Broke-Ass Category: Wedding Advice

8/15

Weddings are one of the last grazing grounds where the nearly extinct thank you card can be seen. These rare beasts are comprised of mostly paper, ink and the occasional adhesive to hold it all together. Many find the art of creating these near mythical beasts difficult, but I’m here to lead you through this wilderness.

Thank you cards generally have six parts.

A greeting, the actual thank you, details, a personal touch, another thank you and closing.

Assorted Thank You Card from Amazon for $12

Greeting

Dear Great Aunt Ethel.  

Start your card with the person(s)’ name and a salutation. Make sure you have their name spelled correctly.

Thank You For

Thank you for the lovely blue KitchenAid Mixer.

Thank you for the (insert descriptive adjective) gift of (insert gifts). Try to be as descriptive as possible to show that you actually appreciate the gift, even if you have every intention of returning the gift. If the gift was cash, avoid saying “thanks for the cash” but instead try something like, “thank you for your generous gift.”

Details

We are looking forward to mixing batches of cookies much quicker and easier.

Explain what you plan to use the gift for. If it’s an appliance, describe using it in your home. If it is a decoration, explain where you will hang/use the item. When you’ve received cash, explain what you plan on spending it on. Added details makes it sound like you are genuinely appreciative for the item.

Personal Touch

We love you and are so glad you were able to share our special day.

Let your gift giver(s) know that you care for them as more than a giver of swag. If you will see them somewhere in the near future, mention you are looking forward to it. If you haven’t seen them in a long time, mention how great it was seeing them and how happy you are they traveled miles/hours/days to see you.

Restate Thank You

Thank you again for helping make our little apartment into a home.

Take the thank you given in step 2 and rephrase it.

Closing

With love, Michael and Danielle.

You can also use sincerely if it’s a vague second cousin twice removed. Yours truly, regards, warm regards, or lots of love are also solid choices.

Printable Thank you Card from Etsy Seller FawnAndFloral for $9

Like with any rare animal, there are always special laws and rules that surround them.

Do Not

Write your cards in glitter, wild colors or a pencil. Pick a nice simple blue or black ink to write in. If you must be fancy, try a fountain pen or a calligraphy pen. Also try to get a quick drying ink to avoid smudging.

Ramble. People don’t read anymore and standard card size is usually 4×6″. Keep your card short and sweet.

Type your cards. You are trying to show appreciation, take the time to hand write this out.

Do

Use nice stationery. They don’t have to match your wedding invitations/decor, but a box of blank cards are very inexpensive. No need to break the bank.

Send a thank you card. Late is better than never. Wedding thank you card expectation is between one and three months after the wedding. If you are sending yours super late, also include an apology for the lateness.

Hand write your cards. Your spouse and you can divide and conquer the stack of cards needed. Only one person needs to sign, but if you are both able to sign it is a nice touch.

And there you have it, the simple breakdown of the thank you card. Now go forth and let some of these magnificent beasts out into the wild.

  • 5/31

    Hello my fellow BABs! Greetings from Connecticut!

    My name is Kimberly and I am a 36 year old Database and Office manager. In addition to being the lucky mom of a fabulous 18-month-old daughter, I am also the momma of a 14-year-old grumpy pug. My fiance, Antonio, and I are planning a romantic, garden themed wedding for (hopefully) 100 guests. Our wedding will be taking place summer of 2019, so that we have plenty of time to save. Therefore, I’ve decided to take my time and come up with various options before I get into the nitty gritty of wedding planning. Of course, I’ve already joined various wedding crafting groups and signed up for at least five wedding-themed newsletters. I’ve also read so many real wedding stories that I could fill a three-subject notebook with tips, tricks and anecdotes, and I’ve only been engaged since March.

    Ready? Here we go!

    The Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments

    1. Thou Shalt Embrace Thine Inner Crafting Goddess  

    Fact: When you are on a broke-ass budget, DIY will become your middle name. Give into it. Embrace it. Dive in like you would dive into a carton of Hagan Daaz after you’ve been dieting for a week. (Don’t act like that’s just me.) The key is to know what you are good at and what you can teach yourself. Most of all, know what you shouldn’t touch with a 20-foot pole, rubber gloves and a hazmat suit. Play to your strengths and you’ll be fine. Also, keep in mind how much time your DIY projects will cost you, because if you don’t, you will take on more than you can handle and you WILL regret it.

    2. Thou Shalt Stay True to Thine Own Style, Not What’s Trending on Pinterest

    Don’t get me wrong, I love Pinterest. I love, love, LOVE it, because Pinterest can provide you with a lot of great ideas and inspiration. However, Pinterest can also drop kick you into the fiery chasm of hell if you let it. Why? First of all, Pinterest can lead to the decimation of your budget. That’s huge. Furthermore, you may find yourself  on the day of your wedding looking around at a mish-mash of styles that say nothing about who you are as a bride and as a couple. If bold colors are what’s hot, but you had your heart set on earthy tones, then guess what — earth tones it is! Your wedding will be beautiful because it will be a reflection of you.

    3. Thou Shalt Ask for Help if Thou Needs It

    I’m not sure how, or why, it happens; but as soon as we have that beautiful ring on our finger we turn into Super Bride. Super Brides think they are indestructible and can plan this amazing wedding all by themselves. Wrong! You ARE amazing, but you you CAN’T do everything by yourself, nor should you try. Super Brides often find themselves overextended, and as result, they burn out. So, if you don’t want to be a frazzled mess of a bride on your wedding day, ask for help. Bridesmaids are not just for looking pretty in pictures, they are there to support you. Now, having said that, please do not think I am encouraging the indentured servitude of your friends and family. Remember, they are not there to plan the wedding for you, but to lend a helping hand when you need one.

    4. Thou Shalt Not Become Bridezilla

    Planning a wedding is stressful, and you are bound to have a short fuse from time to time. It’s expected. Having a bridezilla moment is not the end of the world. No friendships will be ruined, no innocent villages will be destroyed. You will recover. However, if you are a raging, bridezilla from the moment you said “yes” you will run the risk of ruining some relationships. If you need an outlet go for a walk or a run, hit a punching bag, get a massage. Do something. Whatever you do, do not unleash the beast on your friends and family members who are just trying to help. 

    5. Thou Shalt Splurge on One Detail or Two    

    If there’s one thing that a broke-asses learns early on, it’s that you can’t have everything that you want. You have to decide what is a “must-have” and what is a “nice-to-have” and crossing those “nice-to-have” items off of your list can be depressing. However, being a broke-ass does not mean that you can’t splurge a little. In fact, I encourage it. If it’s important to you to get married under a beautiful wedding arch, put extra money into your decor budget. If you and your fiance are foodies, flush out that catering budget. It’s your wedding day, if ever there was an occasion for a little splurge it’s your wedding day. And when I say “little splurge” I mean “little splurge.” Do NOT go crazy and start over-spending left and right.

     

    ***Stay tuned for Part TWO!***

     

    My fiancee and I — pre-wedding planning madness.

  • 5/10

    Pinterest is a wonderful wedding planning tool. There are so many options, suggestions and design ideas that quite possibly anyone, even without a "crafting thumb" could follow the instructions and make something wonderful. For months, I have collected these ideas on my special secret wedding planning board and I even shared with others that my planning progress was right on track, primarily because I had…

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    3/17

    Raise your hand if you're a disorganized hot mess most of the time ... yep, me too! Now where are my Type A friends who get anxiety when someone even touches something on your desk? There's news for you, too. No matter where you fall on the messy-organized spectrum, putting together an orderly, executable system for wedding day set up is going to save you a lot…

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    2/17

    Finding the love of your life and taking that next big step towards forever is a blissful time of your life, but what happens when someone you love has life experiences that are giving them a broken heart? Whether it's the ending of a relationship, loss of a loved one, money, job or health troubles, certain struggles can zap the celebration spirit right out of…

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    2/3

    Camping Bubbles Party Favor, starts at $1.35 each from Etsy seller MadHatterPartyBox Decorating your wedding is a big job on its own, but reader Kacey came to us looking for some Broke-Ass advice on how to make 60 rustic camp cabins feel a little more like home for her wedding guests. She writes: Dear BAB, I want to say we're soul sisters but don't want…

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    1/31

    My Pinterest board is filled to the brim with ideas. I've considered everything from building an altar from used pallet boards to growing my own rose garden and assembling the bridal bouquet. It's time for an intervention! I've known for years, well before I was officially engaged that I would be a "do it yourself" bride. Not just because of the cost savings but also…

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    1/30

    Free notebook from Cornell Catering I love shows and conventions; there is always swag, raffles, and free snacks. All things right up my alley. Good news my fellow brides and bros, bridal shows are huge and plentiful. Now, I’m essentially done planning my wedding, but I still like going to shows for inspiration and a few last minute vendors I need. Here are some tips…

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