4/27 The Best of Liz, Part I

Had a take a little break this week, so I thought I’d give you some of my favorite quotes from your favorite posts of mine:

It's a Liz redux!

Not having enough alcohol is usually a problem if you’re bringing it in yourself. Even then it’s expensive, and hope may spring eternal that your guests are not going to drink as much as, well, they will. Get extra wine, get extra beer, get extra liquor, from a place where you can return the unused bottles. Here’s a shopping list for that. – Wedding Disasters You DO Need to Worry About

I’m not so much of a Pollyanna that I’m going to suggest that you keep repeating, “ItcomesfromloveitcomesfromloveITCOMESFROMLOVE!!!” over over and over in your head, either, while your Grandmother is insisting on bedazzled tablecloth overlays. We all know that isn’t going to work, right? We need strategies, for them and for you. – To Momzilla, With Love

I have an annual passport, and the last time I went it occurred to me: going to Disneyland is a lot like planning a wedding. Stay with me for a minute. For starters, unlike me,  it’s not something that you do all the time – it’s a special event, an entirely different world, and unfamiliar territory. And it’s going to take a while to plan. Picking a weekend when everyone is available, figuring out how much it’s going to cost – admission ($100 per person), transportation (who’s driving? And parking is $15 per car), eating when you get there (starting at $30 per person), favors and decorations (mickey ears and a t-shirt will run you another $40). Disneyland is not cheap, plus there are  complications everywhere once you get into the park…sound familiar? – Every Wedding is a Disneyland Wedding

I’ve been trying to come up with a wedding world equivalent of “Never fight a land war in Asia.” The best I can come up with is “Never spend more than 50% of your budget on the venue and catering.” I know I talked about this last week, but I’m serious – Both will land you in unfamiliar territory where you have fewer choices afterward to reach your goals, if you have any choices at all.  Learn the lessons handed down to you by Napoleon, The Soviet Union and U.S. History itself: Don’t do it. – Me vs. You, & Other Notes on Wedding Planning

If you don’t have a wedding planner, make Rule#3 yours, anyway. Ask your venue/caterer to have someone bring a plate over to you and yours during the cocktail hour. Ask one of your wedding party or one of your parents to escort you straight to your table (an “official” looking escort always detracts people. Dunno, it works). DO NOT LEAVE THE TABLE UNTIL YOU’VE FINISHED. Then the rest of the night is yours. – Liz’s Rule #3: Eat Your Frickin’ Dinner.

But the problem is that this nastiness exists in Live Wedding World, too. And it’s not just your mother. It’s a bridesmaid that repeatedly points out the slight paunch showing in the front of your dress (like you don’t know it’s there) , or refers to the color of the yellow roses in your centerpieces as “bile colored.” Or the best friend from college who rags on the font choice on your invitations after she gets the invitation. Like, calls you up to complain about it. I have seen and heard about all these things. Everywhere you turn, there seems to be a woman who takes a personal affront to your personal taste. There is definitely a lot of Girl-on-Girl crime going on out there, as Tina Fey would say. – Mean Wedding Girls


One of my brides has a brother who refused to come to her wedding if his kids aren’t invited. I know. But how can she have her nieces there and not invite other children? Well, she can make them members of the wedding party, which would give them a reason to be there and explain why no other tykes are present. Or, she could just have them there and offer no explanation at all. If you’re in the same situation and worried about how your other guest will feel,  I vote wedding party. It’s a little easier to take if they’re they’re dolled up. Foot your brother with the bill for the dress. – The Kids Are Alright. Or Not.

What I am saying is that there is a lot of middle ground between your backyard and The Ritz…What is the smallest affordable thing that’s going to make it a “wedding” for you? Focus on that. What can you do with what you have where you are? You’d be surprised. – Ask Liz: “Broke” is A Four Letter Word

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith is the owner of Silver Charm Events, a wedding planning service in Los Angeles. She's also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and the author of "DIY Your DOC: Do-it Yourself Wedding Day Coordination." Follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
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