Broke-Ass Category: Pre-Wedding Parties

8/29

A lot of pre-wedding activities like the bridal shower or bachelorette had to be organized remotely or during short trips home because, (as I’ve mentioned in previous posts), due to a recent move, Ev and I live pretty far away from most of our family and friends. Three out of four of my bridesmaids, as well as my bridesman, don’t live near me. I found myself stumped as to how I might manage a bridal shower, bachelorette party AND a wedding with everyone involved without us spending all of our money on place tickets.

So, I decided to drop one of them.

I was insistent on a bachelorette party.

I am a bit of a goofball and I knew a night of getting silly would be the perfect remedy for pre-wedding stress. Because everyone is planning on coming in to town a few days before the wedding, I planned it for the Wednesday before. I know this might seem like a bit of a bad idea, but I have a game plan.

I firmly indicated to my girls that while I do indulge in a few libations, I’m not trying to have a three-day hangover, and they respect that. I assigned my girl K to plan the it and know she’s good for keeping the party fun within reason. I asked her to surprise me, within a few parameters: I have requested that it involve playing Mario Kart, doing some king of team-building exercise such a laser tag (but not anything that will send me home covered in bruises, such as paintball), and that we go for drinks at a pub that has good beer.

Finally, I requested requested that we keep the activities affordable for everyone, naturally, because I’m broke-ass. She agreed and promised that I’m going to love it. Knowing her, that I will probably end up in one of those giant inflatable T-Rex costumes by the end of the night. I promise I’ll post pictures.

bridal shower costumeInflatable T-Rex Costume, $51.99 from Amazon

After getting that set up, I realized that having a bridal shower probably wasn’t in the cards. Everyone had already used up vacation time and spent money to come to the wedding, I didn’t want to ask them to do it again for my shower. I also didn’t want to try to cram that in also during the week before the wedding. Doing that, plus the everything else, would just be way too much. In the end, I wasn’t nearly as excited about it as the other things.

So, I chose to opt out.

Nobody was terribly fussed about it. I didn’t expect it, but a few of my bridesmaids and female family members chose to give me small shower gifts at times when we got together. That, honestly, was a pretty nice alternative. I was able to accept the gift in a manner that wasn’t rushed, and then got to spend quality time with the person. So, for my individual situation, that was the best way it could have worked out. There’s perks to being broke-ass!

Next time I post, I will be a married woman! See you then!

Holly

  • 8/1

    It’s really weird: Growing up, my little sister and I did not get along together at all. We are five years apart and at a young age the difference is unforgivable. In more recent years we are both coming to the realization that it’s possible that we are both humans. It’s a strange tingly new feeling. We actually talk to each other now and hang out some. I wish the idea of asking my sister to be my Maid of Honor had crossed my mind at some point, but it simply never did. I’m really glad I have my sister (finally) in my life though. She threw me the best Bridal Tea Party this past weekend.

    Before you look at the pictures from the bridal tea, let me remind you that we had venue issues finding a place to host it and a family friend offered us the use of her home. That family friend is a bit … over zealous at times and even though my sister and she discussed decorations in detail and laid out a plan, that friend is the kind of person that will go and change everything out from under you at the last minute to suit her own fancy. So look at these images with a grain of salt. I absolutely HATE the color pink and EVERYTHING was pink. But hey, I didn’t have to spend hours planning it and the food was great, so who cares.

    Bridal Tea Party Munchies

    It was awesome being surrounded by friends and family having an adult tea party. We ate off real China and everyone had their own tea cup to fill as she desired. There were actual lumps of sugar, cucumber sandwiches, scones and all sorts of tea party type foods. We played a few games and had a cute little “photo booth” area where we took pictures together.

    My bridesmaid Maggie and I

    I really enjoyed stepping out of my comfort zone for a little bit. My idea of dressing up is putting on pants that aren’t jeans and a shirt with no logos. I do know how to dress up but only do it for church, weddings and funerals for the most part. It was nice putting on a frilly dress, shoes with heels, sticking out my pinky and drinking from delicate little tea cups with a room full of ladies and pretending we are all 5 hosting a tea party with the queen.

    The Super Pink Everything

    I asked my dad to come take pictures after my grandmother mentioned that she was dragging grandpa along and he would need a playmate. At first he was a bit chagrined to be in a room full of tea-sipping ladies, but I wish I had been able to react fast enough to snap a picture of him while he had been wearing the big floppy hat I arrived in (before someone slapped a bride top hat on me), holding a scone in one hand and a tea cup in the other, pinky to the sky as he talked to my grandfather. Dad admitted that it wasn’t really all that different from when he was asked to sit at the table with me and my stuffed animals as I served “tea” as a toddler.

    Dad and Michael Building the Folding Ticket Booth

    After the shower, I loaded up all my loot into the car and headed back to Michael’s parents house where we were staying for the weekend. I was pleasantly surprised when I walked into the garage to see Michael and his father putting the finishing touches on the ticket booth I had mentioned I wanted to build after I came home from the shower. I was blindly excited and how amazing it looks. I had seen an image of one another bride built on Pinterest and set out to make something similar. There weren’t any plans with her post so we had to eyeball it and come up with our own measurements. I loved her design because it had hinges to fold flat for easy travel and storage. One leg swings around to the front and the other swings to the back. The tabletop is held in by pins and just pops out when you lift it so it can all fit in the back of a truck. Ours was 6’ tall, with the sides all 36”. It costs about $40 to make and I’ll donate it to the local high school to use as a stage prop after the wedding unless a parent asks if their child can have it for play time.

    Ticket Booth Painted and Covered in Fabric

    Now that the shower is over everything feels a bit surreal. We are four weeks and counting. Yikes!

    What about you, did you have a rockin’ shower?

  • 6/5

    Hi, my name is Ciji and I am a rule breaker. Now that we have established who I really am, let me tell you more about my EPIC bridal shower. A tea party just didn't seem like my kind of fun. We "brunch so hard" every weekend that a ladies brunch just didn't seem like anything special. I needed to share with my bridal shower…

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    5/1

    Rehearsal Dinner Napkin available from Etsy seller MemorableWedding I finally had some time last weekend to buckle down get our invitations ordered, printed and mailed out, and our wedding website fully functional. This had me feeling the pressure like crazy -- now that people are actually going to RSVP to this thing, I really have to have my sh*t together (but to be honest, I…

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    4/27

    I don't want to skip any steps on my engaged journey. All of the celebrations, the special moments and opportunities to connect with loved ones are a part of my experience. However, I know those moments can be costly, so although not super-involved in the planning of my bachelorette party, I wanted to ensure that it did not break the bank.  I shared with my Matron of…

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    4/26

    So the bridal shower has been sort of an ongoing issue with my bride tribe and I. To be honest, a shower was never even on my radar as something I would need to worry about. Isn’t that a time when friends and family get together and shower the bride with gifts? Shouldn’t her only job be to show up? Welp, apparently not. My MOH…

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    3/13

    The four in the middle:  planner/doer, her fiance, me and my MOH When it comes time to pick your ladies to stand by you, take into consideration their particular skill sets before you ask them. I have an overwhelming six bridesmaids. I have one that is a doer and a planner. There’s an artsy one, one with a green thumb, a miniature one whose mom…

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    2/8

    I am totally married and stuff, but I just realized I never filled you guys in on my amazing bachelorette party. For shame! My bestie/bridesmaid Adrienne went above and beyond and made it the perfect day. It's such a fantastic feeling to know your friends just get you and want to celebrate with you. I love sports. Other than the whole marrying Russel thing, my…

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    7/18

    This past weekend, I had my bridal shower! I was pretty excited about an opportunity to celebrate with my friends. Like all things, I had to do something a little bit nontraditional. Since I'm not having a formal bridal party, there was initially some question over what the shower plans would be, but I have great friends, so a group of my would-be bridesmaids planned…

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