So, I’ve felt like I’ve been kind of stagnant with the wedding planning lately, but I finally feel like the ball is actually rolling now. We had our second consultation with the wedding planner this past Saturday, which was Chris’s first actual in-person look at the venue and meeting her, made all the more interesting because he was coming off of an overnight shift at the ER and was running on three hours of sleep. It was great though (besides dropping half of the wedding cost then, which hurt my soul); we went over a lot of details that we’ve been discussing but haven’t nailed down yet. We finalized our colors (plum and silver), our menu (guests will choose between steak, chicken, fish and shrimp), locked in the DJ and went over the ceremony and the timeline for that and the reception.
And then, we got to pick the cake sample we wanted, which I picked up yesterday!
So, Cathy’s daughter is a baker, and she makes the cakes and cupcakes, so she made us three flavors of cake and filling to test. We chose double dark chocolate with mocha filling, milk chocolate with strawberry filling and marble with apple cinnamon filling. I picked them up yesterday and was SUPER excited to see that we had six, full-size cupcakes to test — two of each flavor. They were beautiful, nicely frosted with vanilla frosting and decorations. At least they were, until some jerk cut me off in traffic and I slammed on my brakes, causing the cupcakes to go flying off the seat and onto the floor, and me to use all of the swear words in my repertoire (don’t worry, I hadn’t picked the kids up yet).
Luckily, they still tasted delicious, and being slightly squashed made it easier to taste, since the girls were with us and we got them in on the action too. The only ones I didn’t let them taste were the mocha filled ones, since the last thing I needed was overly hyperactive children jacked up on coffee. So all four of us agreed that we loved the strawberry filling. The girls liked the apple cinnamon, but neither Chris nor I thought it was flavorful enough. We loved the double dark chocolate, but the mocha was way too strong, and Chris doesn’t like coffee to begin with. I don’t know why we picked the marble to try, I don’t like marble to begin with so that was my fault, but I wanted a vanilla-ish option of cake to try. So, I think we decided that we’d do the double dark chocolate with strawberry filling, and then probably just vanilla with chocolate. We’re doing cupcakes instead of a big cake, so we get to pick two (which amuses me to no end), and we also get a little cake for the two of us to cut, which I think is amazing.
I’m not going to lie, I’ve been looking forward to tasting the cakes since we got engaged, and I wasn’t disappointed.
On a serious note, I will say that the decisions about the guest list estimate was a lot of pressure.
Cathy needed an approximate number to give me an estimated payment for the first half, so Chris and I had come up with our lists of guests, to include the bridal party, but not the girls since they’ll be there for the ceremony but not the reception. We ended up telling Cathy that we’ll pay for the DJ and the photographer to eat, it just seems like the nice thing to do, and Cathy is only charging half for them. But coming up with that number and then getting the estimate for the total was definitely a bit painful. Not a shock, since she and I had estimated cost at our first appointment, but definitely a bit eye-opening. I’d definitely recommend having a pretty hard estimate of your guest list when you go in to meet vendors, since they seem to do an estimate for you as to what the wedding will cost in total.