6/4 A Love Letter To The Summer Brides

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You're Almost There...

So, it’s June, which means that between now and Labor Day, which is like, tomorrow, practically, a whole bunch of you are finally – finally – going to walk down the aisle.  All the plans you’ve made over the past months… heck, years even, are about to come  to fruition, right in front of your very eyes. The Marines call a soldier near the end of their tour of duty a “short timer”, and right now, you’re so short, I can’t even see you. It’s almost over.


And, Awww…

Whichever you choose, either the “Whew!” or the “Awww… or somewhere in between (or both)  you have to admit that it’s been quite an experience, hasn’t it? You’ve learned a lot. You’ve not only figured out all this wedding stuff works, but you’ve also found out more about yourself, what you want, and even more importantly, since you’re going to be hanging out with this guy for the rest of your life, how the two of you work together as a team.

What else have you learned? You’ve certainly had many chances to practice and improve your “people” skills, not to mention managing your time . You’ve learned how to negotiate, how to compromise, and how to – and how not to – stick to a budget. At this point, you can rapidly calculate 5 – 18% of anything. At the beginning of this whole thing, you were wondering where to start and how to start, and GAH, frustration! But look at you now – you found your venue, you found your dress, you found your photographer and got through your engagement shoot, you found everything else you needed and wanted. And you learned that all it takes to get that is perseverance and patience, and raising your hand and asking questions that you don’t know the answers to.  And you got from there to here more or less in one piece, just like I knew you would.  You are a frickin’ Rock Star, and you can do anything. Remember that.

“But, Liz!” you say. “I’ve still got a checklist a mile long, and no time to finish it. I’m more stressed out than ever!” Well, yeah. But if  it ever gets to be too much, think about all the cool moments you’ve had along the way: When you tried on your last wedding dress and knew it was the one. The inside joke you and your guy now have because of something the caterer said. The way your stomach hurt after laughing your way through your bridal shower. And smile.

And then think about what your wedding day is going to be like: The look on his face when he sees you coming down the aisle in THE dress. All the people  that you’re so excited to see because you haven’t been in the same room with them for years. Slow-dancing with your husband to your favorite song. How good dinner is going to taste when you execute Rule #3. Think about the music, think about the joy in the room, think that when it’s all said and done, you’re going to be married to the love of your life, and you’ve had a great party to celebrate it. Do me a favor – at some point during the reception, take a good look around the room and soak it in. It’s all there for you. Oh, sorry, one more favor – Enjoy it.

You’re almost there. Victory Pump!

So, what have you learned about yourself while you’ve planned your wedding? And what have been some of your favorite moments along the way?

This Week’s Deals:

Goodwill Industries- Suncoast is holding their annual (and spectacular) Wedding Gala Gown sale, to benefit programs for Floridians with disabilities. Wedding salons from Tampa to St. Petersburg have donated gowns for this two day sale, so if you’re in the area, definitely check it out.

Speaking of checking off those last minute details/items, the knot.com shop is having a very good sale this week on all the stuff you probably still need for your ceremony and reception. Up to 65% off.

Mmm, donuts...

Oh, and if you haven’t heard, today, Friday, June 4, is National Doughnut Day. The good people at Krispy Kreme and Dunkin’ Donuts are watching out for you and giving them out free all day. If you’re worried about the calories, get a plain glazed doughnut, it only has 180 of them, which is way less than many of the others. Who knew? Now we both do. You’re welcome!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith is the owner of Silver Charm Events, a wedding planning service in Los Angeles. She's also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and the author of "DIY Your DOC: Do-it Yourself Wedding Day Coordination." Follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
  • Kat

    Liz, thank you so much for the smile and the little butterflies in the tummy…(the nice, excited, goose-bumpy kind, not the dreadful pre-biochemistry-test-kind). It is so easy to forget how far you've come in the planning process when you are still looking at the nitty-gritty…favors, flowers, signature cocktails, blah blah blah. Thanks for the reminder! Now, to quote good ol' Homer…."Mmmmmmmm….donuts." 🙂

  • Victory Pump INDEED! Thank you for this. I was nodding my head while reading every line of this post. It has been such an amazing journey planning this wedding. It has changed me in ways I never thought possible. I mean, I'm a wedding blogger–a WEDDING BLOGGER. Ha! It's craziness. But on a deeper level, planning this wedding has made me stronger and braver; it has helped me become a decision-maker and a planner; it has been an enormous creative outlet for me–I mean, I MADE all the bouquets and bouts and centerpiece decor–made it with my bare-ass hands. I am truly amazed by how this whole thing has come together. The tears, the joy, the frustration… the frustration… did I mention frustration? Well, it's all been worth it. I am ready to walk down the damn aisle, and I am SO SO SO ready to marry Mike. Let the final countdown begin!!

  • WONDERFUL Summary and so important to keep in mind!! On monday we posted a little inspirational love reading and we wanted to remind our readers of the same thing. Thanks for sharing!

  • Sara

    Awwww…….I needed this today. Thank you 🙂

  • Meital

    hahahaha This was great! Liz, this was a rad post! good job!

  • I super needed this post. I'm 7 days away and still going crazy on the mile-long to-do list. But you are right, it's been a hell of an experience. I've learned that I can paint (WHAT?), write in Arabic calligraphy (SRSLY?!) and opened up an Etsy shop selling items I originally learned to make as favours (HOLLA!) And now it's finally here.

    Victory pump indeed.

  • My bride Ellen is 7 days out, too. It’s so easy to focus on what you have left to do as opposed to what you’ve accomplished, even if you have a planner. Y’all planned your WEDDINGS. You can do anything. Remember that when something really starts to suck sometime in the future.

  • This was just what I needed right now! We're 14 days out, and I've spent the past day or so in a tizzy of panic. Thank you so much for this! 🙂

  • Whew and Awww. Both appropriate when only 17 days out. Eek!!!!!!