Broke-Ass Category: Real Brides

8/29

A lot of pre-wedding activities like the bridal shower or bachelorette had to be organized remotely or during short trips home because, (as I’ve mentioned in previous posts), due to a recent move, Ev and I live pretty far away from most of our family and friends. Three out of four of my bridesmaids, as well as my bridesman, don’t live near me. I found myself stumped as to how I might manage a bridal shower, bachelorette party AND a wedding with everyone involved without us spending all of our money on place tickets.

So, I decided to drop one of them.

I was insistent on a bachelorette party.

I am a bit of a goofball and I knew a night of getting silly would be the perfect remedy for pre-wedding stress. Because everyone is planning on coming in to town a few days before the wedding, I planned it for the Wednesday before. I know this might seem like a bit of a bad idea, but I have a game plan.

I firmly indicated to my girls that while I do indulge in a few libations, I’m not trying to have a three-day hangover, and they respect that. I assigned my girl K to plan the it and know she’s good for keeping the party fun within reason. I asked her to surprise me, within a few parameters: I have requested that it involve playing Mario Kart, doing some king of team-building exercise such a laser tag (but not anything that will send me home covered in bruises, such as paintball), and that we go for drinks at a pub that has good beer.

Finally, I requested requested that we keep the activities affordable for everyone, naturally, because I’m broke-ass. She agreed and promised that I’m going to love it. Knowing her, that I will probably end up in one of those giant inflatable T-Rex costumes by the end of the night. I promise I’ll post pictures.

bridal shower costumeInflatable T-Rex Costume, $51.99 from Amazon

After getting that set up, I realized that having a bridal shower probably wasn’t in the cards. Everyone had already used up vacation time and spent money to come to the wedding, I didn’t want to ask them to do it again for my shower. I also didn’t want to try to cram that in also during the week before the wedding. Doing that, plus the everything else, would just be way too much. In the end, I wasn’t nearly as excited about it as the other things.

So, I chose to opt out.

Nobody was terribly fussed about it. I didn’t expect it, but a few of my bridesmaids and female family members chose to give me small shower gifts at times when we got together. That, honestly, was a pretty nice alternative. I was able to accept the gift in a manner that wasn’t rushed, and then got to spend quality time with the person. So, for my individual situation, that was the best way it could have worked out. There’s perks to being broke-ass!

Next time I post, I will be a married woman! See you then!

Holly

  • 8/22

    My wedding is two weeks away and I have never felt such a flurry of emotions! Despite some stresses, however, the excitement is definitely in the forefront as we near the final countdown.

    In the spirit of lists, here are a couple related to my big day.

    10 things I am most looking forward to:

    10. My university friend group, which has been scattered across the country, finally reuniting in one place after a long time.

    9. Introducing my old friends to my new friends and hopefully seeing them hit it off.

    8. Looking like a freaking beauty queen in my dress.

    7. Getting to seeing my family, and my fiance’s family, who live in another part of the country.

    6. Getting dressed up with my bridesmaids.

    5. Seeing my brother, who lives in dirty jeans and T-shirts, in a suit for the first time in my life.

    4. Dancing the night away. I haven’t been to a club in years, as I’ve lost my patience for extremely crowded places with overly-friendly strangers. I can’t wait to shake it to my heart’s content with people who I actually want close to me! Also, I got to pick the music.

    3. My bachelorette party with all of the amazing ladies that I call my friends.

    2. Dancing with my husband to our first dance song. We sneakily even learned a touch of choreography for it and are going to surprise everyone when we bust out some sick moves. I’m otherwise known for having two left feet.

    1. Marrying the love of my life.

    4 of my favorite personal touches:

    4. Since we get to supply our own alcohol, Ev and I are going to have an insane hand-picked collection of our favorite local craft beers for our guests to sample.

    3. I made all of the signage myself: Seating charts, guestbook signs, etcetera. I created a simple watercolor paintings on canvas and then wrote over top in gold acrylic paint and gold sharpie.

    real bride holly signs

    2. My “first dance” with my dad isn’t actually a dance. He’s not a dancer, and one of my best memories with him is singing along to the radio in the car.  So, instead we are going to do karaoke and so air guitar to Queen.

    1. My homemade wedding cake!

    What are you looking forward to? What are your favorite personal touches? Share in the comments!

  • 8/15

    Weddings are one of the last grazing grounds where the nearly extinct thank you card can be seen. These rare beasts are comprised of mostly paper, ink and the occasional adhesive to hold it all together. Many find the art of creating these near mythical beasts difficult, but I’m here to lead you through this wilderness. Thank you cards generally have six parts. A greeting,…

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    8/14

    So, I’ve felt like I’ve been kind of stagnant with the wedding planning lately, but I finally feel like the ball is actually rolling now. We had our second consultation with the wedding planner this past Saturday, which was Chris’s first actual in-person look at the venue and meeting her, made all the more interesting because he was coming off of an overnight shift at…

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    8/1

    It's really weird: Growing up, my little sister and I did not get along together at all. We are five years apart and at a young age the difference is unforgivable. In more recent years we are both coming to the realization that it's possible that we are both humans. It's a strange tingly new feeling. We actually talk to each other now and hang…

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    7/18

    For the most part, I've snapped myself out of my wedding planning funk. I've emailed my wedding coordinator to nail down a time for next Friday's meeting to discuss menu, cake, setup, decorations, and the first half of the payment for the wedding. Chris is hopefully going to be able to take a day off (or at least part of one) to come with me…

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    7/11

    Well, it’s less than two months away from the wedding and the final pieces are starting to fall into place. I’ve had dress fittings and alterations, we’ve ordered our wedding bands, we’ve finally finished our registry and Honeyfund, and we’ve started purchasing decorations. One other thing that we’ve also started accumulating is board games. Yup, Ev and I are board game geeks. Well, we’re actually…

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    7/6

    Download available from Etsy seller WhiteFeathersDesign I will admit, I am not on online shopping. I prefer the "touch and feel" shopping experience! On the other hand, when your time is limited, you need to buy a gazillion items and you are looking for the best deal, online shopping becomes your best friend! I've secured some awesome deals and sharing is caring, so here are…

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