Broke-Ass Category: Real Brides

8/15

Weddings are one of the last grazing grounds where the nearly extinct thank you card can be seen. These rare beasts are comprised of mostly paper, ink and the occasional adhesive to hold it all together. Many find the art of creating these near mythical beasts difficult, but I’m here to lead you through this wilderness.

Thank you cards generally have six parts.

A greeting, the actual thank you, details, a personal touch, another thank you and closing.

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Greeting

Dear Great Aunt Ethel.  

Start your card with the person(s)’ name and a salutation. Make sure you have their name spelled correctly.

Thank You For

Thank you for the lovely blue KitchenAid Mixer.

Thank you for the (insert descriptive adjective) gift of (insert gifts). Try to be as descriptive as possible to show that you actually appreciate the gift, even if you have every intention of returning the gift. If the gift was cash, avoid saying “thanks for the cash” but instead try something like, “thank you for your generous gift.”

Details

We are looking forward to mixing batches of cookies much quicker and easier.

Explain what you plan to use the gift for. If it’s an appliance, describe using it in your home. If it is a decoration, explain where you will hang/use the item. When you’ve received cash, explain what you plan on spending it on. Added details makes it sound like you are genuinely appreciative for the item.

Personal Touch

We love you and are so glad you were able to share our special day.

Let your gift giver(s) know that you care for them as more than a giver of swag. If you will see them somewhere in the near future, mention you are looking forward to it. If you haven’t seen them in a long time, mention how great it was seeing them and how happy you are they traveled miles/hours/days to see you.

Restate Thank You

Thank you again for helping make our little apartment into a home.

Take the thank you given in step 2 and rephrase it.

Closing

With love, Michael and Danielle.

You can also use sincerely if it’s a vague second cousin twice removed. Yours truly, regards, warm regards, or lots of love are also solid choices.

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Like with any rare animal, there are always special laws and rules that surround them.

Do Not

Write your cards in glitter, wild colors or a pencil. Pick a nice simple blue or black ink to write in. If you must be fancy, try a fountain pen or a calligraphy pen. Also try to get a quick drying ink to avoid smudging.

Ramble. People don’t read anymore and standard card size is usually 4×6″. Keep your card short and sweet.

Type your cards. You are trying to show appreciation, take the time to hand write this out.

Do

Use nice stationery. They don’t have to match your wedding invitations/decor, but a box of blank cards are very inexpensive. No need to break the bank.

Send a thank you card. Late is better than never. Wedding thank you card expectation is between one and three months after the wedding. If you are sending yours super late, also include an apology for the lateness.

Hand write your cards. Your spouse and you can divide and conquer the stack of cards needed. Only one person needs to sign, but if you are both able to sign it is a nice touch.

And there you have it, the simple breakdown of the thank you card. Now go forth and let some of these magnificent beasts out into the wild.

  • 8/14

    So, I’ve felt like I’ve been kind of stagnant with the wedding planning lately, but I finally feel like the ball is actually rolling now. We had our second consultation with the wedding planner this past Saturday, which was Chris’s first actual in-person look at the venue and meeting her, made all the more interesting because he was coming off of an overnight shift at the ER and was running on three hours of sleep. It was great though (besides dropping half of the wedding cost then, which hurt my soul); we went over a lot of details that we’ve been discussing but haven’t nailed down yet. We finalized our colors (plum and silver), our menu (guests will choose between steak, chicken, fish and shrimp), locked in the DJ and went over the ceremony and the timeline for that and the reception.

    And then, we got to pick the cake sample we wanted, which I picked up yesterday!

    So, Cathy’s daughter is a baker, and she makes the cakes and cupcakes, so she made us three flavors of cake and filling to test. We chose double dark chocolate with mocha filling, milk chocolate with strawberry filling and marble with apple cinnamon filling. I picked them up yesterday and was SUPER excited to see that we had six, full-size cupcakes to test — two of each flavor. They were beautiful, nicely frosted with vanilla frosting and decorations. At least they were, until some jerk cut me off in traffic and I slammed on my brakes, causing the cupcakes to go flying off the seat and onto the floor, and me to use all of the swear words in my repertoire (don’t worry, I hadn’t picked the kids up yet).

    My poor babies

    Luckily, they still tasted delicious, and being slightly squashed made it easier to taste, since the girls were with us and we got them in on the action too. The only ones I didn’t let them taste were the mocha filled ones, since the last thing I needed was overly hyperactive children jacked up on coffee. So all four of us agreed that we loved the strawberry filling. The girls liked the apple cinnamon, but neither Chris nor I thought it was flavorful enough. We loved the double dark chocolate, but the mocha was way too strong, and Chris doesn’t like coffee to begin with. I don’t know why we picked the marble to try, I don’t like marble to begin with so that was my fault, but I wanted a vanilla-ish option of cake to try. So, I think we decided that we’d do the double dark chocolate with strawberry filling, and then probably just vanilla with chocolate. We’re doing cupcakes instead of a big cake, so we get to pick two (which amuses me to no end), and we also get a little cake for the two of us to cut, which I think is amazing.

    I’m not going to lie, I’ve been looking forward to tasting the cakes since we got engaged, and I wasn’t disappointed.

    On a serious note, I will say that the decisions about the guest list estimate was a lot of pressure.

    Cathy needed an approximate number to give me an estimated payment for the first half, so Chris and I had come up with our lists of guests, to include the bridal party, but not the girls since they’ll be there for the ceremony but not the reception. We ended up telling Cathy that we’ll pay for the DJ and the photographer to eat, it just seems like the nice thing to do, and Cathy is only charging half for them. But coming up with that number and then getting the estimate for the total was definitely a bit painful. Not a shock, since she and I had estimated cost at our first appointment, but definitely a bit eye-opening. I’d definitely recommend having a pretty hard estimate of your guest list when you go in to meet vendors, since they seem to do an estimate for you as to what the wedding will cost in total.

    How’s your planning going? Have you made any big moves lately? Share in the comments!

    christen
  • 8/1

    It's really weird: Growing up, my little sister and I did not get along together at all. We are five years apart and at a young age the difference is unforgivable. In more recent years we are both coming to the realization that it's possible that we are both humans. It's a strange tingly new feeling. We actually talk to each other now and hang…

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    7/18

    For the most part, I've snapped myself out of my wedding planning funk. I've emailed my wedding coordinator to nail down a time for next Friday's meeting to discuss menu, cake, setup, decorations, and the first half of the payment for the wedding. Chris is hopefully going to be able to take a day off (or at least part of one) to come with me…

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    7/11

    Well, it’s less than two months away from the wedding and the final pieces are starting to fall into place. I’ve had dress fittings and alterations, we’ve ordered our wedding bands, we’ve finally finished our registry and Honeyfund, and we’ve started purchasing decorations. One other thing that we’ve also started accumulating is board games. Yup, Ev and I are board game geeks. Well, we’re actually…

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    7/6

    Download available from Etsy seller WhiteFeathersDesign I will admit, I am not on online shopping. I prefer the "touch and feel" shopping experience! On the other hand, when your time is limited, you need to buy a gazillion items and you are looking for the best deal, online shopping becomes your best friend! I've secured some awesome deals and sharing is caring, so here are…

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    7/3

    Credit: A Sight of Love I thought about not writing this post in quite this tone, but then I wondered what else I would write about and how I would write it. So please bear with me, and I hope I don't seem too Debbie Downer right now. But the bridal blues has hit. Wedding planning has completely stalled. I have an appointment in a…

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    6/20

    Hey everyone! Sorry for the week off, I was dealing with some family issues but I'm back! So when we went to the bridal expo a few months back, we signed up to do our wedding registry at Bed, Bath & Beyond. I'm not going to lie, I didn't even know if we were going to do a registry, but they tempted me with the…

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