Broke-Ass Category: Alissa

8/14

So, I’ve felt like I’ve been kind of stagnant with the wedding planning lately, but I finally feel like the ball is actually rolling now. We had our second consultation with the wedding planner this past Saturday, which was Chris’s first actual in-person look at the venue and meeting her, made all the more interesting because he was coming off of an overnight shift at the ER and was running on three hours of sleep. It was great though (besides dropping half of the wedding cost then, which hurt my soul); we went over a lot of details that we’ve been discussing but haven’t nailed down yet. We finalized our colors (plum and silver), our menu (guests will choose between steak, chicken, fish and shrimp), locked in the DJ and went over the ceremony and the timeline for that and the reception.

And then, we got to pick the cake sample we wanted, which I picked up yesterday!

So, Cathy’s daughter is a baker, and she makes the cakes and cupcakes, so she made us three flavors of cake and filling to test. We chose double dark chocolate with mocha filling, milk chocolate with strawberry filling and marble with apple cinnamon filling. I picked them up yesterday and was SUPER excited to see that we had six, full-size cupcakes to test — two of each flavor. They were beautiful, nicely frosted with vanilla frosting and decorations. At least they were, until some jerk cut me off in traffic and I slammed on my brakes, causing the cupcakes to go flying off the seat and onto the floor, and me to use all of the swear words in my repertoire (don’t worry, I hadn’t picked the kids up yet).

My poor babies

Luckily, they still tasted delicious, and being slightly squashed made it easier to taste, since the girls were with us and we got them in on the action too. The only ones I didn’t let them taste were the mocha filled ones, since the last thing I needed was overly hyperactive children jacked up on coffee. So all four of us agreed that we loved the strawberry filling. The girls liked the apple cinnamon, but neither Chris nor I thought it was flavorful enough. We loved the double dark chocolate, but the mocha was way too strong, and Chris doesn’t like coffee to begin with. I don’t know why we picked the marble to try, I don’t like marble to begin with so that was my fault, but I wanted a vanilla-ish option of cake to try. So, I think we decided that we’d do the double dark chocolate with strawberry filling, and then probably just vanilla with chocolate. We’re doing cupcakes instead of a big cake, so we get to pick two (which amuses me to no end), and we also get a little cake for the two of us to cut, which I think is amazing.

I’m not going to lie, I’ve been looking forward to tasting the cakes since we got engaged, and I wasn’t disappointed.

On a serious note, I will say that the decisions about the guest list estimate was a lot of pressure.

Cathy needed an approximate number to give me an estimated payment for the first half, so Chris and I had come up with our lists of guests, to include the bridal party, but not the girls since they’ll be there for the ceremony but not the reception. We ended up telling Cathy that we’ll pay for the DJ and the photographer to eat, it just seems like the nice thing to do, and Cathy is only charging half for them. But coming up with that number and then getting the estimate for the total was definitely a bit painful. Not a shock, since she and I had estimated cost at our first appointment, but definitely a bit eye-opening. I’d definitely recommend having a pretty hard estimate of your guest list when you go in to meet vendors, since they seem to do an estimate for you as to what the wedding will cost in total.

How’s your planning going? Have you made any big moves lately? Share in the comments!

christen
  • 7/18

    For the most part, I’ve snapped myself out of my wedding planning funk. I’ve emailed my wedding coordinator to nail down a time for next Friday’s meeting to discuss menu, cake, setup, decorations, and the first half of the payment for the wedding. Chris is hopefully going to be able to take a day off (or at least part of one) to come with me and do that, which makes me happy. So I’ve now turned my attention to my next victims … my kids.

    I really enjoyed wedding dress shopping at David’s Bridal, but even when we were there I wasn’t overly impressed by the flower girl selection. Everything looked either too old or too young for my girls who are 7 and 4. I also really don’t want to spend $80 on a dress that my kids are going to wear most likely once, though to be honest both of my girly girls will probably be next to impossible to pry out of something lacy and pretty. I also want them to match, not only because it’ll be cute but because if either one of them has anything even slightly different, the other one will want it and then I’ll have to referee that debacle (I’m making having kids sound great, aren’t I?). So I headed to Etsy to see if they had anything more my speed and in my price range.

    Luckily, Etsy hasn’t let me down so far. The first dress I found that I fell in love with is from ElluraSage. It’s within my price range, it’s lacy and beautiful up top, and then ruffly and pretty down at the bottom. It’s short, which is what I thought I wanted because both of my girls inherited my clumsy gene, so give them less to trip over. I also love the sash with the flower, it adds a beautiful touch. It has cap sleeves, so a shawl or cover up would probably be necessary since even in Virginia — November can be cold — but that wouldn’t be a big deal to order.

    Flower girl dress from Etsy seller ElluraSage

    But then I found the perfect dress for my girls. It’s by PoshPeanutKids and I fell in love with it right away. It’s long sleeved, which I ended up loving. Since my wedding is in November, I think it will fit the weather perfectly. It’s long, which I was hesitant about, but I think if it’s really going to be a problem I’ll be willing to spend the little  bit of extra money to get it hemmed. It also comes with a bow, which the listing already says can be changed to match the colors of the wedding. It’s a couple of dollars more than the other one, but still under $40, which is definitely within what I wanted to spend. And the cherry on top is that both of the girls lost their little minds when I showed them, Chris got home from school and Y ran up to him telling him about “the wedding dress for us that Mommy is buying us.” If that’s not the seal of approval, I don’t know what is.

    Lace flower girl dress available from Etsy seller PoshPeanutKids

    Honestly, I’ll probably end up getting the kids shoes from Payless, they’re only going to be wearing them for a short while, for the ceremony, and then I guess I’ll use them as special occasion shoes. So I think, once I order the dresses, that I have the kids pretty much set! They’ll be thrilled with my sister, their Aunt T, doing their hair, and all I have to do is get some flower petals for them to throw and I’ve got that part at least down. Slowly but surely I think it’s all coming together.

    Have you had any recent big wins with your planning? What are your flower girls wearing? Share below!

    christen
  • 7/3

    Credit: A Sight of Love I thought about not writing this post in quite this tone, but then I wondered what else I would write about and how I would write it. So please bear with me, and I hope I don't seem too Debbie Downer right now. But the bridal blues has hit. Wedding planning has completely stalled. I have an appointment in a…

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    6/20

    Hey everyone! Sorry for the week off, I was dealing with some family issues but I'm back! So when we went to the bridal expo a few months back, we signed up to do our wedding registry at Bed, Bath & Beyond. I'm not going to lie, I didn't even know if we were going to do a registry, but they tempted me with the…

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    5/22

    So, after my slight breakdown , I'm back on track. Chris, the girls and I had a wonderful Mother's Day, we went to Busch Gardens and had a really fun, relaxing day, which I think helped my overall mood a lot. My mother came down today to help me with the kids, which is always great. I have a race on Sunday, but their dad is…

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    5/8

    So, I'm not going to lie, I've done very little planning during the past couple of weeks. I finally was able to mail out our save the dates, and the verdict on our choice was very positive, which made me happy. My next meeting with Cathy (our venue coordinator) is in July, where I'll give her the first half of the payment for the wedding…

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    4/24

    I will fully admit that I used to judge brides who claimed they were "sooooo stressed over wedding planning." Just as I've been forced to admit over the past seven years that I truly know nothing about parenting, I'm now eating my words about wedding planning. I got lucky in the fact that the venue comes with a built-in planner who will help me plan…

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    4/10

    I can't believe I'm saying this but ... I have a venue! Apparently when it comes to wedding planning I have two settings: try to hide and pretend I don't have literally everything to plan, and go go go! So now I've gone from this: To actually knowing where the heck I'm getting married! So my mom is actually the one who found the venue.…

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    3/28

    I am so happy to report that I have finally made a concrete decision on something ... THE DRESS! About a week and a half ago I hauled my mom, my bridesmaid Shay and my two girls to David's Bridal in the hopes that I could finally get this ball rolling and make a decision on something. Chris has recently taken on a paramedic certification class…

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