Broke-Ass Category: Holly

8/29

A lot of pre-wedding activities like the bridal shower or bachelorette had to be organized remotely or during short trips home because, (as I’ve mentioned in previous posts), due to a recent move, Ev and I live pretty far away from most of our family and friends. Three out of four of my bridesmaids, as well as my bridesman, don’t live near me. I found myself stumped as to how I might manage a bridal shower, bachelorette party AND a wedding with everyone involved without us spending all of our money on place tickets.

So, I decided to drop one of them.

I was insistent on a bachelorette party.

I am a bit of a goofball and I knew a night of getting silly would be the perfect remedy for pre-wedding stress. Because everyone is planning on coming in to town a few days before the wedding, I planned it for the Wednesday before. I know this might seem like a bit of a bad idea, but I have a game plan.

I firmly indicated to my girls that while I do indulge in a few libations, I’m not trying to have a three-day hangover, and they respect that. I assigned my girl K to plan the it and know she’s good for keeping the party fun within reason. I asked her to surprise me, within a few parameters: I have requested that it involve playing Mario Kart, doing some king of team-building exercise such a laser tag (but not anything that will send me home covered in bruises, such as paintball), and that we go for drinks at a pub that has good beer.

Finally, I requested requested that we keep the activities affordable for everyone, naturally, because I’m broke-ass. She agreed and promised that I’m going to love it. Knowing her, that I will probably end up in one of those giant inflatable T-Rex costumes by the end of the night. I promise I’ll post pictures.

bridal shower costumeInflatable T-Rex Costume, $51.99 from Amazon

After getting that set up, I realized that having a bridal shower probably wasn’t in the cards. Everyone had already used up vacation time and spent money to come to the wedding, I didn’t want to ask them to do it again for my shower. I also didn’t want to try to cram that in also during the week before the wedding. Doing that, plus the everything else, would just be way too much. In the end, I wasn’t nearly as excited about it as the other things.

So, I chose to opt out.

Nobody was terribly fussed about it. I didn’t expect it, but a few of my bridesmaids and female family members chose to give me small shower gifts at times when we got together. That, honestly, was a pretty nice alternative. I was able to accept the gift in a manner that wasn’t rushed, and then got to spend quality time with the person. So, for my individual situation, that was the best way it could have worked out. There’s perks to being broke-ass!

Next time I post, I will be a married woman! See you then!

Holly

  • 8/9

    Credit: A Sight of Love

    I know a while back I posted about some of my adventures trying to find a dress for a little bit cheaper. I ended up going the route of buying a sample, partially — but not entirely — for the purpose of savings.

    Let me explain:

    I set a budget for approximately $2000 CAD (About $1500 USD) for my dress. I went to a few dress shops, and tried on a few dresses I liked a lot, but a lot of the ones I liked were just slightly out of my price range. I tried searching online for dresses in a similar style that might cost a little less. More than a few sample sales and Google searches later, I was feeling a bit defeated.

    Suddenly, I came across a gorgeous little number that was beautiful and unique … but had been discontinued. Thankfully, the designer had a list of stores in my city that had carried the design in the past. I called about six stores before I got through to one that did have it, a sample. I booked an appointment and came down to try it on that same day. Lo and behold, it fit, albeit it was a touch snug. It retailed for $2200, but the saleslady offered my 10% off, since it was the sample. Naive as I was, I accepted, thinking that was a great deal (it really wasn’t). I was right on budget and I had my dream dress — it was “the one”.

    Unfortunately, by now I’ve realized that there was a TON of extra costs associated with buying the dress.

    Firstly, I had to have more alterations done to the sample than if i had ordered a new dress. I would have been better off ordering one size up, and then having it taken in, rather than having the sample taken out. Then, I had to have it dry cleaned due to several marks left from all the people who had tried it on, and the cost of dry cleaning a dress of that style was MORE than the money I had saved!

    More than $400 in alterations and a $275 dry cleaning bill later, I ended up spending more than my budget and probably more than I would have if I had bought a new dress.

    Beware!

    Sometimes all the cost saving hacks aren’t as great as they might seem. Had I been a little more savvy, had I read a few more blogs … maybe I would have known that!

    However, this dress is amazing and I’m in love with it, so in the end, I wouldn’t have changed it. But I sure would have tried to haggle myself a better discount!!

     

  • 7/11

    Well, it’s less than two months away from the wedding and the final pieces are starting to fall into place. I’ve had dress fittings and alterations, we’ve ordered our wedding bands, we’ve finally finished our registry and Honeyfund, and we’ve started purchasing decorations. One other thing that we’ve also started accumulating is board games. Yup, Ev and I are board game geeks. Well, we’re actually…

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    6/12

    Wedding countdown chalkboard available from Etsy seller LavishLilLuxuries Earlier this month, it was the one-year anniversary of the day he proposed. Not to sound cliche, but I cant believe how much time has flown since then. We've also hit the three-month countdown until the wedding and that is an incredibly exciting and yet terrifying feeling. While we have all of our gotten our vendors booked, deposits…

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    5/30

    Novelty socks available from Etsy seller shopsockprints As I may have mentioned already, my partner, bless him, has been wonderfully supportive and helpful throughout the entire process of planning our wedding. This has transpired despite my occasional failures to delegate, as I wrote about in my last post. He’s also been extremely chill about pretty much everything that’s been suggested. Whereas, his list of must-haves…

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    5/15

    To do notepad available from Etsy seller marrygrams Here's the thing: I've been gifted with a degree of creativity and innovation, however, I'm really, really bad at delegating. With a project as colossal as a wedding, this is not a good thing. I'm pretty sure if I try to micromanage every little thing, I'll be so busy that I wont have time to enjoy one…

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    5/1

    Rehearsal Dinner Napkin available from Etsy seller MemorableWedding I finally had some time last weekend to buckle down get our invitations ordered, printed and mailed out, and our wedding website fully functional. This had me feeling the pressure like crazy -- now that people are actually going to RSVP to this thing, I really have to have my sh*t together (but to be honest, I…

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    4/17

    Work has calmed down a bit in the last few weeks, so Ev and I have started putting some official wedding prep in motion. I managed to wrangle everyone's address, and after entirely too much obsessing, I picked out an invitation I liked and customized it. We are just waiting on our engagement photos to come back so we can post them up on our…

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