Broke-Ass Category: The Wedding Party

7/25

I’m going to reach way back in the archives of my life to tell you a little more about how Ev and I met and our bestie. When I was 14, may family moved and I started high school in a brand new area, not knowing anyone. I had been bullied previously, so my game plan was to keep a fairly low profile. I’m a bit of an introvert, so I didn’t expect to make too many friends very quickly. See below graph for illustration:

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Luckily, I happened to sit next to an extrovert in one of my classes.

D struck up a conversation with me almost immediately and was full of funny quips and one-liners, helping me feel at ease. I remember it wasn’t long before we were getting singled out nearly every class for talking too much (RIP my GPA). We became best friends and had a lot of excellent times, watching movies, hiking and driving around when there was nothing else to do. His whole family adopted me, and were always happy to have me over for dinner. During that time, I was dating someone, but D often mentioned that he had a childhood friend that he wanted to set me up with, should my boyfriend and I ever break up. His friend and I did end up meeting at D’s birthday party one year, and we chatted, but nothing else came of it. My boyfriend and I ended up breaking up right before my first year of university and D took his opportunity, giving his friend my email address so we could talk on MSN. I’m sure by now you’ve figured out that this friend was Evan, and the rest is history.

Last year, shortly after Ev and I got engaged, D proposed to his longtime girlfriend and we were thrilled. Initially we planned to separate our weddings by a couple months, but situations arose that resulted in planning our weddings six weeks apart. D. made Ev his groomsman, and Ev and I made him a hybrid groomsman/bridesman. I even got to hang at his bachelor party, which was a total blast. During the planning states, we shared a lot of wedding pro tips, and offered each other a listening ear when stress got high.

This weekend, I’m in my hometown, getting ready to head to his rehearsal dinner. I wont lie, initially, I was afraid that there might be some stress associated with the two weddings so close to each other, what with the cost of flying, hotels, gifts, but in the end but those factors were vastly overshadowed by the support I felt from having a friend who was going through a lot of the same things as me. Plus, Evan and I get to take a break from planning our wedding, and just enjoy relaxing and being guests at someone else’s before we have our own. I’m excited!

 

 

  • 7/18

    For the most part, I’ve snapped myself out of my wedding planning funk. I’ve emailed my wedding coordinator to nail down a time for next Friday’s meeting to discuss menu, cake, setup, decorations, and the first half of the payment for the wedding. Chris is hopefully going to be able to take a day off (or at least part of one) to come with me and do that, which makes me happy. So I’ve now turned my attention to my next victims … my kids.

    I really enjoyed wedding dress shopping at David’s Bridal, but even when we were there I wasn’t overly impressed by the flower girl selection. Everything looked either too old or too young for my girls who are 7 and 4. I also really don’t want to spend $80 on a dress that my kids are going to wear most likely once, though to be honest both of my girly girls will probably be next to impossible to pry out of something lacy and pretty. I also want them to match, not only because it’ll be cute but because if either one of them has anything even slightly different, the other one will want it and then I’ll have to referee that debacle (I’m making having kids sound great, aren’t I?). So I headed to Etsy to see if they had anything more my speed and in my price range.

    Luckily, Etsy hasn’t let me down so far. The first dress I found that I fell in love with is from ElluraSage. It’s within my price range, it’s lacy and beautiful up top, and then ruffly and pretty down at the bottom. It’s short, which is what I thought I wanted because both of my girls inherited my clumsy gene, so give them less to trip over. I also love the sash with the flower, it adds a beautiful touch. It has cap sleeves, so a shawl or cover up would probably be necessary since even in Virginia — November can be cold — but that wouldn’t be a big deal to order.

    Flower girl dress from Etsy seller ElluraSage

    But then I found the perfect dress for my girls. It’s by PoshPeanutKids and I fell in love with it right away. It’s long sleeved, which I ended up loving. Since my wedding is in November, I think it will fit the weather perfectly. It’s long, which I was hesitant about, but I think if it’s really going to be a problem I’ll be willing to spend the little  bit of extra money to get it hemmed. It also comes with a bow, which the listing already says can be changed to match the colors of the wedding. It’s a couple of dollars more than the other one, but still under $40, which is definitely within what I wanted to spend. And the cherry on top is that both of the girls lost their little minds when I showed them, Chris got home from school and Y ran up to him telling him about “the wedding dress for us that Mommy is buying us.” If that’s not the seal of approval, I don’t know what is.

    Lace flower girl dress available from Etsy seller PoshPeanutKids

    Honestly, I’ll probably end up getting the kids shoes from Payless, they’re only going to be wearing them for a short while, for the ceremony, and then I guess I’ll use them as special occasion shoes. So I think, once I order the dresses, that I have the kids pretty much set! They’ll be thrilled with my sister, their Aunt T, doing their hair, and all I have to do is get some flower petals for them to throw and I’ve got that part at least down. Slowly but surely I think it’s all coming together.

    Have you had any recent big wins with your planning? What are your flower girls wearing? Share below!

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  • 7/13

    Good morning BABs! Another bride has fallen in love with the style of designer Berta's gowns, and CAI/GOI is here to help! Mandy J wrote on this post asking for help: Absolutely in love with Berta style 15-101 (long sleeves, backless, godet train, geometric inspired details). My budget is $3k and under. Thank you!! Happy to help, Mandy! Berta has a unique modern, yet romantic style,…

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    6/23

    Happy Thursday, BABs! Today’s CAI/GOI request is from reader Jenny, who is searching for a Rue de Seine “Haze” look-alike for under £1,000 (approximately $1,300) and available in the UK. She writes: “Hi, I really love Rue de Seine's Haze dress but only have a budget of max £1000. Do you know of any similar but cheaper dresses out there & available in the UK?…

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    6/9

    Welcome back CAI/GOI lovers!  Today's request is from reader Terri, who commented on this post: Hi! I landed on this page while searching Amsale-inspired dresses! I'm in love with the Amsale-inspired May, specifically the minimalistic style and elegant sheer look and buttons on the back, and am hoping to find an alternative for under $1000! Please help!! Hi Terri! We are happy to see more…

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    5/18

      Hi BABs!  This week’s request comes from reader Stephanie, who wrote to us on this post and is inspired by several Hayley Paige gowns: I'm a broke-ass-bride and I love Hayley Paige! I am trying to find a style with her signature layered, flowy skirt look, spaghetti straps with a v-neck, and some kind of shimmer or fun detail! My favorites of hers are the…

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    5/4

    Welcome BABs! We have another CAI/GOI for you today with a gorgeous Rue de Seine gown inspiration. Reader Haley commented on this post looking for a boho dress for her wedding: Rue de seine Blake or Raven for under $1000. I like the bohemian, festival, hippie style. Thanks! Haley Okay, Haley -- I hear you on these great Rue de Seine gowns! These gowns are both lovely…

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    4/26

    So the bridal shower has been sort of an ongoing issue with my bride tribe and I. To be honest, a shower was never even on my radar as something I would need to worry about. Isn’t that a time when friends and family get together and shower the bride with gifts? Shouldn’t her only job be to show up? Welp, apparently not. My MOH…

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    4/20

    Reader Sandra commented on this post looking for a floaty dress for her 30th anniversary vow renewal: "Just found "Can't Afford It" today. Wonderful! My husband and I will be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary in 2018, and would like to have a vow renewal and small party. I really like Inga Nataya's "River Fairy" dress in Lilac, but $900 is too much for me to…

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