift that keeps on giving, and any time I take it someplace, everyone loves it.


    Adrienne, me and my sister/MOH Caty taking root beer moonshine shots. (Photo from me)

    Adrienne got me my other favorite thing in the world — a Chambong. Champagne is my favorite beverage, and I had been wanting one forever. Yes, it is amazing in real life.


    After our office shenanigans, we headed over the the ballpark. We had an entire section blocked off for us, and our tickets includes a buffet of amazing stadium food. We were also right next to the tiki bar in right field, so the drinks were flowing all evening. Two of my girlfriends volunteered to do ribbon dancing on the field between innings, we got bobbleheads…it was just fantastic all around.


    Most of my ladies and Webster the mascot. (Photo from me)

    Post-game, our shuttle took us to a festival with a live band and two bars that we love. I don’t remember much from the end of the night, so that must mean everything went according to plan, lol.

    It really was a wonderful day, and I love that my girls and I are all in agreement on fun, low-key parties. Weddings are expensive enough without adding trips or other pricey activities to the mix, so we are all for keeping it local and cheap. Btw, if an out of town weekend is your thing, I totally get it. I love to travel and take girls trips, but that was the last thing I wanted to do in the weeks leading up to our big day. Everyone has to do what works for them, and my girls did exactly that.

    How did you and your crew keep your bachelorette simple and sane?


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