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Your “I dos” are a moment of gravitas, a quiet but weighty culmination of your decision to spend your lives together. In honor of their serious decision to make this commitment, Destry and Lanny decided on a similarly intimate wedding ceremony and reception: 40 invited guests, immediate family and the closest of friends. By this decision, they were able to spend more time with the community that has watched them sow the seeds of their relationship, helped them nurture it, and witnessed it flourish.
Names: Destry & Lanny
Occupations: Destry is a design drafter, Lanny was an administrator for a private travel company but currently attends business school full-time
Wedding location: Kingston, Idaho
Wedding date: July 27, 2013
Wedding budget: My crazyperson spreadsheet tells me our final total was $4,300-ish. We didn’t give ourselves a hard maximum. Instead, we decided to spend by priority. Neither of us gave two hoots about centerpieces or expensive favors; instead we cared about food and photos and got INCREDIBLY lucky on both counts. While we spent a lot less than the national average, we still feel like we spent an enormous amount of money for one day.
Approximate guest count: We limited our invited guests to 40, but counted on 35 attending for sure. We only invited our immediate family members and very close friends. Destry is the oldest of five, so you can imagine that it adds up quickly.
How would you describe your wedding? At the risk of sounding cliché and ridiculous, I’d describe it as a balance of country, rustic and vintage. We kept it subtle though. We didn’t want guests to feel like we were beating them over the head with kitschy crap. We didn’t have time or energy to invest in kitschy crap either.
What was your favorite part of your wedding? It’s a cliché, but it’s so true: It’s really hard to choose one favorite. I would say that driving from our hotel to the venue together was so special and important to me. We both had a chance to be alone together, in our own car, just being together, quietly. Because we knew it was going to be such an emotional day, that short drive was so important to both of us.
We were lucky to have an equally-meaningful moment alone at the end of the night after everyone had left. The sky was inky black with bright stars and the barn was lit up with twinkling lights woven throughout the Virginia creeper that covered its entire frame; we stood silently at the top of the hill wrapped in a blanket, looking down upon the scenery and reflected on the deluge of pure love we’d experienced that day.
What did you splurge on? Without a doubt, the food and furniture were our most costly expenses. Our wedding was held over 60 miles from our home in Spokane. So, we felt it was important that we provide a really solid meal to our nearest and dearest if we were going to drag them to a mountain farm in the middle of the woods. Have you ever been to a wedding on a Saturday at 6:30 pm, only to find that it’s a cake and punch reception in the church gym/basement/lobby? Those are basically the worst (in my opinion) and we were against that at all costs.
Additionally, we really scored with a venue that embodied everything we hoped for and wanted to provide some aesthetic continuity by using furniture that didn’t clash. We found an up-and-coming furniture rental company out of North Idaho who provided some stunning pieces for us.
Also, I know it’s silly, but I totally went all out with my hair as well. I was pretty close with my hairdresser at that time, but after her two previous attempts at formal styles left me crying in the car we decided to go another direction. My hair is fairly long, but I wanted it longer for the wedding, so she offered to pick me up some extensions with her discount and color them to match my hair. After several unanswered texts and voicemails left me feeling like a jealous ex-girlfriend, I bought the hair myself and scheduled an appointment with someone else. I ended up spending a small fortune on the whole ordeal, but it felt worth it: $200 for the hair, $70 to color it, $50 for the trial and $100 for the wedding day style. (I feel compelled to note that I’m still pissed that I spent as much as I did on the day of the wedding because the salon’s active price list shows the trial hair as included in the total price.)
So, what became of my former stylist? Well, I finally heard from her three days before the wedding letting me know that she had blocked out the entire day and we could go get hair, color and style it starting at 9 AM. A note about that – the wedding took place on a Saturday, and the hair extension shop isn’t open on weekends, so despite the sketchy billing practices, I am glad I opted out.
What did you save on? Ev-er-y thing. We saved by doing our own flower arrangements – actually, we didn’t use flowers at all. We bought raw cotton online and put everything together. The allergic reaction was totally worth it. Picture, if you will, my then-fiancé and I in our non-air-conditioned kitchen, trimming and cleaning raw cotton bolls. We spent countless hours picking dried leaves out of the cotton so we could spend ADDITIONAL countless hours stringing each one just-so on jute twine and arranging them into our respective bouquet and boutonniere.
I had intended to splurge a little and treat myself to a morning of girly pampering, however that never materialized. I scheduled a makeup trial a few weeks prior to the wedding, but I didn’t feel that this woman was listening to me. I’m 30, and I don’t think it’s in my best interest to try out a new personal style on my wedding day. I’m old enough to understand what looks good and what works for me. Since I’m a jeans and hoodie kind of girl, you can imagine how hard it was to mask my disappointment when she revealed my potential makeup. Winged eyeliner and I are never going to be best friends, nor do I have aspirations of acquainting myself with berry lip-stain. Adding insult to injury, I paid $75 (after tipping, because I’m a doormat) for a look I couldn’t wait to wash off my face.
Ultimately, I didn’t feel that she was especially honest or talented so I lied and canceled my appointment about a week before the wedding, citing something about the cost being budget-prohibitive. The (supposedly) agreed-upon rate was $100 for both sessions, but I had already effectively paid the bulk of it after listening to her talk shit about everyone else in town while she applied makeup that didn’t match me or my coloring. After the rage-tears subsided, I went to Nordstrom (alone) and met with the only kind of makeup artist I can trust with utmost confidence – a gay man. I showed him a photo and he whipped my look into shape, directing me to all the right products and showed me how to recreate his work at home. I hugged him, and practiced nearly a dozen times before the wedding and I’m thrilled with my choice to do my own.
The piece-de-resistance, though, were our photographers. We happened to have two very close friends who are, not only incredibly talented, but provided their services for free. Without their generosity, as every bride knows, we would have EASILY doubled our expenses.
Was there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect? Looking back, I would have asked more people to help. We would have had a little more fun during the planning stages if we’d allowed more folks help us out from the beginning. Instead, we stubbornly refused offers for help until much closer to the wedding date. That cotton-stringing party I mentioned above? Ultimately, my in-laws came to the rescue with four additional hands for stringing.
I can’t quite remember why we were so secretive about planning, but I suspect part of it had to do with a bizarre idea that someone might steal our ideas? Weddings make people crazy. Like, crazy-crazy.
What was your biggest challenge in planning? 1.) Hurt feelings. If I had known beforehand, how personally other people would take our wedding choices, we might have eloped. We received unsolicited suggestions, advice, and requests for invitations for people we’d never conceive of including in our celebration. It was an ongoing challenge of (and testament to) our patience, kindness, and ability to tolerate other people.
2.) Money. It would be so much easier to throw everything on a credit card, but that’s not our style for anything we do in life. We felt incredibly fortunate to have been in such a position that allowed us to do everything we needed and wanted to do on our own terms. Still, having more money might have abbreviated our timeline considerably but we don’t regret any of it.
What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? ALWAYS (and I mean ALWAYS) have a contingency plan. ALWAYS. For good measure, have three or four backups. We picked out a favorite restaurant to host our rehearsal dinner and made reservations to hold the date (I can’t remember if we paid a fee or not). A month before our wedding, my best friend drove up from Portland, Oregon for a bridal shower hosted by my mother-in-law and I had hoped to take her to dinner there … as we were walking up to the building, it dawned on me that they weren’t just not open, they were closed. Like, for good.
Obviously, we ate elsewhere, but I was determined to keep from getting ruffled by the situation. Later in the week, my fiancé and I ate at another restaurant that had recently undergone a major renovation and appeared to be a great place to host our rehearsal – so we booked it on the spot.
By sheer bad luck, we were forced to resume our search on June 17 (about a month before our wedding) because our second choice BURNED DOWN. I crowdsourced suggestions on Facebook and had friends beg me to stop ruining Spokane with our wedding. It was about this point that I stopped giving a shit about it but it turned out to be better than I ever could’ve imagined. A family-owned bar/café where we spend Saturday nights playing trivia stepped up to bat and hit a grand slam (those are the same sport, right?) with how they handled our dinner. We told them how much we could spend, the headcount, and offered a vague suggestion of the kind of food we liked. It was such a success that our families are still raving about it to this day.
What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding? It was a day full of love and laughter and ridiculously delicious food. Because we chose to invite literally nobody outside our immediate families and our closest friends it made the day so ridiculously special, I still struggle to elucidate my feelings.
Top 5 least favorite? We had a lot of people offer to help or provide something (mostly food) and we were far more comfortable hiring people to do that job for a number of reasons, including (but not limited to) sanitation. Remember, if you will, the comment above where I mention that the venue and our hometown are sixty miles apart – now imagine chicken salad, pasta salad, potato salad, and basically mayonnaise-based anything in someone’s back seat for nigh on two hours. Sounds like fun, right? Sorry to let the booster club down, but I’m not trying to battle diarrhea on my wedding night. For the sake of feelings, let’s just say it’s because I want everyone to have a good time and avoid being unfairly labeled bridezilla, okay?
One of my photographers is married to a former marine and bodyguard. Why on earth is that even remotely of consequence? Because my husband’s ex-girlfriend (one he’d broken up with before we even met; IN 2002.) has a super-adorable habit of making her presence known. Neither of us expected anything especially dramatic, but he studied photos as a precaution and kept her out of sight when she did, in fact, show up.
What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? “Just relax! It’ll all come together” – Everyone who ever planned a wedding but experienced a subsequently immediate Telenovela-style bout with amnesia. Nothing ever just “comes together” and anyone who suggests otherwise probably didn’t have a DIY wedding if you know what I mean. Are you fucking kidding me? RELAX? I am relaxed (sort of), but I am still allowed to give like, ONE shit about how this day goes down. Will I remember all of it, not likely; but I don’t expect to.
The best? From my older sister, more than ten years ago: “Wedding planning is so stupid. It is literally the DUMBEST thing I’ve ever done.” Having done it, I can confirm that she’s right. The wedding itself wasn’t stupid, but the kinds of things that consumed my thoughts throughout the planning process were so cosmically insignificant; but they felt so god damned essential in the moment.
Second best was between my husband and me – it became kind of a mantra between the two of us: “This is our party; our wedding is not our marriage.”
Any other bits of wisdom? Just Relaaaaax! Okay, I’m kidding … kind of. It’s easy to get upset and overwhelmed when people overstep boundaries, but standing up for yourself is the best thing you can do when you’re planning your wedding. I desperately wish I had just told a few vendors to piss off directly instead of skirting the issue as if their feelings were supposed to take precedent above mine. I wish I had been more assertive and direct when people acted in a way that made me feel like they were taking advantage of an emotionally charged event. But there’s nothing I can do about it now. (Except write some passive-aggressive Yelp! reviews.)
Oh, and don’t you dare listen to anyone who has the nerve to tell you that you must spend more or else your wedding won’t be “everything you ever dreamed of.” Your wedding will be everything you dreamed of because you’re marrying someone you love. Anyone who suggests otherwise is presumptuous, snide and condescending.
Wedding vendors and links:
Venue: French Gulch Farm and Garden, Kingston, ID
Furniture Rental: The Attic, Coeur d’Alene, Idaho
Catering: Couple of Chefs, Spokane, WA
Bride’s Makeup: BRIDE!
Flowers, bouquet and decor: Bride and Groom designed all decor using dried wildflowers and cotton purchased online. Tabletop arrangements were styled by Groom’s brother and sister in law. (Bride made bouquet, Groom made his own boutonniere)
Rings: Bride (same ring, except blue) Groom
DJ: iTunes, operated by Groom’s brother
Invitations: Designed Online, Printed at Home (We purchased the full suite; including save the dates, thank you cards, and custom map)
Photographers: Andrew Callaci (Portland) and Nicole Varnell (Spokane)
Y’all, I love me some ModCloth. Like, it’s a little ridic. And when I found out they were rolling out vintage-inspired wedding styles, I straight swooned. While there are some short dresses, some long dresses and some dresses that aren’t white at all, there are also glorious accessories and enough glittery, sparkly goodness to last me a lifetime … or at least this wedding season. Here are my five favorites:
The last one MURDERS me. It’s the cutest ever. EVER. Which item from ModCloth’s vintage-inspired wedding styles is your favorite? Tell us in the comments below!
Hello BAB readers! My name is Ellis and I am so excited to blog here along side these very wonderful and talented ladies. I’d love to take some time to tell you about myself, my fiance, and our wedding!
I am 28 years old, I will be 29 on February 2nd. I am originally from Southern California (Huntington Beach) but did some traveling and moving around starting at age 19 and eventually ended up in Portland, Oregon. I come from a large family, I have three siblings (1 of which just moved in with me this past weekend, my baby brother T) and 7 nephews and 2 nieces! I currently attend Southern Oregon University and have one more year to graduate with bachelor degrees in Human Services and Mental Health with two minors in Early Childhood Education and Photography. I hope to move back to Portland and get into the Social Work Masters Program at PSU in Fall of 2015. I work in both a daycare and a photo developing shop, which keeps me quite busy along side of school and wedding planning.
My fiance’s name is Andy, and he is 33. He grew up here where we live in Southern Oregon. He graduated with a bachelors in History from the University of Oregon and went on to receive his Masters of Education at Southern Oregon University a few years later. His entire family lives here in the valley and being close to them is a huge deal to us, though he does long to be back in the city. He enjoys biking, building, cooking, video games, and reading.
We met in early 2007 through a mutual friend (long story, maybe I’ll divulge sometime) and began to date off and on until it was more official in late 2008. We immediately clicked and I honestly knew from the moment I laid eyes on him he was the one for me! We had a long distance relationship (400 miles apart) from 08-10, where we would see each other about every weekend. I moved to Southern Oregon with him as a temporary solution and we have been here ever since.
On December 30th 2012 Andy asked me if I wanted to go for a drive with the dog to play in the snow. We drove an hour to Crater Lake area only to find there was no snow! An hour back, I was ready to just go home, he insisted we head 10 minutes south of where we live to Mt. Ashland. Once we got in the snow, about 4 feet of pure soft powder, I turned around and he had a ring box in his hands. He opened it and said “Will you?” and I of course said yes. He was so nervous he forgot he had a bouquet of flowers hidden in the trunk as well. We were so excited, we called his parents and my siblings on our way home to announce our engagement. It was a really beautiful night, I’ll never forget.
Fast forward a year and some weeks later, we have been planning a wedding on a budget. I thought we could afford $15k, the budget soon dropped to $10k, and after some emergency dental work last Fall the budget is now closer to $6k. We are getting married on a real working farm which also houses historically claimed barns and buildings. It is beautiful with acres of fruits, vegetables, and flowers growing, large willow trees, and even peacocks running loose on the grounds! Our wedding theme is very laid back but sweet summery and chic. I am thinking light pinks, golds, mints, and navy with free flowing fabrics and string lights that turn on at 10pm just as it starts to get dark.
It has been a second job this past year putting this wedding together and though I’ve only had one big meltdown (thank Zeus), it has been stressing but rewarding. I’m very excited to share my experiences, tips, tricks, and hints for wedding planning on a serious budget!
A reader wrote in recently that she’d been struggling to find the perfect dress…until she saw it walk down the carpet at the Golden Globes on Sarah Hyland. Perfect, except for the color and the couture pricetag, that is.
Let’s see what we can do–we’re looking for something with a bateau neckline, a dropped waist, and some frothy goodness at the bottom!
CAN’T AFFORD IT
Georges Hobieka Couture, $$$
GET OVER IT
Satin and Tulle Gown (For Her & For Him, $269)
Ksenia’s A-Line Bateau Chapel Appliques Wedding Dress (TBDress, $188)
Knee length satin tulle dress inspired by Audrey Hepburn (Light in the Box, $149)
Side draped sheath/column bateau floor-length chiffon wedding dress (Light in the Box, $127)
Skinny white belt (Amazon, $10.99)
Bateau necklines are definitely on the rarer side–there were exactly two dresses at David’s Bridal with a bateau neckline when I did my search! But if none of these alternatives tickle your fancy, I’d suggest talking with a trusted tailor–I’ll bet they’d be able to come up with something a little more spot-on. I hope this helped!
If YOU have a dress, shoe, accessory, or other wedding accoutrement that you need help getting over, hit us up!
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I have a burning question! My fiancé and I have been engaged for over a year. We are so ready to get married but we just don’t have the financial means right now. So a friend of mine who is ordained said that she would marry us. This is a great option for us due to our lack of finances and our lack of patience. I’ve never heard of this type of wedding until my friend said that she could do it. I’m a little embarrassed that I am so excited to get married but have absolutely no idea about how this process might work. What I do know is that she will be signing papers for us but what I don’t know is with those types of ceremonies is it typical for the couple to exchange vows or to even call it a ceremony or is it simply just signing papers? Please help me.!!!!
Blinded By The Aisle
She’s ordained to perform your ceremony and sign your marriage license as the legal witness to your marriage. Sadly, that’s th best I can explain it. I’m a wedding officiant, too, which makes it even sadder! The rules in every state are different as far as getting your license and how. Here in California, for instance, the couple needs to appear together at their county courthouse in order to get a license. The officiant gives it to sign after the wedding ceremony. Vows are an essential part of it, and they have to include an acknowledgement that the two of you have freely chosen to be married on that day. You can make your vows, and the rest of your ceremony, as simple or as elaborate as you want. But you need to start the legal process first, so google “Marriage license (your state)” to find out how.
We got engaged on New Year’s Eve. When I told people at work last week, everyone was really nice, but they kept asking me if we’d picked a wedding date and venue, yet. I guess it’s a standard question, but I keep thinking that we just got engaged, do we have to start planning the wedding right away? I said this to the last person who asked, and she told me that I should start thinking about it, because all the best places get booked up quickly. I didn’t want to spend forever planning my wedding, my sister took over a year to plan hers and it looked and felt like hell. But, I thought I’d have more than a couple of weeks! Now I’m panicking that I’m not going to find a good place. Do I really have to start looking now?
Rushing Past the Ring
Don’t panic, it’s not useful. Congratulations on your engagement,and welcome to the show. If you do want to get married this year, then, yeah, you should probably start searching for a venue now-ish. You know, at least before the next round of brides joins the pool after Valentine’s Day! I’m kidding, sort of, although it does seem that venues are getting booked up faster every year. That being said, it also depends on your definition of a “good” venue. So, that’s the first thing you and your fiancé should do – figure out what kind of place you want to get married at – indoors, outdoors, ballroom, barn? And, how many people you’re inviting. And, if either of you had your heart set on someplace specific. And when you can actually do this thing – come up with three dates that will work with your schedules.That’s a conversation over dinner.
Don’t panic, plan. If there is a specific venue you like, call them and ask about availability ASAP. Tuesday-Thursday are the best days to reach the right person. You could get lucky and the first place you see is the one you love, but be prepared to let the process take a few weeks. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. And - deep breath – try not to get frustrated. The next “wrong” place brings you that much closer to the right one. Annoying cliche, but still true.
So, who’s “marrying” you? Are you feeling the pressure to get your venue locked down? Got questions of your own? Let me know in the comments below. And, if you would like to find out more about me and my part of Wedding World, go to www.silvercharmevents.com.
See you at the end of the aisle,
It takes the alloying of two metals to create rose gold: gold and copper. When blended together, they make a gorgeous pink hue that’s not only romantic, but also symbolic of the merging of your lives. On-trend for 2014 but also a classic, the blush tones of a rose gold wedding will be warm, inviting, and nothing short of breathtaking. To prevent rose gold overload, try mixing with cream…or for a fun pop of color, mint!
Clockwise from center:
Luella gown, BHLDN
Rosette flats, BHLDN
Essie Penny Talk, Amazon
Infinity Bracelet, Zulily
Arrow through heart necklace, Amazon
Rose gold hair comb, Treasures 570
Hanabi bridal belt, Something Ivory
Vintage morganite and diamond ring, Blue Nile
Rose gold plated wedding band, Amazon
Clockwise from center:
Watters Mahogany in Buff, Weddington Way
Butter London Champers, Amazon
Go for the Rose Gold Flat, ModCloth
Let Love Blossom necklace , ModCloth
Rose gold hair comb, LuluSplendor
Club Rochelier rose gold zip-around clutch, Amazon
Kate Spade Skinny Mini Bow Bangle, Nordstrom
Rose gold wishing tree guestbook, Krystles Weddings
Rose gold champagne burlap and lace bunting cake topper, A Fete Beckons
Rose gold caviar sequin linens, Joe’s Prophouse
Rose gold cake knife and server, The Vintage Wedding
Mr. Watters wedding invitations, Minted
Martha Stewart Rose Quartz craft paint, Amazon
Rose gold salad set, West Elm
DIY Wine bottles painted with Krylon Copper, Amazon
Hey everybody! Long time no write! Life is awesome (but busy) here in newlywed-land! I can’t believe it’s already been four months since Zach and I tied the knot!
A little preview of our wonderful day!
To start off my recaps, I thought I’d update you on how all of our last minute DIY projects turned out! I was pretty stressed about all we had to do in the week before our wedding. It was definitely a lot to do, and the process was not without its hiccups. I’m pretty proud of how everything turned out in the end though!
One of the first things we tackled was our tablecloths! In order to create the exact hues we wanted, we used this handy Rit Dye Color Formula Calculator. The hardest part of the process was just figuring out how much dye we needed to make and calculating the amount of each color to use for a huge bucket of dye. Once we got it figured out though, the dip dyeing was super simple!
Tablecloths in windy action!
Our next big project was a photobooth! My “Pinspiration” was this photo booth:
But with a little ingenuity and use of some already-lying-around wood, this is what Zach built:
Suffice to say, it was a HUGE hit and totally worth all of our (mostly Zach’s) hard work!
Inevitably, there were a few projects that fell by the wayside. We never got around to making an arbor or focal point for our ceremony. Oh well!
Our biggest project was definitely self-catering our food and desserts! Thankfully, we had a lot of help from family and friends, and everything came together beautifully and deliciously in the end. It was definitely a busy week in the kitchen! We actually ended up with too much food! Here’s a little peek at the dessert spread my mom, sister, and I slaved away over:
Would I recommend saving so much DIY for the week before your wedding? Definitely not! Making all this happen and getting along while doing it was not without its challenges! I’m so happy with how everything turned out in the end!
Did you save lots of DIY for the last minute? How did it end up for you?
(Special thanks to our photographer Bright Fizz Photo!)
Hey, BABs! Did you miss me? I was off getting my MRS but it’s good to be back! My first order of business is to find Elise a Claire Pettibone look-a-like for a steal. As we all know our dear Claire likes to hawk her dresses for a pretty penny. But most of us gals are still in a paycheck to paycheck , too much month at the end of the money budgetary situation. Oh, we’ve graduated from Kool-aid and Cup-O-Noodles. But spending several grand on a one-time-use dress is out of our realm of thought for a lot of us.
CAN’T AFFORD IT
Clair Pettibone @ Kleinfeldbridal.com ($4,000.00)
GET OVER IT
Lemandy Half Sleeve Mermaid Lace Wedding Dress ($285.00 at Etsy)
Watters Encore Wedding Dress Style Coriander 3218E ($396.00 at BestBridalPrices.com)
Lace dress inspired by Jim Hjelm JH8211
BridalBlissDesigns Lace Wedding Dress with Sleeves and Keyhole Back ($849.00 at Etsy)
Casablanca Wedding Dress Style 2119 ($1,550.00 at BestBridalPrices.com)
Birdy James “Lyrica” Vintage-inspired Poet Sleeve Chiffon Wedding Dress ($525.00 at Etsy)
Oleg Cassini Satin Wedding Gown with Beaded Pop Over Jacket ($950.00 at David’s Bridal)
Angelina Faccenda Wedding Dress Style 1260 ($1,757.00 at BestBridalPrices.com)
So, there you go, Elise – a plethora of sleeved beauties with a vintage feel. From bateau necklines to sweetheart necklines, long sleeves, to 1/2 and 3/4 sleeves, plus lace galore! I hope one of these gowns tickles your fancy and satisfies you Pettibone cravings. What do you think, BABs? Did I hit or miss for Ms. (soon to be Mrs.) Elise?
Wedding days can be tricky. There you are, all floatin’ on Cloud 9, not a care in the world as you prepare to say “I do” to the love of your life. Your dress fits beautifully, you had no issues getting your hair into the sweeping updo you’ve been eyeballing on Pinterest for ages. You have all your family and friends around you, ready to revel in the magical love surrounding your big day.
And then the reception gets under way. And Uncle George has had a few too many adult beverages from that open bar you threw down on. And he’s getting loud. And boisterous. And he sees your dad’s old college buddy, the one who he never quite hit it off with. A few heated words are exchanged and next thing you know, red-faced and drunk Uncle George is taking a wild swing at the guy.
It’s an age-old wedding day nightmare. But! It’s one that can be assuaged with the simple addition of a low-key security guard. Los Angeles-based guardNOW will provide an unobtrusive guard to ensure no shenanigans or tomfoolery escalate to the point of violence or extreme behavior, and that no unwelcome crazy ex-boyfriends try to crash your big day, so you can set your sights on marrying your true love without the worry of things going awry.