Broke-Ass Category: Budget Concerns

9/14

Timo and I listen to a lot of music and have many favorite songs.  On one of our first dates, Timo and I actually had a sing along to my Spotify playlist that was on.  There are bluetooth speakers in the garage and in the bathroom for jam sessions.  When we were building our house, the ONE thing Timo wanted was in-ceiling speakers and I agreed to that as long as I could get a bathtub with jets (we both ended up getting what we wanted).  When he gets home from work, Timo usually turns on the music and it plays in the background while we go about our evening until we eventually decide to watch a show on Netflix.

In that vein, I am sharing the five songs that my DJ must play at our reception.

wediding songssource: DJ Littlebit

 1.  The Kill (Bury Me) by Thirty Seconds to Mars

Yep.  A breakup song is #1 on the list.  Because this was the first song that Timo and I had an epic sing along to.  It was then I knew that this guy wasn’t someone I needed to be worried about judging me.  He was willing to sing a breakup song with me on one of our first dates!  We could have looked at it completely different (as a bad omen, if you will), but the music was so loud and we were both so into it, that it was a completely positive experience.  And ya know, weird.  Because who “carpool karaokes” to a break up song on a date?  We do.   #bestteamforever

2.  Ahnma – Beginner

I honestly have no idea what this song is about because it’s in German.  But Timo gets all white boy thug when it comes on and the chorus sounds something like, “Goldschlager shigga llama” and it always makes me (and Timo) laugh when I sing out the word sounds like that.

3.  An Andrew McMahon song.

Probably Fire Escape or Cecilia and the Satellite.  We actually went to see Andrew McMahon when he was in Charleston and it was epic.  Especially the part where he crowd surfed on an inflatable duck… I cannot make that up.  I have proof!

4.  Alone by Marshmallo

Marshmallo is one of Timo’s favorite artists.

5.  Hey Pretty Girl by Kip Moore

I used to listen to this song when I was in that “groom fever” phase of my life and it still never gets old thinking that Timo would “dedicate” this song to me on the radio if people still did that.

  • 8/23

    As soon as we started talking about getting married I knew funding the wedding was going to be an issue. We had no money saved up. None. What. So. Ever. Once we got engaged and I started crunching numbers and forecasting potential savings, it was confirmed. I was a Broke-Ass Bride. Immediately, I started thinking of creative alternatives to a traditional wedding that could help us keep costs down. I came up with various ideas, but my favorites were these two:

    • Afternoon reception – I figured serving brunch instead of dinner had to cut down on food costs. However, I vetoed this idea after I realized that my day would start crazy super early. Plus, I would probably end up feeling rushed, which would be no fun.
    • Cake and Punch reception – I really liked the idea of having a late-night wedding where only drinks and desserts were served. I imagined the most epic dessert tables on the planet, but my fiancé shot me down. It was important to him that we feed people, even if it meant he had to do all of the cooking.

    Once we crossed off every idea, our only option was a traditional reception with dinner and dancing. Which was fine, it just meant we were going to have to cut costs in other ways.

    I know what I want … Now, how do I get it?

    Since I already had my wedding vision, once we decided on a traditional format I was ready to make the budget. First, I started by calculating how much money we could realistically save between now and summer 2019. Because I love to make lists and spreadsheets (I use Microsoft Excel like it’s crack) this was an enjoyable task for me.

    I know, I’m weird.

    Then I added in income tax refunds (I underestimated this amount because you never know what can happen). Then I deducted money for other things we saved for in a year, for example, Christmas shopping. Once the vortex of paper, spreadsheets, and formulas stopped swirling, and the dust settled; I unearthed our magic number. That number is …

    Drum roll, please …

    $12,000

    Not the tiniest budget, but certainly not anywhere near the average cost of a wedding in Connecticut, which is over $40,000.

     

    I took my budget and turned it into a chart. See, told ya I was weird.

    How do I turn that number into a budget, without wanting to pull out my hair?

    Next, I sat down with my binder, which contained a budget breakdown spreadsheet (BAB has one here, too). It was very helpful. I used the percentages under each heading to calculate how much of my budget to allocate to each item. For example, it said that 50% of my budget should go towards the reception which includes the site rental, food, alcohol, etc.

    Once I went through the entire sheet, I started tweaking the numbers to suit my preferences and needs. For example, according to the planner, I should allocate $500 towards stationery, but since I decided that I was creating all of the stationery, I cut that amount to $200. Next, I started filling in some of the sub-categories within the budget plan. For example, under the Decorations heading I budgeted:

    • $500 for flowers
    • $300 for miscellaneous decorations
    • $200 for linens

    I continued playing with the numbers until I was satisfied the money was allocated in the best way possible to make our wedding a reality.

    This is a snippet of the budget that I put together.

    Hallelujah! A budget has been born this day!

    I suspect, that even though I have my budget plan, there will be plenty of changes to make as we continue to plan our wedding. Once I start figuring out all of the DIY projects I may find that I need less money for flowers and more money for general supplies. Or maybe I get a great deal on the catering, and I use the extra money to fatten up our photography package. One thing I know for sure is that we can’t go over our $12,000 bottom line, so whatever challenges come our way we’ll have to figure out how to overcome them without spending more money.

    Not easy to do, but we’ll figure it out.

    Y’all got to pray for me!

     

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    8/8

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    7/27

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    7/18

    For the most part, I've snapped myself out of my wedding planning funk. I've emailed my wedding coordinator to nail down a time for next Friday's meeting to discuss menu, cake, setup, decorations, and the first half of the payment for the wedding. Chris is hopefully going to be able to take a day off (or at least part of one) to come with me…

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    7/17

    We’re in the home stretch for the wedding now. The countdown is at seven weeks. Last week, at the eight-week mark I had a mini panic attack about how close the wedding was and how much was undone. To calm myself, I sat down and tried to do two of the larger tasks that were left. I was finally able to tackle the program and…

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