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I have been wondering lately how to balance a demanding career, part-time small business, a child, a fiance, cohabitation, all the hectic chaos of basic adulting and still remain excited about planning a broke-ass wedding. Honestly, for me, its been easier said than done. I find myself so exhausted by the end of the work day, and even more beat by the end of the week. I get two days. Forty-eight hours. Two days to catch up on mountains of laundry, photo editing, vacuuming, etc. On top of that I have to try to spend a few waking hours with my man and my kiddo. I keep wondering, “where in the hell am I going to find the time and the energy to DIY all the things that I need to do to have a wedding??”

I keep hoping that a wedding fairy will show up, wave a wand and … we will get married! Happily ever after, activate! Sunsets and honeymoons, commence! Glitter, beauty, romance and memories will come pouring out of every moment. A fairy tale spun from the flick of magic wand. Its sounds ridiculous, I know. I guess in my exhaustion, delirium has seriously set in. What’s a gal to do when she is literally so tired that she can’t seem to make sure she washed her underwear for the week, much less hot glue, spray paint and plan a day that seems so far away?

My answer, for now, is to relax. To stop putting so much pressure on myself, so much that I literally feel paralyzed. I am lucky, even in all the madness of my day-to-day life, I get to come home to a unicorn of a man, a brilliant 10-year-old girl and — in the midst of all the stress and the mess — I wouldn’t change a single thing.

You see, I may not have a fairy tale life and we may not get a storybook wedding, but in the real world most people don’t. Its the strength of our relationship that makes me the happiest, and the assurance that he and I will make it through all of the crazy that life will most certainly throw at us. I have been through enough to know that is the most important of all.

We will get there, and no matter what happens on the road to our wedding day, we will have our happily ever after. The day doesn’t matter as much as the life, and we are gonna rock this life, together.

  • 4/11

    Hello, everyone!

    It’s been just under six months since my wedding day, and I’m finally back to do a recap. You’ll see my pro pics soon, but I thought I’d share some of the moments captured by friends and family here.

    What a crazy weekend it was! Friends and family started pouring into town Friday morning, and we had our rehearsal dinner that night. We weren’t able to do a rehearsal at our venue, so I just drew a picture and did a quick walk-through (Spoiler alert: everything went fine! Don’t panic if you can’t do a rehearsal, or everyone can’t make it. This stuff isn’t rocket science!).

    I chose to bring a group of my favorites through the haunted house I work at most Octobers. It was a blast! It was such a great opportunity to share something I love with people from out of town, and it was a great way to shake off some stress. Then it was off to bed to get good sleep before the big day.


    I had a bit of trouble sleeping, just because of nerves and adrenaline. I woke up and hit the cooling mask hard!


    But it must have worked, because soon I was ready to be styled.


    The morning was hectic — way more hectic than I planned. Through a series of miscommunications that I haven’t bothered to track, my mom ended up playing babysitter when I had been counting on her to help setup and my other go-to, my stepmom, must not have thought I needed her and went out to sight-see with my dad. Planning fail! Thankfully, a group of people from my stepdad’s family joined my fiance’s mom to get it all done. Phew!

    Real Bride realness here: they didn’t set things up the way I envisioned them, and when I saw what they did, I was a little disappointed. But I’m really proud of myself for recognizing that what they did was just fine too, and ultimately everything would be beautiful. If you think this would cause a meltdown for you, PLAN BETTER THAN I DID. Seriously.



    I felt pretty chill most of the time, once I knew I had people getting everything set. I did start to get a little nervous when we were hidden away in a back room, waiting to go down the aisle. My little sister teased me because my voice was getting a little high and crazy.

    I won’t say everything went perfectly, because that would be a lie (I broke a champagne flute on my first table visit. Yep, that happened.).

    But the Cubs won, the Blackhawks won (so we got our DJ to play both Go Cubs Go and Chelsea Dagger!), our ceremony was beautiful and we got to spend the night partying with so many of our loved ones in one place.

    And look at these faces! That’s what matters, right?


    Thanks for sharing your Real Bride journey with us, Katie!

    Interested in documenting your own wedding planning journey on The Broke-Ass Bride? Click here!

  • 11/27

    BAB approved black friday sales and deals

    Just as we do every year, because we know and appreciate the importance of a good sale but also recognize the very real need to not want to leave your house and deal with crowds, we've put together an exhaustive list of Black Friday deals from our partners. There are huge discounts on wedding-y things and just regular old everyday stuff, too. Stay tuned for…

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    In just over one week, Jersey and I will be cheesing it up in front of our photographer for our engagement shoot. No need to remind us that it's only been ... oh, NINE months since we got engaged and we are just now getting this done. Trust me, we know. Our schedules have been impossible to coordinate, but at this point I'll be happy if…

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    After I got engaged, one of the first things I did was find someone to do pre-marital counseling. At the time, I felt very strongly about it, and after almost completing all of our sessions, I feel even more strongly that all couple should do some sort of pre-marital counseling. Melvin E Via Flickr Creative Commons At first, I was a bit stuck, as I…

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  • 5/19

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    I am admittedly not the craftiest beaver on the block; and it's true, many a craft has beaten my ass to the ground and screamed in my face "Martha Schmartha, yo!" But that doesn't, for some reason probably linked to estrogen and my passion for all things glittered, squelch my lofty craft ambitions and attempts at greatness. Or, more accurately, attempts at not-complete-failure. I used to be…

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    Often times, when we're in the throes of wedding planning, we forget what's on the other side of the tulle, peonies, Champagne and sparklez. We forget that there have been fights, anxiety, uncertainty ... and there will be more of those. Because marriage takes sweat, fortitude, compassion and sometimes fear. As this post from Momastery points out, sometimes we lose the butterflies, and it takes work to…

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    I was over the moon when Jessica emailed me to say that she'd won free wedding photography from Beyond the Ordinary Photography's contest because she'd read about it in our newsletter, because it's always exciting when the work I've done has helped to make a real difference in someone's life. If you're already subscribed to our newsletter, you know that Beyond the Ordinary Photography is…

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  • 2/27

    Your "I dos" are a moment of gravitas, a quiet but weighty culmination of your decision to spend your lives together. In honor of their serious decision to make this commitment, Destry and Lanny decided on a similarly intimate wedding ceremony and reception: 40 invited guests, immediate family and the closest of friends. By this decision, they were able to spend more time with the…

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