Broke-Ass Category: Real Weddings

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I think I mentioned once or twice that our wedding was the best ever, and it really, truly was. From the weather to the food to the dancing and fun, it was everything we hoped it would be when when we started planning it 15 months prior. That said, there are always going to be minor mishaps, and we definitely had a few. I knew there was a 0% chance every single detail would go according to plan, so I had braced myself in advance. Still, I actually surprised myself with how much I just didn’t let the small stuff bother me. I try to be a Go With the Flow type of gal in every day life, and I think that served me well on our wedding day.

Because, you can’t control everything.

My bridesmaid Kelly is an amazing artist, and she spent the night before the wedding making little chalkboard signs stating how I had met each of my girls. They were so amazing and detailed, and we were so excited to take pictures with them. I had them with us in the hotel suite while we were getting ready, and triple-checked that they were in the box of stuff that needed to go out to the venue. Welp … we still managed to forget them. I saw them sitting in the Very Important Box the day after and was so bummed. We got so caught up in the 500 other things that were happening that they just slipped everyone’s mind. It sucks, but it was bound to happen.

Weddings are full of roughly 1,558,256 moving parts, so don’t be surprised when a detail here or there gets lost in the shuffle.

Especially for us Broke-Asses who don’t have the money for a planner or coordinator. Luckily, I still have them and I am scheming for a way to get everyone together so we can take that picture. It will happen … someday.

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My girls are the best … fact!

Our handmade decor is one of my absolute favorite things about our entire wedding (shouts out to my mom Elaine … again!). It was beautiful, whimsical, budget-friendly and a million other adjectives. We were married in front of an old bank barn, and we gussied it up with rosettes and poofs on the doors. These things were hanging up for hours, and wouldn’t you know that a section decided to come loose and fall off right in the middle of our ceremony. At first I was like, “Umm, what’s happening??” but then we all started cracking up at the timing of it all. It was seriously the perfect comic relief in the middle of a bunch of mushy stuff.

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Notice the droopy fans right above me … classic.

My sister, Caty, and Russel’s brother, Alan, gave fantastic speeches after dinner. They were funny and heartfelt and everyone loved them. Well, everyone who could hear them. Our DJ was set up inside the barn, and the range on his wireless mic was juuust a bit too short. And I mean just. They both used the microphone, and there were times during each speech where it cut in and out. They persevered and it really didn’t take away from their amazing words, but if we could go back we’d obviously come up with a solution.

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Russel and I really lucked out when it came to our vendors.

The food was on point, the dance floor was packed all night, and I am obsessed with our photos. Our DJ and photographer were hugely instrumental in helping us nail down a timeline and stick to it. They kept things moving smoothly all day, and were super accommodating when I decided to delay my bouquet toss. It was supposed to happen after we danced with our parents, but it just didn’t feel like the right time. I wanted to give everyone a chance to get a drink and get limbered up out on the dance floor. When it was finally time to do the toss, we ran into a bit of a problem — I couldn’t find the toss bouquet anywhere. My mom was the only person who knew where it was, and not only could we not find the flowers, we could not find her. I got a little frustrated, but eventually she appeared and all was right again. So maybe know where your bouquet is, or at the very least make sure more than one person is clued in on the location.

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So yeah, when I said minor, I really meant minor.

It didn’t rain. We didn’t have a muddy mess. My grumpy old man dog didn’t bite anyone. Did a few small issues pop up? Of course. But they were honestly not a big deal. Were we hitched? Did we have a good time? Did our nearest and dearest enjoy our party? Yes, yes and yes. As long as we kept that in mind, it made dealing with our minor mishaps a breeze.

All photos by Jenni Bella Photography

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    One big question about wedding planning that loomed over us for months was, where were we going to have it?

    Evan and I are both originally from the prairie region of Canada, and most of our families live out there. Currently, we both live and work in Ontario. Most people expected that we would have our wedding in our hometown — it’s where we grew up, we’ve got the beauty of the Rockies in our backyard, and nearly all of our family and childhood friends live there.

    However, we were struggling to find a venue that fit our needs. A wedding at a resort in the mountains was way out of our price range, and the venues that suited our guest count located in and around the city just didn’t seem to fit our style. In addition, we only go home to visit two to three times a year for a few days, which limited our ability to go check out venues and meet with planners. As our options dwindled, I held fast to the idea of the hometown wedding because of the guilt associated with requesting that our loved ones have to spend time and money to schlep to the other side of the country to attend our wedding.

    I’ve heard from one friend who had a destination wedding that you can plan a wedding remotely, but you generally need to hire a wedding planner to coordinate on your behalf, eliminating some of the personal touches that we wanted. I started to put out tiny little feelers for venues in our area of the country, just to “keep our options open.”

    We ended up stumbling an adorable little venue an hour away from us, in wine country, that perfectly suited our tastes and budget. The owners of the venue recommended excellent vendors, and I was able to meet them at my convenience, rather than try to cram meetings into limited-time visits home (when I’d much rather be hanging out with my family and friends!). I wanted this venue so bad, but I was afraid to tell my guests — would they be upset?

    As per usual, my inner voice was entirely too fatalistic. Everyone understood, and they were happy to make the trip to see us tie the knot. Likely, they’ll end up seeing a wedding with a less stressed-out bride and groom, which is nice too. Yes, there’s lots that can be done to ease the financial burden of guests, but to some extent, there’s a point at which you’ve gotta do you. This was mine.

    How did you compromise to help your guests but save your sanity?

  • 2/7

    Now that we're introduced, let me tell you about some details of our wedding! There were two reasons that I hesitated when it came to starting the wedding planning adventure: 1) When I Googled "how to plan a wedding" (yes, I seriously did that), the one big thing that every site said we "must" do was figure out a budget. Money is gross. Budgeting is…

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    2/1

    The time has finally come to see Real Bride Amy's intimate Chittendon, Vt., wedding. Amy and Rick escaped to a gorgeous lakeside lodge with a few of their nearest and dearest to tie the knot. They did away with all the extras and prioritized their dollars on what made sense for them -- the true broke-ass way. Boucher Visuals did a wonderful job of capturing…

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    1/24

    Hello Broke-Asses!  I'm super pumped that you'll be following along with my journey to gettin' hitched! Let me introduce myself.  I'm Megan. I live in Charleston, S.C., with Timo, my fiance, and two rescue dogs (Phil the greyhound and Meri the podenco). I'm here because Timo asked me to marry him in December when we were at Disney World. As he expected (because I'd told…

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    1/16

    My fiancé and I are social and at times private people. We enjoy both quiet and unpublicized time with loved ones as well as social media engagement and interactions. It's a healthy balance. With that being said, our wedding website needed to reflect both sides. We desired to create an informative and functional wedding website to share our love story with visitors and inform our…

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    1/13

    I don’t know about y’all, but I’m NOT a fan of the cold weather. Like, at all. Give me all the 70-degree temperatures and sunny days — AKA: margarita weather. That’s why, after Thanksgiving, my galpals and partner decided to escape the cold Texas rain and head to warmer weather. Destination: Tulum. You guys, BEST IDEA EVER. While our friends and family were teeth-chattering through…

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    10/12

    So we did it! We're officially married! We had a beautiful, although a bit chilly, day in Vermont, but it didn't rain or snow, so I'll take it! It's been almost two weeks now, and I've had some time to reflect on the experience. Here's some advice for the brides-in-planning out there. Photo courtesy of Joel Boucher of Boucher Visuals People always say it goes…

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