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Hello fellow BABs!

I’m back with Part 2 of my Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments. I know you have wedding planning and general badassery to get to; so let’s get right into it.

Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments

6. Thou Shalt Not Feel Guilty for Cutting your Guest List.

The size of your guest list is what drives up the cost of your wedding; mo’ guests equals mo’ money and mo’ problems. Because you are on a tight budget, you try to cut your guest list, but every time you remove someone you feel guilty. If you invite Lisa, then you have to invite David because they are cousins. And you have to invite Maria because she’s your great-aunt, twice removed. UGH! It might seem cutthroat, but when you are a Broke-Ass, you can’t afford to invite everyone and their mother. Therefore, a good rule of thumb is: If you wouldn’t notice that a particular person wasn’t at your wedding, then they shouldn’t make the cut. Everyone has a couple of courtesy or obligatory invites that they have to make, but you shouldn’t have table after table filled with them.

7. Thou Shalt Include Your Fiance in Your Planning.

More likely than not, your fiance doesn’t want you to drag him to every craft store and flower shop you visit. He doesn’t care about centerpieces, flowers or table linens, and he probably answers every request for input with a “huh.” As a result, you may decide to avoid frustration by not asking for his help, but don’t give up on him. Wedding planning won’t become a source of stress between the two of you, if you can find something that will appeal to him. For example, if your fiance is handy, maybe he can build the wedding arch out of PVC pipe. Does your fiance have an artistic bent? Great, he can design your wedding invitations. He’ll be relieved you aren’t asking him to do something completely foreign to him, and you’ll be relieved that you don’t have to throttle him with your wedding binder.

8. Thou Shalt Think Outside the Box.

A huge budget-killer that couples often take for granted are all of those traditional wedding “must-haves” that you do or get because you think you “have to.” Ummm … no. Why should you have to spend $50 or more on a book that is going to collect dust on your bookcase just because everyone says you “need” a guest book. If you aren’t a traditional type of bride feel free to think of creative alternatives that are more your style. If cost is the bigger issue, take an ax and cut it right out of your budget. You are the bride, and you’re calling the shots. Repeat after me: “If I don’t want it, I don’t need to waste time or money on it.”

9. Thou Shalt be Organized.

Being organized, whether you are a broke-ass bride or a princess bride, is fundamental. It’s the air that breathes life into your wedding planning. Websites like The Knot and Wedding Wire have tools that will help you stay organized. Furthermore, these apps will help you maintain your sanity and keep your inner bridezilla at bay. If you need something more tangible, you can buy or make a wedding planner. (Hint: That link also has a bunch of worksheets you can download for free!) It doesn’t matter if you use an app, a binder, or a stone tablet, just stay organized. You’ll thank me later.

I have several planning binders, including one for just my DIY projects.

10. Thou Shalt Enjoy Thyself.

Finally, in the whirlwind of planning, budgeting, and crafting, don’t forget to sit back and enjoy your engagement. Cozy up on the couch with your fiance and a glass of wine, and talk about all of the wonderful things you will do together as man and wife. Go out with your bridesmaids for Taco Tuesday and have a gabfest over half-price margaritas; talk about the wedding or trade online dating horror stories. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, or what you do, so long as you have fun with the people that you love and who love you.

I’ll catch ya next time. Keep on being badass!

What rules have you set for yourself during wedding planning?




  • 6/12

    Wedding countdown chalkboard available from Etsy seller LavishLilLuxuries

    Earlier this month, it was the one-year anniversary of the day he proposed. Not to sound cliche, but I cant believe how much time has flown since then. We’ve also hit the three-month countdown until the wedding and that is an incredibly exciting and yet terrifying feeling.

    While we have all of our gotten our vendors booked, deposits paid, dress fittings and hair trials booked, wedding bands ordered …

    I have this constant creeping feeling that I should be planning at every spare moment I have.

    What should we serve at the rehearsal dinner?

    What kind of favors should we have?

    How should we organize the tables?

    Its a disconcerting feeling at the best of times, its extra intrusive and annoying when someone such as myself is, lets say, trying to focus on something like writing her master’s thesis.

    I don’t concentrate well to begin with. All these random details flying around my head have me feeling like I’m constantly spinning. Part of me just wants to sit down and bang out the details from start to finish, but unfortunately, my fiance doesn’t share my sense of urgency, and I think we’ve only received back about 15% of our RSVPs. Dang.

    I’m guessing these situations are part of the reason why some people might hire a wedding planner.

    Speaking of things I can’t afford …

    Holy smokes, are we ever over-budget.

    I remember the days of innocence, where I was baffled by the idea of a single event costing tens of thousands of dollars. This is partially our fault for failing to do research beforehand. When we drew our budget up initially, I just massively spitballed what I assumed things cost based on previous experience: For example, I used to work at a flower shop when I was in undergrad. I remember mid-size floral arrangements costing about $50-$75 (CAD). Therefore, I assumed my bridal bouquet, at approximately the same size, would cost roughly that. I’m not proud to admit this, and I’m assuming everyone who’s reading this right now is laughing at the sheer naïvete of my assumption. You can bet your collective asses that the lowest estimate I got for my bouquet was more than double that. So naturally, in the end, our entire floral budget was more than double what we thought. Oops.

    Thankfully, we were able to make some cuts, like requesting smaller centerpieces, and eliminating the flower girs’s floral crown (as adorable and Instagrammable as it would have surely been, she’s 4 years old and it would have been pulled off and trampled on the ground in a matter of seconds). Our relatives were also able to lend us some money to cover the additional costs. Thankfully, all is not lost, and we can adjust.

    Word to the wise: Don’t rely on what you think you know — do some research!

    There are entirely too many helpful websites (like this one *wink*) available to help you make an informed decision.


    How’s your planning coming along? Share in the comments!



  • 6/5

    Hi, my name is Ciji and I am a rule breaker. Now that we have established who I really am, let me tell you more about my EPIC bridal shower. A tea party just didn't seem like my kind of fun. We "brunch so hard" every weekend that a ladies brunch just didn't seem like anything special. I needed to share with my bridal shower…

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    Timelss Rings invitation from Wedding Paper Divas In the beginning there was a good idea, then the good idea was shared and people shunned it because the good idea was too modern and technologically forward ... and that's how we went from e-vites to paper invites. Siiiiigh. Since we originally didn't plan on spending money on invitations, I only looked at stationery sites longingly and for ideas.…

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    Hello my fellow BABs! Greetings from Connecticut! My name is Kimberly and I am a 36 year old Database and Office manager. In addition to being the lucky mom of a fabulous 18-month-old daughter, I am also the momma of a 14-year-old grumpy pug. My fiance, Antonio, and I are planning a romantic, garden themed wedding for (hopefully) 100 guests. Our wedding will be taking place…

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    There's a growing trend to purchase a faux wedding cake and because I am not opposed to any tactic that may help with our budget, I am exploring if faux is the way to go. In addition to the cost savings, I'm open to my options after we've had not one but three subpar cake tasting experiences. It all started with a cake baker referral that was slow to…

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    So, after my slight breakdown , I'm back on track. Chris, the girls and I had a wonderful Mother's Day, we went to Busch Gardens and had a really fun, relaxing day, which I think helped my overall mood a lot. My mother came down today to help me with the kids, which is always great. I have a race on Sunday, but their dad is…

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    As someone who has only seen episodes of Say Yes to the Dress in the time it takes for the channel to load and me to flip to the next channel, I was completely unprepared for wedding dress hunting. I was a "good" bride/friend and invited my mom and two besties to Charleston for the process.  I made appointments at 3 different bridal shops (Bridals by…

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    Pinterest is a wonderful wedding planning tool. There are so many options, suggestions and design ideas that quite possibly anyone, even without a "crafting thumb" could follow the instructions and make something wonderful. For months, I have collected these ideas on my special secret wedding planning board and I even shared with others that my planning progress was right on track, primarily because I had…

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