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{Ask Liz} Big Bridesmaids & Small Stylist Choices

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Dear Liz,

So I am getting married in one year out of state, but we are having our reception in August 2014. My dilemma is that I have two sisters that are VERY heavy set. I want them to feel amazing in their dresses with out making them spend loads of money (trying to keep it below $100). David’s Bridal doesn’t have the color I want so I’ve been searching the web for something that is up to my wedding standard in the right color and within budget, and I haven’t had any luck. My question is: since they don’t need the dresses until August, should I not worry about it until next spring?  That way if they lose or gain some weight we can have a better judgment. Would it be totally inappropriate if I asked them to both try to be healthier and lose weight, as nicely as that can be said? They both need to, not just the 10 to 15 pounds most of us want to lose -  they are only in high school and they weigh over 200lbs each. Should I say something?

Sincerely,

Uh, huh. Find them something that they can work, you know?

Little Sister

Dear Sister,

First of all, yes, you should wait until this winter or next spring to order their bridesmaid dresses, you have plenty of time.

And now, the second thing: Yeah, it would be inappropriate, especially in the context of, “you should lose weight so you can look better in your bridesmaid dress.” I get the overall healthiness part you’re concerned about, too, but good luck getting them to hear that, there is no way that can be said nicely. A Come-to-Jesus, Get to Jenny Craig moment is most likely not going to happen, and I wouldn’t even try. Accept what it is not up to you to change.
I would focus on finding them dresses that they are going to make them feel amazing right away, as opposed to ones that would take effort to look amazing in. I have worked with, and know well, many a plus-sized woman who’s been able to rock a formal dress. But you need to make your sisters part of that process – send them pictures of dresses worn by plus size models, Take them shopping. Make sure they find something that they, personally, like and feel that they look good in.

 

 

 

 

Dear Liz,

My summer wedding is going to be held in a super rural small town. I am planning the event from several time zones away and one of the most difficult decisions I am facing is my hair and makeup plan.

I have two very good friends that are both attending and each has cosmetics experience. They’ve both offered to assist me on the big day.

While I haven’t said yes to either of them, I haven’t said no either. I’m not very makeup savvy, but I am worried style differences between the girls will lead to bad blood at our intimate ceremony.

Should I divide tasks or just choose one over the other? Part of me wants to just blunder through the beauty process by myself just to avoid the drama. Please advise!

Signed,

Beauty Under Stress

 

 

Dear Beauty,

The good news is that even though you’re planning what’s essentially a destination wedding in your home town, the biggest thing you’re worrying about is hair and make-up. Go ahead and brush that dirt off your shoulder, there.

Divide the tasks. Pick one to do your hair and one to do your make-up, and I’d recommend doing a trial with each of them the next time you go out, even if it’s during the week of your wedding. That way, any worries you might have about style will get taken care of, especially if you give them pictures of what you want to look like at your wedding.  Think of it as an opportunity to hang out with them a little more, too.

So, where did you find your plus-size bridesmaid dresses? And, how did you pick YOUR hair and make-up stylist? And, most of all, what do you think of my advice? Let me know in the comments below! And if you want to find out more about me and my little part of Wedding World, go to www.silvercharmevents.com.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz

{Real Bride: Carrie} Losing It Before The Wedding

Okay, okay, I’m not talking about the big “IT”, as in getting my V-card swiped.  I’m talking about losing some poundage!  If you remember back to my Wedding-Induced Ugly Duckling Syndrome post you remember me mentioning that I wanted to lose a few pounds in order to look my best for my wedding.  I know I was far from alone in wanting this.  I totally believe that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and I don’t agree with the immense amount of pressure put on brides to be a stick figure.  But on the other hand, I had been just a little over my ideal weight for years and I figured the wedding was the best excuse I would ever have to drop it!

So in January (along with millions of other New Years Resolution-makers) I commenced my very own Operation Flab to Fab!  The happy news I can now report is that I have lost 24 pounds!!!!!!

After a rainy hike almost a year ago…carrying a little extra weight!

On a recent hiking trip…trimmed it up a bit!

I don’t think the difference is too obvious in photos, but people have been noticing in real life, which is nice!  Now you may be waiting with bated breath to hear my big, miraculous, easy weight loss secret…

Welp, I’m sorry to disappoint but I made this happen with the two classics: DIET and EXERCISE.  Since January, I’ve been using www.myfitnesspal.com to count calories.  This method works well for me because I can really eat anything I want, I just have to budget for it!  I also experimented with counting calories by the week, instead of by the day, so that I could have some extra treats (or beers) on certain days of the week.

Fitness wise, I’ve been pretty active!  On June 2 I will be running my first half marathon and training for that has definitely kept me moving.  I’ve also been going to yoga class once a week, biking, and hiking on days off.  I’m all for putting the effort into exercise in order to earn those extra calories!

I don’t want to make it sound easy, because it definitely hasn’t been.  I LOVE cooking, baking, eating out, going out to bars, and pretty much every other unhealthy hobby out there.  Thinking of the wedding, support from Zach, mental toughness, and encouragement from a couple other dieting friends has helped me get this far.  The thing is, I’m not done yet!  I have a mere two and a half months until my wedding and three weeks until my final dress fitting and I still would like to lose six more pounds.  Despite my success so far, I feel like I’ve hit a wall.  I’ve been making too many excuses and cheating on my eating far too much!  Getting close is not enough; I want to meet my final goal!  (Which is still in the middle of my healthy BMI range, FYI.)

So I guess part of my reason for writing this is to ask for some support and accountability!  The clock is ticking and I really need to recommit in order to get my body to truly FAB status by wedding time!

Does anyone have any tips for getting through the last few pounds?  Any other encouraging pre-wedding weight loss stories out there?

{Real Bride: Carrie} Wedding-Induced Ugly Duckling Syndrome

Confession: Wedding planning has turned me into a way more superficial brat than I used to be.

There’s nothing like imagining walking down the aisle with all those eyes on me, plus getting professional photographs taken of myself, to make me worry like crazy about how I will look.

Yes, I know everyone says brides ALWAYS look beautiful.  I know I have dreadlocks so I won’t seem like a traditionally-styled bride no matter what, not that I want to.  But I still feel tons of pressure to look my best!  This pressure is mostly self-inflicted, and lately I’m just feeling like an ugly duckling!

Oye vey.

Pardon the bitchfest for a moment, but my two main complaints are my weight and my skin.  In a way, the weight is the easy one.  Too many desserts and cervezas have taken their toll on my midsection, but if I really commit to healthier choices I know I can shed a few pounds by June.  I don’t want to be unrealistic and go on a torturous diet, just lose the beer belly and get more fit!  I know if I can pull it off I’ll feel much more confident on my wedding day!

My skin has always confused me.  First of all, my skin tone is very uneven, freckly, and red.  I blame the Irish in me.  I’ve tried several different makeup regimens over the years but I always end up looking shiny by the end of the day.  With an outdoor summer wedding, I’m really worried about looking like a sweaty beast in all the pictures!  Secondly, I have really dark under-eye circles.  No matter how much sleep I get or how little caffeine/alcohol I drink, they remain.

The concealers I’ve tried never really hide my circles as much as I’d like, and they too end up melting down my face after several hours.  I’m really worried about how I’m going to DIY my wedding makeup when I’m not even satisfied with my day-to-day look!  I’m terrified I won’t feel confident and I won’t like how I look in the photos.  I know these concerns are totally stupid and conceited, but I can’t help feeling stressed about the beauty aspects of the big day!

Has anyone else been infected with Ugly Duckling Syndrome while planning “the most important day of your life”?  Anyone have advice on longer-lasting makeup brands?