Broke-Ass Author: Danielle Griggs

8/15

Weddings are one of the last grazing grounds where the nearly extinct thank you card can be seen. These rare beasts are comprised of mostly paper, ink and the occasional adhesive to hold it all together. Many find the art of creating these near mythical beasts difficult, but I’m here to lead you through this wilderness.

Thank you cards generally have six parts.

A greeting, the actual thank you, details, a personal touch, another thank you and closing.

Assorted Thank You Card from Amazon for $12

Greeting

Dear Great Aunt Ethel.  

Start your card with the person(s)’ name and a salutation. Make sure you have their name spelled correctly.

Thank You For

Thank you for the lovely blue KitchenAid Mixer.

Thank you for the (insert descriptive adjective) gift of (insert gifts). Try to be as descriptive as possible to show that you actually appreciate the gift, even if you have every intention of returning the gift. If the gift was cash, avoid saying “thanks for the cash” but instead try something like, “thank you for your generous gift.”

Details

We are looking forward to mixing batches of cookies much quicker and easier.

Explain what you plan to use the gift for. If it’s an appliance, describe using it in your home. If it is a decoration, explain where you will hang/use the item. When you’ve received cash, explain what you plan on spending it on. Added details makes it sound like you are genuinely appreciative for the item.

Personal Touch

We love you and are so glad you were able to share our special day.

Let your gift giver(s) know that you care for them as more than a giver of swag. If you will see them somewhere in the near future, mention you are looking forward to it. If you haven’t seen them in a long time, mention how great it was seeing them and how happy you are they traveled miles/hours/days to see you.

Restate Thank You

Thank you again for helping make our little apartment into a home.

Take the thank you given in step 2 and rephrase it.

Closing

With love, Michael and Danielle.

You can also use sincerely if it’s a vague second cousin twice removed. Yours truly, regards, warm regards, or lots of love are also solid choices.

Printable Thank you Card from Etsy Seller FawnAndFloral for $9

Like with any rare animal, there are always special laws and rules that surround them.

Do Not

Write your cards in glitter, wild colors or a pencil. Pick a nice simple blue or black ink to write in. If you must be fancy, try a fountain pen or a calligraphy pen. Also try to get a quick drying ink to avoid smudging.

Ramble. People don’t read anymore and standard card size is usually 4×6″. Keep your card short and sweet.

Type your cards. You are trying to show appreciation, take the time to hand write this out.

Do

Use nice stationery. They don’t have to match your wedding invitations/decor, but a box of blank cards are very inexpensive. No need to break the bank.

Send a thank you card. Late is better than never. Wedding thank you card expectation is between one and three months after the wedding. If you are sending yours super late, also include an apology for the lateness.

Hand write your cards. Your spouse and you can divide and conquer the stack of cards needed. Only one person needs to sign, but if you are both able to sign it is a nice touch.

And there you have it, the simple breakdown of the thank you card. Now go forth and let some of these magnificent beasts out into the wild.

  • 8/1

    It’s really weird: Growing up, my little sister and I did not get along together at all. We are five years apart and at a young age the difference is unforgivable. In more recent years we are both coming to the realization that it’s possible that we are both humans. It’s a strange tingly new feeling. We actually talk to each other now and hang out some. I wish the idea of asking my sister to be my Maid of Honor had crossed my mind at some point, but it simply never did. I’m really glad I have my sister (finally) in my life though. She threw me the best Bridal Tea Party this past weekend.

    Before you look at the pictures from the bridal tea, let me remind you that we had venue issues finding a place to host it and a family friend offered us the use of her home. That family friend is a bit … over zealous at times and even though my sister and she discussed decorations in detail and laid out a plan, that friend is the kind of person that will go and change everything out from under you at the last minute to suit her own fancy. So look at these images with a grain of salt. I absolutely HATE the color pink and EVERYTHING was pink. But hey, I didn’t have to spend hours planning it and the food was great, so who cares.

    Bridal Tea Party Munchies

    It was awesome being surrounded by friends and family having an adult tea party. We ate off real China and everyone had their own tea cup to fill as she desired. There were actual lumps of sugar, cucumber sandwiches, scones and all sorts of tea party type foods. We played a few games and had a cute little “photo booth” area where we took pictures together.

    My bridesmaid Maggie and I

    I really enjoyed stepping out of my comfort zone for a little bit. My idea of dressing up is putting on pants that aren’t jeans and a shirt with no logos. I do know how to dress up but only do it for church, weddings and funerals for the most part. It was nice putting on a frilly dress, shoes with heels, sticking out my pinky and drinking from delicate little tea cups with a room full of ladies and pretending we are all 5 hosting a tea party with the queen.

    The Super Pink Everything

    I asked my dad to come take pictures after my grandmother mentioned that she was dragging grandpa along and he would need a playmate. At first he was a bit chagrined to be in a room full of tea-sipping ladies, but I wish I had been able to react fast enough to snap a picture of him while he had been wearing the big floppy hat I arrived in (before someone slapped a bride top hat on me), holding a scone in one hand and a tea cup in the other, pinky to the sky as he talked to my grandfather. Dad admitted that it wasn’t really all that different from when he was asked to sit at the table with me and my stuffed animals as I served “tea” as a toddler.

    Dad and Michael Building the Folding Ticket Booth

    After the shower, I loaded up all my loot into the car and headed back to Michael’s parents house where we were staying for the weekend. I was pleasantly surprised when I walked into the garage to see Michael and his father putting the finishing touches on the ticket booth I had mentioned I wanted to build after I came home from the shower. I was blindly excited and how amazing it looks. I had seen an image of one another bride built on Pinterest and set out to make something similar. There weren’t any plans with her post so we had to eyeball it and come up with our own measurements. I loved her design because it had hinges to fold flat for easy travel and storage. One leg swings around to the front and the other swings to the back. The tabletop is held in by pins and just pops out when you lift it so it can all fit in the back of a truck. Ours was 6’ tall, with the sides all 36”. It costs about $40 to make and I’ll donate it to the local high school to use as a stage prop after the wedding unless a parent asks if their child can have it for play time.

    Ticket Booth Painted and Covered in Fabric

    Now that the shower is over everything feels a bit surreal. We are four weeks and counting. Yikes!

    What about you, did you have a rockin’ shower?

  • 7/17

    We’re in the home stretch for the wedding now. The countdown is at seven weeks. Last week, at the eight-week mark I had a mini panic attack about how close the wedding was and how much was undone. To calm myself, I sat down and tried to do two of the larger tasks that were left. I was finally able to tackle the program and…

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    7/5

    Wedding planning definitely teaches you a lot of lessons about yourself and you as a couple that you might not have previously known. It has brought my little sister and I much closer together. We are five years apart and were never really close until maybe a year or two ago. I wish I had asked her to be my maid of honor. The idea never…

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    6/19

    I got engaged Memorial Day Weekend in 2016. We set our wedding date for September of the next year because September is a special month for us and it gave us about 15 months to save for our wedding. I asked all my girls to be my bridesmaids and I was locked and loaded to go. I was trying to be gracious. Then one of…

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    6/6

    Keepsake box from Etsy Seller mariaallenboutique Tradition recommends a bride have something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue as she goes down the aisle. I’ve been throwing tradition to the wind all Willy Nilly the entire time but this one gives me pause. Four items -- how hard can that be? Famous last words. Obviously the something new is easy enough. Essentially everything I’m wearing is…

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    5/23

    Gift-giving is perhaps one of my favorite pastimes. Michael thinks I’m insane for getting the amount of sheer joy I get from purchasing/making, wrapping and giving gifts to others. I also love getting gifts, too. Yes, I have come to terms with the fact that I’m a small child trapped in a grown person’s body. That being said, I have known, even before we got…

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    5/9

    An older person once told me that you shouldn’t marry someone unless they were your best friend. At the time I didn’t really understand what he meant, but I think I have a better idea now. Michael and I have been going out for almost eight years now. We’ve fought as fiercely as siblings at times. We’ve laughed so hard we cried and cried so…

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    4/26

    So the bridal shower has been sort of an ongoing issue with my bride tribe and I. To be honest, a shower was never even on my radar as something I would need to worry about. Isn’t that a time when friends and family get together and shower the bride with gifts? Shouldn’t her only job be to show up? Welp, apparently not. My MOH…

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