Hello fellow BABs!
I’m back with Part 2 of my Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments. I know you have wedding planning and general badassery to get to; so let’s get right into it.
Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments
6. Thou Shalt Not Feel Guilty for Cutting your Guest List.
The size of your guest list is what drives up the cost of your wedding; mo’ guests equals mo’ money and mo’ problems. Because you are on a tight budget, you try to cut your guest list, but every time you remove someone you feel guilty. If you invite Lisa, then you have to invite David because they are cousins. And you have to invite Maria because she’s your great-aunt, twice removed. UGH! It might seem cutthroat, but when you are a Broke-Ass, you can’t afford to invite everyone and their mother. Therefore, a good rule of thumb is: If you wouldn’t notice that a particular person wasn’t at your wedding, then they shouldn’t make the cut. Everyone has a couple of courtesy or obligatory invites that they have to make, but you shouldn’t have table after table filled with them.
7. Thou Shalt Include Your Fiance in Your Planning.
More likely than not, your fiance doesn’t want you to drag him to every craft store and flower shop you visit. He doesn’t care about centerpieces, flowers or table linens, and he probably answers every request for input with a “huh.” As a result, you may decide to avoid frustration by not asking for his help, but don’t give up on him. Wedding planning won’t become a source of stress between the two of you, if you can find something that will appeal to him. For example, if your fiance is handy, maybe he can build the wedding arch out of PVC pipe. Does your fiance have an artistic bent? Great, he can design your wedding invitations. He’ll be relieved you aren’t asking him to do something completely foreign to him, and you’ll be relieved that you don’t have to throttle him with your wedding binder.
8. Thou Shalt Think Outside the Box.
A huge budget-killer that couples often take for granted are all of those traditional wedding “must-haves” that you do or get because you think you “have to.” Ummm … no. Why should you have to spend $50 or more on a book that is going to collect dust on your bookcase just because everyone says you “need” a guest book. If you aren’t a traditional type of bride feel free to think of creative alternatives that are more your style. If cost is the bigger issue, take an ax and cut it right out of your budget. You are the bride, and you’re calling the shots. Repeat after me: “If I don’t want it, I don’t need to waste time or money on it.”
9. Thou Shalt be Organized.
Being organized, whether you are a broke-ass bride or a princess bride, is fundamental. It’s the air that breathes life into your wedding planning. Websites like The Knot and Wedding Wire have tools that will help you stay organized. Furthermore, these apps will help you maintain your sanity and keep your inner bridezilla at bay. If you need something more tangible, you can buy or make a wedding planner. (Hint: That link also has a bunch of worksheets you can download for free!) It doesn’t matter if you use an app, a binder, or a stone tablet, just stay organized. You’ll thank me later.
I have several planning binders, including one for just my DIY projects.
10. Thou Shalt Enjoy Thyself.
Finally, in the whirlwind of planning, budgeting, and crafting, don’t forget to sit back and enjoy your engagement. Cozy up on the couch with your fiance and a glass of wine, and talk about all of the wonderful things you will do together as man and wife. Go out with your bridesmaids for Taco Tuesday and have a gabfest over half-price margaritas; talk about the wedding or trade online dating horror stories. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, or what you do, so long as you have fun with the people that you love and who love you.
I’ll catch ya next time. Keep on being badass!
What rules have you set for yourself during wedding planning?