Broke-Ass Category: Broke-Ass Advice

8/22

My wedding is two weeks away and I have never felt such a flurry of emotions! Despite some stresses, however, the excitement is definitely in the forefront as we near the final countdown.

In the spirit of lists, here are a couple related to my big day.

10 things I am most looking forward to:

10. My university friend group, which has been scattered across the country, finally reuniting in one place after a long time.

9. Introducing my old friends to my new friends and hopefully seeing them hit it off.

8. Looking like a freaking beauty queen in my dress.

7. Getting to seeing my family, and my fiance’s family, who live in another part of the country.

6. Getting dressed up with my bridesmaids.

5. Seeing my brother, who lives in dirty jeans and T-shirts, in a suit for the first time in my life.

4. Dancing the night away. I haven’t been to a club in years, as I’ve lost my patience for extremely crowded places with overly-friendly strangers. I can’t wait to shake it to my heart’s content with people who I actually want close to me! Also, I got to pick the music.

3. My bachelorette party with all of the amazing ladies that I call my friends.

2. Dancing with my husband to our first dance song. We sneakily even learned a touch of choreography for it and are going to surprise everyone when we bust out some sick moves. I’m otherwise known for having two left feet.

1. Marrying the love of my life.

4 of my favorite personal touches:

4. Since we get to supply our own alcohol, Ev and I are going to have an insane hand-picked collection of our favorite local craft beers for our guests to sample.

3. I made all of the signage myself: Seating charts, guestbook signs, etcetera. I created a simple watercolor paintings on canvas and then wrote over top in gold acrylic paint and gold sharpie.

real bride holly signs

2. My “first dance” with my dad isn’t actually a dance. He’s not a dancer, and one of my best memories with him is singing along to the radio in the car.  So, instead we are going to do karaoke and so air guitar to Queen.

1. My homemade wedding cake!

What are you looking forward to? What are your favorite personal touches? Share in the comments!

  • 8/15

    Weddings are one of the last grazing grounds where the nearly extinct thank you card can be seen. These rare beasts are comprised of mostly paper, ink and the occasional adhesive to hold it all together. Many find the art of creating these near mythical beasts difficult, but I’m here to lead you through this wilderness.

    Thank you cards generally have six parts.

    A greeting, the actual thank you, details, a personal touch, another thank you and closing.

    Assorted Thank You Card from Amazon for $12

    Greeting

    Dear Great Aunt Ethel.  

    Start your card with the person(s)’ name and a salutation. Make sure you have their name spelled correctly.

    Thank You For

    Thank you for the lovely blue KitchenAid Mixer.

    Thank you for the (insert descriptive adjective) gift of (insert gifts). Try to be as descriptive as possible to show that you actually appreciate the gift, even if you have every intention of returning the gift. If the gift was cash, avoid saying “thanks for the cash” but instead try something like, “thank you for your generous gift.”

    Details

    We are looking forward to mixing batches of cookies much quicker and easier.

    Explain what you plan to use the gift for. If it’s an appliance, describe using it in your home. If it is a decoration, explain where you will hang/use the item. When you’ve received cash, explain what you plan on spending it on. Added details makes it sound like you are genuinely appreciative for the item.

    Personal Touch

    We love you and are so glad you were able to share our special day.

    Let your gift giver(s) know that you care for them as more than a giver of swag. If you will see them somewhere in the near future, mention you are looking forward to it. If you haven’t seen them in a long time, mention how great it was seeing them and how happy you are they traveled miles/hours/days to see you.

    Restate Thank You

    Thank you again for helping make our little apartment into a home.

    Take the thank you given in step 2 and rephrase it.

    Closing

    With love, Michael and Danielle.

    You can also use sincerely if it’s a vague second cousin twice removed. Yours truly, regards, warm regards, or lots of love are also solid choices.

    Printable Thank you Card from Etsy Seller FawnAndFloral for $9

    Like with any rare animal, there are always special laws and rules that surround them.

    Do Not

    Write your cards in glitter, wild colors or a pencil. Pick a nice simple blue or black ink to write in. If you must be fancy, try a fountain pen or a calligraphy pen. Also try to get a quick drying ink to avoid smudging.

    Ramble. People don’t read anymore and standard card size is usually 4×6″. Keep your card short and sweet.

    Type your cards. You are trying to show appreciation, take the time to hand write this out.

    Do

    Use nice stationery. They don’t have to match your wedding invitations/decor, but a box of blank cards are very inexpensive. No need to break the bank.

    Send a thank you card. Late is better than never. Wedding thank you card expectation is between one and three months after the wedding. If you are sending yours super late, also include an apology for the lateness.

    Hand write your cards. Your spouse and you can divide and conquer the stack of cards needed. Only one person needs to sign, but if you are both able to sign it is a nice touch.

    And there you have it, the simple breakdown of the thank you card. Now go forth and let some of these magnificent beasts out into the wild.

  • 2/17

    Finding the love of your life and taking that next big step towards forever is a blissful time of your life, but what happens when someone you love has life experiences that are giving them a broken heart? Whether it's the ending of a relationship, loss of a loved one, money, job or health troubles, certain struggles can zap the celebration spirit right out of…

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    2/3

    Camping Bubbles Party Favor, starts at $1.35 each from Etsy seller MadHatterPartyBox Decorating your wedding is a big job on its own, but reader Kacey came to us looking for some Broke-Ass advice on how to make 60 rustic camp cabins feel a little more like home for her wedding guests. She writes: Dear BAB, I want to say we're soul sisters but don't want…

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    1/20

    If the new year brought you a new big step in your relationship, congratulations! We're so happy to have you! As you jump into the world of wedding planning, know that it's totally normal and very much ok to be feeling a little ... overwhelmed about where to start, to say the least. If your head is feeling like a giant cloud full of tulle…

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    12/9

    From reader Amanda: I am on a very tight budget for my wedding, and I am having issues finding a cheaper venue for the ceremony and reception. I understand most times you get what you pay for, but I still want my wedding to simple yet elegant and not "thrown together" due to lack of funds. I am planning on an outside ceremony and an…

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    11/11

    Whether you're hand-writing on the envelope or using a convenient print-out label, addressing your wedding invites comes with a few *rules* that etiquette specialists still advise you follow. We don't want you to be left searching, so here's what you need to know before sending out that stationery. Before you get started, make sure to check and double-check that spelling! Your partner's cousin Ashleigh is…

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    10/28

    Weddings -- planning them, paying for them, putting them on -- are kind of an ordeal. Even the simplest of soirees can have a lot of moving parts and when those parts get to rolling, the unsolicited advice starts coming in. Seriously: death, taxes, unsolicited wedding advice. Plenty of people out there have already explained that it's important not to take these opinions (or thinly veiled…

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